Parents are divided into two camps. Some believe that crying is a signal of trouble, which must be identified and eliminated. Others are of the opinion that nothing will happen to the child, will cry and stop. And in general, let him already learn to control his emotions. Responding to every episode of baby crying can lead to the fact that the child will grow up spoiled and “in love”. Who is right?
American researchers made a series of observations and proved that maternal instinct is a sure thing. Mom should not fight with himself, with his desire to take the crying baby in his arms and comfort him. Moreover, it definitely will not lead to negative consequences, just, on the contrary, it will help the baby to develop correctly and harmoniously.
The baby is unable to fight his emotions or to curb them - the child’s self-control develops only at the senior preschool age, then volitional qualities begin to form. If, after shouting, a very small baby falls silent, this does not mean that he realized all the incorrectness of his behavior. This means that he despaired of calling his parents for help.
About six hundred families took part in the study conducted by scientists, and the researchers analyzed data for different periods, including not only children's age, but also adult conscious life. As it turned out, hugs, kisses, affectionate words and other manifestations of tenderness following the cry, it is impossible to spoil the child. On the contrary, children who are not deficient in parental love and affection develop better and behave more calmly even in stressful situations. But if you do not respond to the crying of the child, then this can negatively affect the normal and natural course of his development and formation as a person. In the future, this method of education can lead to uncertainty, increased nervous excitability, low self-esteem.
Is it possible to spoil your attention and care? Not. On the contrary, those children who at one time lacked warmth and love grow up spoiled. Therefore, they always want the most. And toys, and attention, and affection. It’s like they’re trying to get all this for the future.
Scientists emphasized that the behavior of parents and their interaction with the child plays a very important role in development and directly affects it. Moreover, the negative impact extends not only to the psyche, but also to physical health. It has been proven that neglected children grow weaker and more painful, which is associated with the negative effects of the stresses that a child experiences each time he is left alone with his fears, that is, crying alone. The researchers also noted that it is necessary to form the correct behavior from the first months of the baby's life.
Such a baby grows up with a subconscious feeling that nobody needs him. This is a very destructive feeling. That it gradually becomes the cause of problems with behavior in childhood and adolescence, depression, neurosis.
Love your children, and let them know about your love: hug, console, do not stop crying alone!
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- How to quickly calm a newborn baby when he cries, hysteria, is naughty
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