On the example of the parent chat of the kindergarten group, we consider 4 reasons to hate him.
Wasted time
The teacher writes: “On New Year's Eve, girls are snowflakes, boys are gnomes. There are costumes in the kindergarten. Be sure to have white tights. ” Everything is clear and clear. And it began. - Can we bring our costume? - Not. My boy doesn’t have white tights, can you have cream ones? - Not. Can white socks be used instead of tights? - Not. - Who invented these roles? My daughter wants to be a princess! - It is said that girls are snowflakes.
So how long does it take a teacher to explain a clearly defined task? And still, not everyone will come in white tights.
A short and simple instruction, like a snowball, is surrounded by a thousand questions, it makes no sense to answer them, since each parent will remain unconvinced. What should an educator do? Ignore the countless “What?”, “Where?”, “Can I?”, “When?”, “How?”, Or explain the same thing 100 times ...
Almost any information necessarily becomes an occasion for a billion questions and clarifications arising from thousands of meaningless conversations. These unfortunate snowflakes and gnomes were discussed in our beautiful chat for three (!!!) days.
Stirring up panic
The chairman of the parent committee proposes to discuss how we will treat children at the graduation. Tangerines? - What are you, they are all infected with viruses, cause an allergic reaction, anaphylactic shock will occur in children. - Maybe chocolates? - In no case. They are all overdue, their children will be poisoned. - Let's all get together outdoors, sit on the beach, make barbecue, fry sausages. - Are you crazy? The guys will get sick, catch a cold, and suddenly someone will climb into the lake! It will be burned, lost, mosquitoes bite ...
Anything can become a reason for a panic mood: chickenpox in a neighboring group, a broken crane, snow and thaw, cold and heat. After reading the frightening messages of mother alarmists, you yourself begin to become infected with anxiety, and this will not lead to anything good.
Spamming
In the chat endlessly appear messages that are absolutely not related to the life of the kindergarten and children. Congratulations on all imaginable and unthinkable holidays, emoticons, hearts, gifs and other rubbish. All this nonsense distracts attention from important information, does not allow you to focus on it.
Parents need to agree that they don’t need to write everything that is irrelevant in the chat.But this is unlikely to succeed; spam cannot be extracted from everyday life of those who have nothing to do.
Aggressive attitude
It is hard to imagine how unfriendly parents relate to each other and to other people's children in the chat. - Ivanova again brought her snotty son. Remove him from the kindergarten, he rebuilds ours. - So what, that there is no temperature and they will not give her sick leave. Let it turn out as it wants, but with our children so that it is not around. - Who said that we are saving 150 rubles for gifts for children? Enough for 100. - But what, you can not for 150? Why then do you go to the garden if you have no money?
A negative reaction is caused in parents by everything that, in their opinion, deviates from the norm. They speak contemptuously about those who wears clothes for older children, or those whom parents later pick up from the garden. Social and material inequality, problems in the family that are brought up for general discussion, speech defects of the child, and much more that should not concern outsiders, are actively discussed and condemned.
So are parent chats needed? Definitely difficult to answer. Somehow they used to do without them. How to make sure that you don’t hate parental chatting? And who needs culture education - children or parents? These questions remain open.
