One of the most difficult moments in the kindergarten period is an early rise. The first day that the baby does not yet know what awaits him, in anticipation of something new and interesting, he is likely to stand up willingly and will not be capricious. But, as a rule, most children do not like to go to kindergarten, so waking up a child is sometimes very difficult. He lies in the bed to the last, is naughty, cries, says he wants to sleep more. For parents, as for children, this is daily stress. Constant persuasion, promises of something in return, screams, threats and scandals will not lead to anything good. The child comes to kindergarten with tears in his eyes, his mother worries for half a day, the mood is spoiled in both. To avoid such situations, listen to the recommendations of the psychologist Larisa Zakharova.
I don't want to go to bed - I don't want to get up
Elena, mother of 5-year-old Nastya
“Sleep for us is a real problem. In the evening, Nastya can’t be forced to go to bed (I don’t want to sleep, and that’s it ...), but in the morning I can’t wake him up. She hides under a blanket, pretends to be asleep, cries, hurts, refuses to get up. The morning begins with tantrums and abuse. ”
Larisa's recommendations
The psycho-emotional state of the child depends on the observance of the daily regimen. Starting from a very young age, an approximate schedule of regimen moments should be established for the baby: sleep and wake hours, hours of eating, walking, playing. As a child grows up, daily changes need to be made. Children under one and a half years sleep twice a day and this is the norm. When they get older, they sleep only once and this is enough for them to have a full active lifestyle. At three or four years old, some babies begin to refuse to sleep during the day (if the child gets up early, it will be better if he sleeps an hour or two in the afternoon and regains strength).Kindergarten children have no such problem, since with all reluctance they will still sleep. If the child is "home", then it can sometimes be difficult for mothers and grandmothers to persuade them to lie down to rest during the day. It is advisable that the child goes to bed during the day at the same time. If daytime sleep is everyday, the baby’s body will get used to it, and the child will not be very resistant. For primary school students, rest after school is also desirable, because during this period the child experiences a strong mental and physical stress.
Falling asleep later affects the children's nervous system badly. Long wakefulness causes overexcitation and overwork, which negatively affects subsequent sleep and waking in the morning. Due to anxious sleep and lack of sleep, the child will be lethargic, moody, and tearful in the morning. Accordingly, she does not want to get up and go to kindergarten. Therefore, it is important to build a specific schedule and adhere to it from day to day. Of course, sometimes you can slightly move away from a clear mode, but this should be the exception rather.
In order for the child to get enough sleep and get up calm and cheerful in the morning, you need to go to bed from 21 to 22 pm. To quickly fall asleep, make sure that there are no groovy active activities, active games before going to bed, protect the child from overexcitation.
If the child does not want to go to bed on time, show firmness and create an “evening” atmosphere. Eliminate possible irritants: dim the lights, turn off the TV, ventilate the room, read a book together before bedtime, or just chat. You can also give your child a relaxing pine bath and light massage ..
Waking up in children is different. Some people like to soak in a warm bed, others immediately get up. It happens that it is difficult for a child to get up immediately, he needs to lie down a bit, to recover, and this is quite natural. If the baby needs time, then wake him 10-15 minutes earlier so that the child has the opportunity to integrate into the rhythm of the day gradually. You can turn on quiet, quiet music, open the door and go to cook breakfast in the kitchen, let the baby listen to the usual morning sounds and gradually wake up.
Some children need bodily contact: hug, caress the baby, pet. You can do a little exercise right in bed: sipping, long breaths - short exhalations and massage of the earlobes.
My baby is a phlegmatic
(Tatyana, mother of 5-year-old Lisa)
“My daughter is terribly sluggish in the morning. In order to get dressed, she needs almost half an hour! But you need to wash and cook clothes, and tidy up the room. Don't eat breakfast in the gardenbut at home breakfast is an incredible problem: Sveta flatly refuses to eat. As a result, we gather with her for more than an hour and are regularly late for the garden. I’m tired of listening to the comments of the educators. ”
Psychologist's recommendations
Sometimes the child got out of bed, but as if he didn’t wake up to the end: he barely moves his legs, yawns, rubs his eyes. Yes, there are some children who obediently get up, wash, but remain lethargic and estranged from reality. In fact, the baby’s body has not yet awakened, it needs some time for this, and because of this, it’s slow, taciturn, gloomy. Some children in this state refuse to eat, which greatly bothers their parents, and especially grandmothers who are trying to shove the “at least a spoon” into your beloved child ... If you are seriously worried, try to lure the child into the kitchen with his favorite tasty dish - maybe this is you will be able to warm up the baby's appetite.
If your efforts were unsuccessful, do not be discouraged: the more chances are that the child will eat at breakfast everything that is offered to him in kindergarten.
