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The kid is growing, and a kindergarten is just around the corner. The question arises before parents: is it possible to leave the child at home? Comfortable atmosphere, mom is always there, no one will offend ... True, there are also disadvantages.

Benefits of Home Parenting

In the 21st century, along with the growth of private kindergartens, the number of children brought up at home is growing. What attracts new parents to home education?

Comfortable setting or natural environment. During the first years of life, the baby grows at home. Parents tailored it to the needs and needs of the little man. Familiar objects, favorite toys, loved ones create coziness and a safe environment. The home environment naturally fits the physiological needs of the preschooler, creating psychological comfort.
Home care. No kindergarten can replace a mother: an atmosphere of love, care and warmth. Even a trifle will not escape her keen eyes. Mom will change clothes if clothes are dirty, clean her ears, wash her face. The toilet, walks and sleep are not scheduled, but at the request of a child. The kid hit - mother regrets, burst into tears - hugs, sad - play. She is always there!
No stress. Every parent knows how hard it is for children the first months of adaptation to kindergarten. Separation from the usual environment and mother - this is a strong stress that negatively affects the mental state of the child. Domestic children are protected from nervous breakdown. They do not feel discomfort, the concept of "adaptation" they are not familiar with.
100% individual approach. This aspect can be considered versatile. This is the educational process, and the mode of the day, and physiological characteristics, and the development of abilities, and an emphasis on the interests and needs of the preschooler. Whatever the professional teacher, it is unrealistic to take into account the interests of 15 to 20 children. Adapting to one “tomboy” is much easier. And given that his mother knows him from the cradle, she intuitively feels the needs and mood of his own man.
Parenting under supervision. When you give your child to kindergarten, there is no guarantee that a discreet and competent teacher will come across. And if you're out of luck? What beliefs, norms and moral values does he lay in the consciousness of a small person? What model of behavior will demonstrate? Given that the basis of personality is formed up to 5-7 years, this is a big responsibility. Parenting in the family is a guarantee that no one will offend the baby, will not break his will and will not injure the child's psyche.Anti-moral charters, unacceptable examples and unworthy acts remain beyond the reach of a preschooler. He adopts exemplary behavior and family values.
No leveling. In kindergarten group education, where children are tailored to the needs of the team. On the one hand, it’s good to take into account the opinions of other people, on the other hand, no. There is a herd feeling - to do like everything. And if not like everyone else, then you interfere with the group. Learning and development at home makes a small person feel his own unique personality with wide capabilities. Show individuality. There is no pressure, and there is no feeling that you are a cog of a certain system. The child is a system, an integral mechanism.
Suitable for everyone. All children with their own character traits and immunity. There are closed, noisy, nimble. There are painful, disturbing. Kindergarten is not suitable for everyone. It is hard for a shy and modest baby to “open up” among active and noisy ones. The nimble ones slow down and adjust to “convenient standards”. Often sick children kindergarten - an extra burden on the immune system.

Parenting at home is a loyal approach and adapting to the characteristics of the character and immune system of a particular child.

Disadvantages of home education

It would seem that he left the preschooler at home and no problems. No need to wake up early, your favorite toys at hand, relatives near, no one will offend. But not everything is so simple: the TV is at home, my mother is busy cooking, washing, cleaning ... And you also need to find time for walks, games and activities with the baby.

Lack of socialization. Kindergarten maximally adapts the preschooler to the social environment. Here is a wide circle of friends, where the baby interacts with various types of characters. He knows what justice, friendship, empathy are. Learning:

find ways to communicate with the group,
play by the rules, compete, negotiate,
take into account the opinions of others,
pick friends according to interests,
try on social roles
defend your opinion.

Home education does not compensate for social adaptation, it significantly narrows the circle of communication of a preschooler. there is risk of growing selfish, not a sociable child, "a black sheep." At school, it may be difficult to communicate with children and teachers.

Unskilled school preparation. Sitting at home, the child does not receive the knowledge and skills that kindergarten children. Some parents think that learning letters and learning to read is sufficient preparation. Not! In the garden, they develop thinking, memory, speech, broaden their horizons, prepare for learning to read, and a hand for writing.

Teachers work according to a special program where it is written what a preschool child of a certain age should know and be able to do. If the mother took the responsibility of raising the baby, then it would be nice for her to familiarize herself with the program of preschool education. Equally important is the teaching methodology. Parents will have to grasp the basics of preschool pedagogy.

The skill of discipline and perseverance is not formed. No matter how smart a child is, if he is not assiduous and not friendly with discipline, he will lag behind in school. The ability to concentrate attention, sit out several classes, restrain and control your behavior - these skills are honed in preschool groups. In the classroom, in collective games, in the daily activities of children.

Insufficient variety of gaming activities. In preschool institutions, children play role-playing and outdoor games, participate in relay races and competitions. Physical culture and thematic holidays, New Year's parties are arranged for them. This is a sea of positive energy. The domestic child is deprived of such opportunities. He can only be content with didactic games with his mother.

The risk of spoiling the baby. Children are better obeyed by strangers than parents. They good manipulators. Know the weaknesses of loved ones. Therefore, raising your kids is harder. There is a high probability of following your own child.

Vagaries, tantrums and scandals ... What tricks do not go, in order to achieve the goal. In order not to succumb to children's provocations, parents need to be competent psychologists and have a solid character.

Not enough time. Mom’s house has a lot to do: run to the store, cook, eat, clean the room, wash and iron clothes. I also want to read and watch TV. Mom is not a robot. Where to find time for games and activities with the baby? What will he do while mom is busy with household chores? How to organize leisure and recreation for a preschooler?

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In kindergarten, this problem is solved simply: the teacher came to work, and except for activities with children, she does not do anything else.

Boring. After 5 - 6 years, children want to communicate with peers. Sitting at home with mom and didactic games are boring. But with whom to communicate? In the afternoon, all the children are in the garden, and in the evening, the parents drive them home. After all, you need to cook to eat, and it would not hurt to relax after work. In the summer, children go south, some to the grandmother in the village. So it turns out that there’s no one to even play with.

How to compensate for the disadvantages of home education. Alternative

Leaving the baby at home means taking responsibility. You need to deal with him. If parents want to prepare their children for school, they will have to learn the basics of pedagogy or use the services of private specialists.
Private or home kindergarten. Partially solves the problem of an individual approach. There are fewer children in such kindergartens, which means attention and screening are better. It is expensive, but there is more demand from it. True, adaptation the baby will still have to go through.
Home education + visit to the development center. On a fee basis. Partially solves the problem of group communication and a qualified approach to development and learning. Unfortunately, spending time in such places is short-term and only a few times a week.
School governess or tutor This is a qualified specialist for working with children at home. Governess will cost more than tutoring. Solves the problem of development, education and preparation of the child for school. The issue of social adaptation will remain.
Home education + kindergarten. In other words, a short day at the kindergarten. You can agree with the leadership of the preschool institution to bring the child for several hours a day, half a day. You will have to pay the full cost. Solves the problem with discipline, preparation for school, communication with peers.

You say:

- At the time of our great-grandmothers and great-grandfathers there were no gardens, no tutors, no development centers. Normal children grew up and raised. - Yes, but at that time they lived in large families and all the community were engaged in raising offspring. A wide circle of communication, family cohesion, the authority of elders was of paramount importance. No one set out to develop a harmonious and versatile personality. Preference was given to physical labor, i.e. training, on the development of the personality and abilities of the child was out of the question.

Now is a different time and other possibilities. The choice is yours, parents! Only you know your kids better than anyone.

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