It’s very difficult for a woman to raise a child, - heartburna feeling of complete helplessness when you can’t even put on your own shoes, insomnia and fatigue from the expectation of childbirth ... She wants to somehow escape and talk about something other than childbirth. In order not to upset a pregnant woman, you need to avoid such questions.
1. “Well, have you not yet given birth?”
Every pregnant woman just wants to kill for this question. In the last month of pregnancy, this question becomes already gloomy and unoriginal. Before the birth of a baby, a woman begins to think that she can only bear a child and you cannot pick up other topics for conversation with her.
In social networks, instant messengers or in phone conversations, this question looks simply tactless (in the end, when everything happens, you will find out about it the next day at most!), Then in a personal meeting it becomes simply indecent.
It is better to ask the future mother more distant from childbirth questions, which last film she was interested in, which book she recently read, or just her favorite recipe for the dish. After such questions, your girlfriend will finally relax from the pending question “Well, have you not yet given birth?”
2. “And soon the birth?”
If women knew the number and time! Even if there are ultrasounds and estimated delivery dates, you can give birth at least a week earlier, at least two weeks later. All this waiting time only annoys the expectant mother. And when she hears the question: “And when to give birth?”, She can calmly answer: “Last Thursday!”.
3. “Have you already decided on a name?”
If some under the influence of hormones turn into too frank and talkative, then you will be shown a whole list of children's names. But often, future parents do not want to name the child around. Because of which? Because they came up with a name for the boy, what if there was a girl there? Or parents have chosen a rare beautiful name and want to impress relatives and friends. Or they suggest that it may well be that the long-awaited Seryozha suddenly turns out to be Ilyusha (look, well, he’s spilled Ilyusha!) Or they want to imagine a ready-made child themselves: get acquainted, Magdalena Valerievna! That is why it is better to calm down, and wait a little with questions.
Yes I remember. In the last months of pregnancy, my husband helped me to roll over. It was hard. I agree, the timing of birth is also not predictable. I was at the doctor on the eve of the birth. He told me that I had to go for another whole week. And in the morning I took and gave birth. And where are the exact dates?
More than once I came across the fact that many pregnant women were allegedly enraged by the questions “I have not yet given birth” and “when is the birth”. I don’t know, for some reason I wasn’t enraged at all, although they also asked me quite often ... I think we just need to be calmer. Although, of course, it still depends on the one who asks. Someone from good friends who are sincerely interested, or someone unfamiliar for nothing.
A pregnant woman does not care about anyone at all. And even more so to answer such questions. We do not know what will happen to us in half an hour, what to say for the future? In general, the issue of pregnancy is a family one, closed from strangers. And one must be considerate in such situations.