5 reasons why parents most often scold orders in kindergartens

Kindergarten has long ceased to be an institution whose main duty was to look after children "from morning till night." Currently, the kindergarten has changed a lot, and continues to improve. Parents can be sure that in the modern kindergarten their children will not only be looked after, but the kids will also receive the necessary medical care, quality nutrition, proper education and aesthetic development. In kindergartens, modern training programs, new equipment are introduced, and increased requirements are imposed on personnel, in accordance with modern conditions.

On the other hand, parents have changed. Most modern parents want to know in great detail how their children spend time in kindergartens, how they are fed, what and how they are taught, how they are brought up. Parents do not hesitate to ask teachers and other kindergarten staff a wide variety of questions, to make all kinds of demands regarding their own children. They can openly express dissatisfaction if they do not understand or dislike something. Let's talk in more detail about 5 situations in kindergartens, which most often cause parents misunderstanding and even annoyance.

Of course, most kindergartens, keeping up with the times and taking into account the high expectations of parents, have greatly changed. Changes for the better have occurred in training programs, and equipping groups, and the selection of educational staff. However, misunderstandings and even conflicts between parents and teachers still arise. The main difficulty is learning to compromise and express your thoughts in a friendly manner. These skills need to be developed, because if we did not like the beauty salon, we can go to another one, and changing the kindergarten is more difficult: the child gets used to the place, to the teachers, he makes friends among his classmates. Let's look at situations that annoy parents most often, and consider together how to smooth sharp corners.

1. The same form for physical education in all children

This is a very common situation. The teacher informs mom or dad that they must bring a sports uniform to the kindergarten for physical education. Moreover - the form must be the same as other children. Many modern parents do not understand such requirements, and consider them remnants of the Soviet era.“Why should my child be dressed like others? - parents begin to be indignant. “What is the point here?”

Meanwhile, if you delve into and understand, there is still a sense in such requirements. Most kindergartens have their own well-established rules and regulations, including with respect to children's clothing. Many professional educators believe that the same form of clothing disciplines children and contributes to the fact that they begin to feel themselves as a single and united team. Uniformity in clothes develops a sense of collectivism in the child, which will be very useful to him in later life.

You should not be indignant if parents are required to do gymnastics to bring white T-shirts and black panties for children, and ballet slippers, special leotards and skirts for girls or leotards for boys for dance classes. Such requirements primarily indicate the qualifications of kindergarten teachers and their professional attitude to their duties. Their requests should not be neglected. It is much more reasonable to accept the rules of the kindergarten in which your baby is located, and thus demonstrate their own respect for both the kindergarten itself and the specialists who raise your child. Looking at you and your behavior, the child will learn the basics of respecting other people.

And even more reasonable in this situation is to help kindergarten employees. Clothing for your baby needs to be selected in size, it should be easy to put on and just as easy to take off. We must try to teach the child to remember in which locker his clothes are, what is intended for physical education, and what is for dancing, and in what sequence should he put it on and take off. All this will help the teacher to cope with their duties easier.

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2. The child was not given the role he wanted at the holiday

Children are very fond of all sorts of holidays. Most kindergartens take into account such a feature of child psychology, and try to arrange all kinds of costumed performances with the distribution of roles among pupils as often as possible. It happens that some kid does not like the role that he was offered. He wanted to be a musketeer in the play, and he was offered the role of a pirate. This saddened the child, he shared his disappointment with his parents, and parents began to make claims to the teachers, why they did not take into account the wishes of their son or daughter.

You need to try to understand why the teacher did just that and gave your baby the role of a pirate, not a musketeer. Preparing for the holiday in kindergarten is a long and rather complicated undertaking: children have to explain a lot and conduct many rehearsals. Usually, performers of this or that role are chosen not only the most talented, but also those who attend kindergarten daily and constantly participate in rehearsals. Otherwise, at the crucial moment, due to the illness of the “musketeer” or “pirate,” the performance may fail.

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In this case, parents should not be annoyed. On the contrary, it would be better to talk with the teacher and explain to him that your child wants to play this particular role, and not some other. If there is such an opportunity, then you need to assign him to the role that he likes best. If this is not possible, then it is necessary to agree with the teacher on how best to calm and comfort the baby. It will be right in the next performance to give the child exactly the role that he will choose.

3. The Parents Committee requires donating money for gifts to kindergarten employees

In many kindergartens, such a public body as the parent committee has long been abolished. Other kindergartens believe that parent committees, on the contrary, are necessary. It is they who usually decide the question of raising money from parents for gifts for teachers and other workers of the kindergarten.This often leads to the fact that many parents become indignant at such an initiative of the parent committee, calling it "requisitions."

In part, such disturbances are justified. Many modern parents believe that they themselves have the right to decide to whom, what, and when to give and whether to give at all. This is a legal parental right. If you do not want to donate money, it is better to tell the parent committee about this in advance - at the beginning of the year. Most likely, after your application you will no longer be pestering with requests to hand over money "for gifts".

4. The teacher complains about your child every day.

It is clear that communication between parents and kindergarten teachers is indispensable. Each kindergarten has developed its own form of such communication. In some kindergartens, these are periodic parental meetings, someone communicates in the old fashioned way, talking directly with the teacher, someone has a communication system in messengers. It often happens that face-to-face conversations between educators and parents irritate parents.

Sometimes a parent is annoyed because the teacher tells too much about everything that the child did during the day, being in the kindergarten. However, she mainly focuses on the fact that the baby dabbled, did not listen to the teacher, ate badly, did not want to sleep, and so on, but says nothing about the baby positive. It happens and vice versa. In the conversation with the teacher, the parent cannot hear a single detailed phrase, her comments are dry and superficial, it is completely impossible to learn from them how the child behaved during the day, how he felt and what he needed.

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People are different. Some of them have the ability to talk about everything logically, in detail and at the same time without focusing on insignificant trifles, while others have no such abilities. It is very important for parents to build relationships with kindergarten employees. If the teacher is excessively talkative and tends to get hung up on the most insignificant misconduct of your child, you can try to change the topic of conversation and ask what good your child has done during this time. If from the teacher, as they say, “you can’t get the words out”, then in this case it is useful to ask her clarifying questions. But if neither of these helps, it makes sense to turn to the kindergarten administration with complaints.

5. The child is on sick leave, and in the kindergarten they demand that the parents inform in three days when the baby will recover and will attend kindergarten

“How do I know when my child will be discharged?” - parents are asking a reasonable question. Indeed, often they may not know this, and for this reason they do not warn the administration of the kindergarten. Of course, you can simply brush aside the administration’s demand and bring the child to kindergarten without any prior notice.

You can prepare a template letter for teachers in this case (“I don’t know what the doctor will tell us today. This time, unfortunately, we don’t have the opportunity to warn you”) and forget about it once and for all.

However, it should be understood that the kindergarten administration is not asking for this for its own curiosity. To make such a request to her parents makes it necessary. Given the number of children in groups, teachers prepare for classes, select visual aids, write plans, etc. The teachers, in turn, knowing how many children will be in the group, order the right amount of food. If you know exactly when exactly your child will recover and will begin to visit the kindergarten again, then you need to notify the administration of the kindergarten.

Of course, no one bothers parents, in case of constant conflicts with the administration of the kindergarten, to change one kindergarten for another. However, one must understand that this is an extreme case. Your child gets used to the kindergarten in which you take him and his teachers, he has friends and interests.How easy it will be for the baby to get used to another place and other people is unknown. It is necessary to avoid misunderstanding and, especially, conflicts between parents and kindergarten workers, to seek compromises and a common language, bearing in mind that the main thing in this situation is the interests of your child.

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