The closer the date of birth, the more fears the expectant mother has. The experiences associated with future births haunt most women, whether they give birth for the first time or not. The search for information on the Internet, reading blogs, forums and public pages devoted to motherhood does not calm, but on the contrary adds even more reasons for worries: after reading some posts, there is a clear feeling that childbirth is incredibly painful, difficult and difficult. On the other hand, there are many “lucky” mothers who give birth so quickly that they themselves are surprised at this. But, for some reason, it’s hard to believe in such stories. So, what are the fears of expectant mothers before childbirth and how to cope with them?
1. I do not notice that the birth began
It just can't be. The contractions that a woman feels before childbirth are significantly different from training: they differ in frequency, duration and regularity. Real contractions, unlike training ones, do not subside when changing the position of the body and do not stop, for example, in water. For your own peace of mind, you can monitor the frequency of contractions in a special application on the phone, with which it is convenient to fix the start and end time of uterine contractions. And if there is any doubt, you can call a gynecologist or doula.
2. Childbirth will begin earlier or later
In some women, childbirth begins a little earlier than expected, in others a little later. There is nothing to worry about. The normal period for starting labor is considered to be the interval between 37 and 42 weeks of pregnancy. In any case, do not panic - remember that the doctor sets the estimated date of birth very conditionally. A good obstetrician-gynecologist will determine the condition of the baby without problems and will not insist on stimulating the birth if he sees that the woman’s body is not ready yet, although it’s time to give birth by the timing.
3. Do not allow the birth of a husband or girlfriend
The opportunity to attend the birth of the father of the child or other relatives of the future mother should be discussed with the doctor of the hospital in which you plan to give birth. Probably, the maintainer will need to pass basic tests. Most maternity hospitals have no objection to the presence of one attendant at a birth under the health insurance policy. Of course, there are exceptions when doctors are categorically against partner birth, but this is usually a rarity.
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4. Childbirth will begin on the road.
Even if labor activity develops rapidly, at least one or two hours must pass from the moment it begins to the happy reunion of the mother and child. It will be better if you study the process of childbirth in advance in order to have a clear idea of what exactly is happening to you. To play it safe, you can contact your doctor or doula in advance, when the contractions have just begun. In this case, you will be supervised by an experienced specialist who will be able to assist you, even if the birth does begin before arrival at the hospital. If you are not giving birth for the first time and you know that this process is happening rapidly, it is better not to delay the fees.
5. Boorish attitude of doctors
Rudeness in relation to giving birth to a woman is a pretty terrible phenomenon. Unfortunately, there are doctors who allow themselves to behave improperly in relation to women in childbirth. The only way out in this situation is to pre-select a specialist who will lead and accept your birth, call your husband or other close relative for delivery to accompany you.
6. Will stimulate
Doctors are sometimes completely in vain reinsured. They can prescribe stimulation of labor, if they consider that you are moving your term for several days, or just do as you are used to. But oxytocin stimulation or bladder puncture is something you are likely to be able to do without. Stimulation may be required in several cases, among which stand out: weak labor activity (there is no disclosure during contractions), the child is in the pelvic presentation, and the mother is tired of giving birth. In any case, all such nuances must be discussed with the doctor in advance, before concluding the contract.
7. Attempts - it really hurts
The pain threshold is different for everyone. Attempts can pass rather quickly, or they can drag on for long hours. A change in position helps many women in childbirth to relieve pain - you can try to lie on your side, get on all fours, sit in the bathroom filled with warm water or on a fitball, hang on the bar or on your beloved husband - there are plenty of options, the main thing is not to despair, but continue to look for a comfortable position.
8. Will cut
Only a doctor can decide whether to resort to episiotomy in each case. Most often, an incision is still made - this avoids arbitrary breaks. A good way out is to prepare the perineum for childbirth in advance using oils. The oil should be of high quality, it is necessary to rub it into the skin every day. In recent months, when it’s quite difficult to do it yourself, you can turn to your husband for help. And one more practical advice - pushing right and only when necessary (do not push ahead of time). In this case, the probability of breaks is significantly reduced.
9. And suddenly there will be a cesarean
As a rule, expectant mothers give birth with the help of Cesorean for medical reasons. But there are also women who are so afraid of pain that they themselves ask them to "prosaret". And there are women who for a long time are preparing for natural childbirth. They are afraid that if they can’t give birth themselves, they will never become “real” mothers. But situations in which a cesarean section is the only option for a successful outcome of childbirth arise quite often. And this is not at all scary. In addition, now in many maternity hospitals the so-called “sparing caesarean” is practiced, which takes place already during the attempts. Any woman who was able to give birth is a real mother. And no matter how she did it. Any birth is admirable and awe.
10. The entanglement of the umbilical cord
Every expectant mother is worried about her baby throughout her pregnancy. And before childbirth, this anxiety usually intensifies. Most often, expectant mothers are afraid that entwining the umbilical cord around the baby’s neck can cause him serious harm.This is actually not the case. The child does not breathe lungs until his birth. And moving along the birth canal, he receives oxygen using the umbilical cord, even when it is entwined around the neck. When a child is born, doctors will immediately help him free himself. And he will take his very first breath.
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Invited experts: Vladimir Sursyakov, obstetrician-gynecologist, candidate of medical sciences, specialist of the Center for Family Planning and Reproduction, Natalya Tomilina, psychologist, doula.
I gave birth twice. The birth was completely different. In both cases, 41 weeks passed. Childbirth with the first child was called with the help of tablets, the second was treated. The first birth was a bit problematic, I did not listen to the doctors, and the baby went out for a long time, a little more and would be sent to the cop, but nothing happened. She also gave birth to a second child in a natural way, without complications.
My advice to future mothers: in no case should you panic. Listen carefully to doctors during childbirth.
Tune in to a positive wave!)
There was a fear of the rudeness of the doctor. And so it happened. Fights began on Sunday night. As a result, I came to a shift change, and the doctor who came checked me every half hour, and each time she said rudeness and nastiness. It is a pity that I did not remember the name of the doctor.