After a summer vacation with parents and grandmothers, it is difficult for a child to get used to the kindergarten and the new daily routine. The hardest thing will be for children who first part with their parents and go to preschool for the first time. Previously, they spent all time at home surrounded by loved ones, but now they will plunge into a new atmosphere, where strangers will surround them. For the adaptation to be painless for the baby and parents, mothers and fathers must properly prepare their child in kindergarten. Adults should avoid several common mistakes, which are discussed in detail in this article.
Mistake # 1 - Disappearance of Parents
The kindergarten has all the conditions for a baby to feel comfortable, fun and interesting. Here he is surrounded by bright colors, various toys, caring teachers and other children of the same age. Most kids are immediately addicted to the game and forget about the parents with whom they came. Adults are only happy. They see that the baby is doing well, so they are slowly leaving, leaving their child to carers.
The child carelessly plays and frolics, knowing that next is his mother, who will always protect him. If she imperceptibly leaves, the baby, having discovered her absence, will be worried. Imagine a child’s reaction when, remembering his mother, he suddenly starts looking for her and doesn’t find her: alone, in an unfamiliar place, around are strangers - for a child this is a shock. After all, losing a mother is one of the main children's fears.
The sudden "disappearance" of mom or dad often leads to the fact that the baby is even more attached to them, both on the physical and psychological levels. After experiencing stress, the child becomes scared to let his parents away from him for at least one minute. As a result, the need to go to kindergarten turns into a test for the whole family. The kid is simply afraid to stay there. The child cannot be there alone - he will cry, be afraid, constantly ask to go home.
Avoiding problems with going to kindergarten is not difficult - you just need to say goodbye to the baby correctly every morning. Children subtly feel the mood of their parents. If his loved ones are calm, the baby will also be easier. According to psychologists, at first it is better to take the baby to kindergarten to grandmother, older sister or brother. In other words, this should be the person to whom the baby is less attached.In this case, the child will know that mom remains at home, waiting for him, so he can return to her.
Parents must convince the baby that he will not stay in kindergarten forever, that he will be taken away from there and taken home. Saying goodbye, tell the child that you will come after him when the hands of the clock show a certain time. Be punctual and do not make your baby wait. If he stays in the kindergarten longer than the rest of the children, watching how everyone is taken home, this situation will again turn into a lot of stress for the child. Therefore, come on time and do not force the baby to think that you abandoned him.
Mistake # 2 - “Long Stay”
A common misconception of many parents is the belief that it will be easier for a child to get used to a kindergarten if he immediately stays there for a long time. Such handling of a child is tantamount to throwing a person who cannot swim into the water. Most psychologists say: the baby should get used to kindergarten gradually.
First, just bring your child to a kindergarten on the playground where other children play. Let him get acquainted with the new environment, carers, see other kids, understand how they have fun. If everything went well, try leaving the baby in the group for a couple of hours. Gradually, every day, increase the time spent by the child in kindergarten. So adaptation to new conditions will be soft and smooth. At some point, the child will get used to the kindergarten so much that he can be there all day without problems.
Mistake No. 3 - Violation of the daily routine
When the baby begins to go to kindergarten, it is important to carefully monitor the regimen of his day. Now the child will have to get up early in the morning, which means that he must go to bed on time in order to get enough sleep (earlier the baby could go to bed at different times). Now it will be impossible, and therefore it is extremely important to “transfer” the child to that regime of the day which he will have when the baby goes to the garden. At first, many parents do not think about this, they continue to stay up late with the child, play for a long time in the evenings. As a result, the child cannot sleep for a long time in the evening, and in the morning he hardly wakes up. This affects the psyche and emotional state of the baby. He becomes nervous, often begins to cry and be capricious, and ceases to obey his parents.
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Moreover, the baby may develop a false connection between his poor health and the need to go to kindergarten. So the crumbs at a subconscious level forms a negative attitude towards kindergarten.
And vice versa, if in the mornings the child gets up peppy, cheerful, positive-minded, this will positively affect his attitude to kindergarten. Therefore, it is extremely important to establish the correct daily regimen in advance and give the child time to rebuild.
It is easy to change the child’s attitude if he is taught to go to bed on time. In this case, he will wake up peppy, in a good mood, he will have enough energy - this will positively affect his attitude to the kindergarten. Therefore, it is extremely important to establish the correct daily regimen in advance so that the child has time to readjust and get used to it. So you will prevent many difficulties that may arise when it comes time to take the baby to preschool.
Mistake # 4 - Hurry Fees
Many parents feel sorry for waking the baby in the morning. They want him to sleep longer and lift the child out of bed only at the very last moment. Without knowing it, mothers and fathers provoke a stressful situation for the crumbs.
Having woken up literally before leaving the house, the child should in a short time: wash, have breakfast, get dressed.The kid has not finally woken up yet, and his parents are pushing him with the phrases: “Eat faster!”, “What are you messing with there?”, “Stop looking out the window!”. Parents scream at the child, quarrel with each other, and it is difficult for the crumb in such a situation to understand what is happening. Involuntarily, the baby begins to think that all the problems are connected with the kindergarten, because earlier it was calm in the morning at home.
If the child went to bed on time in the evening, he will be able to sleep well. It makes no sense to postpone his awakening to the last moment. Count the time so that it is enough for breakfast in a relaxed atmosphere, for hygiene procedures and fees. Wake up the child in the morning in advance, give him a few minutes to lie in bed and finally wake up. This beginning of the day will be comfortable for the baby. He will be cheerful, cheerful, and the whole family will get rid of stress.
Try to leave home in advance. So the road to kindergarten will turn into a pleasant walk - you can see passers-by, cars, collect autumn leaves, talk a lot and laugh. The child will be able to walk in a rhythm comfortable for himself, and you will not have to scold him for his slowness. You can calmly chat with the baby, give him some advice or guidance. All this will help to set the baby up for positive. He will remain in the kindergarten without any problems and will behave well, knowing that his parents will certainly take him home in the evening.
Of course, mothers and fathers want their children to be comfortable in kindergarten, but they do not always behave correctly. Do not make mistakes that other parents have burned, and your child will easily remain with carers and will be friends with other children.
We have listed the most common mistakes parents make when preparing their child for kindergarten. You need to remember them so as not to discourage the child from wanting to attend kindergarten, make new friends and get to know the world around him.
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I think that the factor of the educators themselves should be added to the article. Our child went to two different kindergartens, and in the first case, he really did not like the teacher himself, and that was why he did not want to go there. But in the second he ran ahead of us. It may also affect the general atmosphere (like / dislike).