Raised in kindergarten, but forgot to wake up 🙂
Considering the peculiarities of your daughter’s temperament, set up your child to prepare clothes together in the evening and pack your bag so that there is no fuss in the morning. Try to wake up your daughter, taking into account the peculiarities of her biological clock, realizing that after sleep she will be lethargic and distracted.Count the time so that you don’t have to endlessly push the baby and shout. Ideally, in the morning, the child should independently dress calmly, put himself in order and go to the kindergarten in a good mood, rather than excited and annoyed.
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Restless fidget
Angelina, mother of 5-year-old Nikita
“My son gets up very early, sometimes even comes to wake me up. As soon as he opens his eyes, he is already on his feet. But getting dressed or washing up quickly is an insurmountable problem, since Nikita is constantly distracted from business. He urgently needs to run to the toys, rage, jump, scream. But when it comes to washing, dressing and having breakfast, the problems begin. In the bathroom he plays with water, at breakfast he builds towers from food (and "gets stuck" in the kitchen for half an hour), dressing, is distracted by toys. And so every morning! Where can you come to kindergarten on time? ”
Psychologist's recommendations
At the age of five, children cannot keep track of time. At this age, the main activity of the baby is a game. The whole process of education in kindergarten is built through the game. And games can help you with this. Buy a bright alarm clock and hourglass in the bath. Arrange competitions. Let the baby wash and brush his teeth faster than the sand ends. Invite your son to get dressed while you make the bed. Let him have time to have breakfast in 15 minutes, etc. ... The desire to win will help the crumbs to focus on one thing. Surely, the result will please you.
It is important to interest the child in the game, saying something like: “I bet you can’t get dressed in 3 minutes?” or “Let's spot which of us will tie the shoelaces faster,” and the result will not be long in coming.
Most children at this age have not yet developed a sense of responsibility. They do not understand why they should not be late for charging and do not feel guilty. Children need to be motivated by offering in return what they love: going to the cinema, riding rides, a new toy. Interest the baby so that he learns to control the time himself and strives not to be late in the mornings. Tonly observe the line, do not allow the child to use the position, and reward only for the cause when the baby really tried.
Restless sleepyhead
Olga, mother of 5-year-old Maxim
“Morning is the hardest part of the day. And all because my son cannot be woken up on time. It begins with the fact that every five minutes for half an hour I go to the nursery, trying to raise Maxim. First, I tickled tenderly at the heels, kissed him - he purrs something in response. I am leaving to prepare breakfast and, having returned, I again find him sleeping. I wake up again, he sleepily answers that he gets up in a minute. I go to set the table, but he continues to sleep. And so it can last indefinitely, until my patience breaks and I force him out of bed! ”
Psychologist's recommendations
The reasons why a child cannot get up in the garden can be different. I didn’t get enough sleep, tired, overworked and simply could not stand up without coercion. In fact, this may lie behind ... - fear, fear of something bad that awaits the baby in kindergarten. It is possible that the baby does not like the teacher or the nanny who swear at him, or quarreled with a friend and does not want to see him. It happens that the child was given a role in the performance at the children's matinee, and he can not overcome his shyness.
If the child told you about his fears, in no case do not scold or ridicule him. So you will not solve the problem, but only exacerbate it. The kid will become even more enclosed in himself, and he will not become less afraid. Quite the contrary. After all, now "parents are not on his side." Listen to the baby, show sympathy for him to feel your support, and then suggest a way out of the situation.
Talk with your son every night, discuss everything that happened to him during the day in kindergarten, ask what he likes and what doesn't. Stay on top of all his affairs, and perhaps you will be able to notice an emerging problem in time and help your baby.Even if the situation seems ridiculous, try to look at it from the side of the child. Once you laugh at the grief of the child, and he will no longer share with you. Be the kid’s friend and chief adviser so that he wants to tell you about his misfortunes.
Remember that the child only takes the first steps into the world of society, and everything that happens around him is new. It would seem a trifle problem, but he sees the child as almost a worldwide catastrophe. The kid still does not know how to cope with difficulties himself, he needs your support and help. Some parents make a mistake by shifting the solution of difficulties to fragile children's shoulders, saying that the son or daughter "must learn to stand up for themselves and overcome difficulties."
If the child could, he would manage without your help! When a baby is really afraid of something and asks for your support, do not remain indifferent to children's experiences, so as not to push the baby away from you and not give rise to complexes in it.
If the child has a difficult relationship with the teacher - be sure to talk with her and try to establish contact. If the baby can’t make contact with the children’s team or quarreled with one of the children, try to resolve the situation with their parents, or contact the teacher too. The teacher monitors the “climate” in the group and can help the child to join the company, make friends with the children.
