Sometimes mother feels a greater fear of kindergarten than the child himself. On TV and on the Internet there are a lot of horrible stories about kindergartens, and even more terrible pictures are drawn in the mother’s imagination. Without panic, in fact, everything is not as scary as it seems. Let's look at the 10 most popular parental fears of kindergarten.
The child will miss his mother
Of course, at first, the baby will miss his mother, because before he spent all day with her. But it’s not in vain that they came up with an adaptation period in kindergartens: first, the children stay in the kindergarten for an hour, then for two ... The child will quickly understand that he is not parting with you forever, but only for a while, and every day a trip to the kindergarten will be given to him everything is easier and easier.
Psychologists recommend that moms keep calm. Do not show the child how you are worried, do not cry outside the door or wrap circles around the kindergarten. Children perfectly feel the excitement of their parents. Better invent a ritual: words or actions that will be repeated every time you leave your child in the garden. For the baby, this will become a kind of signal: yesterday my mother did the same, and then returned, so this time everything will be exactly the same.
Frequent diseases
In the first year of visiting a kindergarten, a child can get sick 1-2 times a month. And if the disease proceeds without complications, then this is completely normal. And by and large, there’s nothing to worry about: yes, there are a lot of viruses, but after some time the child develops immunity to many of them, and it will be much less likely to hurt. You just have to wait. It's better to survive this in the garden than at school, risking skipping the school curriculum.
The child will be punished
We think that only at home the child is surrounded by love and care, and in the garden an evil teacher will scold him, slap him on the pope and punish him for any prank. But in reality, this is not so. Among educators, “evil ensigns in skirts” are very rare. And all the workers in kindergartens have the appropriate education and are interviewed with the head, who is unlikely to want to lose their position, recruiting a person with an unbalanced psyche.
Be sure to talk with the caregiver. From the very beginning, firmly convey how you should not behave with your child, and she will have to listen to her work.
The child will be force-fed and put to bed
The phrases “You will sit at the table until you all eat” or “Come on to sleep fast” have been familiar to us since childhood. But in our time, educators are increasingly listening to psychologists and have a completely different attitude to the requests of their parents. If your child eats little or does not like a certain product, tell about it, and the educators will not forcibly shove semolina into it. The same thing with sleep: if the child does not sleep during the day, then arrange with the caregiver to be allowed to play while the other children are sleeping. Just be sure to explain to the child that at this time you need to behave as quietly as possible.
And try to adapt in advance to the kindergarten mode. Gradually shift the time of meals and daytime sleep to the same time as in the kindergarten. And do not let the child sleep for a long time on weekends and eat when he pleases.
Eating problems
But what if the child does not want to eat kindergarten food or his stomach can not cope with it? To prevent this - prepare your baby in advance for a change of food.
- Look at the menu on the kindergarten website where you are going to send the child. Or go to the kindergarten in person and ask for a menu. You can also ask about the nutrition of mothers whose children already go to kindergarten.
- Follow the principles of 5 meals a day and set a ban on “biting”. Snacking cookies and apples in the garden will not work, but instead of eating 5 times 2, but in large quantities, it will not work.
- Do not give your child exotic foods, ketchup, mayonnaise or spices. Try to cook simple dishes: vegetable salads, soups, mashed potatoes, omelettes, steamed meat and fish cutlets. If the baby gets used to eating at home like that, then he will also like kindergarten food.
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Angry children in a group
Someone grows active, lively fidgets, and your baby is quiet and shy. And if he is also the only child in the family, then he has no one to share his toys with. But in the collective, the children quickly learn from each other: if once someone takes the toy away and the baby cries, then the next time they will figure out how to take it back.
Of course, it will be good if for the first time the child is faced with such a situation in your presence. Try to walk more often with peers on the grounds, behave calmly and help the baby cope with difficult situations. Having learned to communicate with other children, your child will feel more confident in the kindergarten.
The child will learn bad in the garden
Not all children are well-educated, and not all children have mothers - teachers, and fathers - pianists. The group may include a child who swears with bad words or waving his fists for any reason. And your baby picks up “new knowledge” and wants to put it into practice. What to do in such a situation? Explain to the child that there are bad words that cannot be said, and that any dispute can be resolved peacefully, in words, not with fists. He will certainly listen to you, because the opinion of parents for children has much more weight than the opinion of someone else's boy from the group.
The child will be in unsuitable conditions
Let's say you raise a child in Komarovsky: at home +18 and a humidifier works. Alas, it will most likely be hot in the garden, and other parents will rise up against frequent airing. But do not worry: your child will not become less seasoned, because every night he will return home, in the usual conditions for him.
It happens the other way around: the baby is accustomed to heat, and in the kindergarten it is pretty cool (they have not yet given heating). In this case, just just ask the educators to wear it warmer.
The child will be poorly watched
It seems to you that anything can happen in the garden. They did not keep track of the children for a walk, and one of them escaped. Or the child climbed somewhere and fell, having received a fracture. In newspapers, on television and on the Internet, there are often stories about the negligence of educators. Of course, there are many children in the group - you cannot follow everyone.But terrible stories - one for the whole country, and not for a city or a specific garden. Do you really think that educators are eager to be behind bars? They are no less interested in the safety of children than parents.
Low intellectual development
At home, the child is constantly developing: it builds from kinetic sand, deals with special cards and learns letters and English words with her mother. And what's in the garden? A mountain of toys and an hour of painting in the album. Of course, carers will not be engaged with your child on an individual program. But drawing, modeling from plasticine, singing and playing with other children are also development. It is not just that many children who did not speak at home begin to talk in the kindergarten. For each age group in kindergartens, there are special development programs that are drawn up by experienced methodologists. Educators strictly follow them: conduct developmental classes and prepare holidays with children. But your child can study foreign languages and learn to count in his mind at home, and kindergarten will not become an obstacle to its development.
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