Make the kindergarten the second home for the baby, and he wakes up with joy in the mornings, knowing that a wonderful day awaits him ahead, full of exciting games and activities surrounded by children and educators.
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Dad will have a child in kindergarten: how fun to wake up children
It is very difficult to wake up the children in the early morning. But kindergarten needs to go! How to make the morning fun and quickly drive away sleep? See how we do it:
How other mothers wake their children
Grammar and punctuation of authors saved
shuny: I'll tell you how we wake up.
For us, going up to the garden is something terrible, usually I raise my son at 6:40, we leave the house at 7:15. We and the cartoons turned on the music too loudly, to no avail. While the son opens his eyes, he does a thousand times, until he watches all the cartoons, he doesn’t wash himself ((((Naturally, at the very last moment, we start running around the apartment and dressing on the go, because we are already late. Mood at zero , begins to freak out, they don’t wear the hat, the wrong socks, the car doesn’t know which one to choose. And it’s clear that he comes to the kindergarten without any mood and sometimes starts to cry !!! ((
But, I read the health advice in the magazine for retirees, I decided to try.
I stroke, shake a little, but it is useless: and then I start asking him questions about what he loves (about cartoons, a computer game, about friends, etc.), today we woke up, or rather jumped from the question - And how are our kittens in the garden, maybe they are hungry and want milk ?, the child ran to his toys with a smile, found a baby mug there, then ran to the kitchen, poured milk into the mug) Brushed his teeth, washed, tried to get dressed himself, got ready in 10 minutes! And what is especially pleasing is that he went to the kindergarten with good cheer and fed the little “pussies”. In the meantime, we reach the garden and learn short poems, I still like the result)
Lastochka7979: And at first the younger one gets up, gets ready, and then the older one. Vagaries were and are, do not always want to go to the garden. I always woke them for 10 minutes.Earlier, taking into account that you should pack slowly, choose a toy, show your self. They got up very well in the garden, and in the summer too, if any holiday is planned, gifts are waiting. Then we stick it in without problems. You get up earlier, so faster evening with a holiday. Every morning I promise them something, if in the morning they don’t get nerves. First we went to visit, then vacuumed our room, then we washed our own dishes, sculpted together, painted the best crafts or drawings for the contest, in short, the main thing - to promise according to the situation worked. Then they brag about who did what to grandmother, grandfather, dad.
Luiza2: I wake with kisses, gentle tickling of the abalone. Then, about a minute later, I take some soft toy of his and it’s like “This bear tickled you” or “This bear walks on your foot”. This technique is surprising “Bear does not walk. He is a toy! ” But the son is slowly moving away from sleep. The next stage are cartoons, and he runs into a large room to watch. And there is no day after day. when it is easily washed, dressed, and when it is necessary to fight.
Natasha: OOOO, and we are 4.4, and we are still late for kindergarten and cannot get up normally !!!! And nothing helped, even the scandals in the morning. And we go to bed at 21.30. But here we get up normally for a week, I just bought Smesharik Krosh and Nyusha and start a scene like them. How they talk to each other, how they talk about her. She reacts and starts to wake up. For a week now, educators have been in mortality - Dasha came to kindergarten on time. I don’t know for how long. Here, sometimes she used her cats as well - “oh, Tisha came to awaken Dasha” and I walk him with her paw. For some time it helped ....
Alexei: Wake up like me. I went into the room:
- Climb….
- I do not want, I also want to sleep
- Get up ...
- I will not
- STAND UP AND RUN CLOTHING !!!
He gets up and runs to dress …………….
There are no special problems with the awakening of the child, probably it depends on the nature and upbringing in general. Yes, she’s a little whimpering that she wants to sleep, but I suggest moving her to another room. There I turn on my favorite cartoons at a sufficient volume so that my daughter does not fall asleep and slip her under the arm of our purring cat. After 10 minutes of sleep in no eye! And I bring up responsibility in her. She knows that it is not good to be late and as soon as I remind you of this, she starts to wash and dress faster.
Somehow apparently we were lucky, but there were no problems with this. And even though I woke up my daughter at 5.30 and led me to the duty group at 6.30. The main thing is still what time you go to bed in the evening. We went to bed at 21.00. All, both parents and the child. And my daughter fell asleep without any problems. We had a ritual - we look at the spokushki, we clean our teeth, pajamas and that's it! The child is mentally prepared, therefore, no tears, no vagaries.
I have three children and putting them to bed is a big problem. We agreed in this way, from 8 o’clock in the evening we watch one cartoon, and then I read one chapter of the book. At 9.30 I turn on the nightlight and the children fall asleep. We get up at 7.30, the children wake up normally.