Even just dreaming of a child, most of us imagine how it will be day and night to come up with developmental games from the first day of the baby’s life, always cook surprisingly healthy dishes and arrange them in the form of artworks and much more. But real parenthood, plus household chores, work, is exhausting in such a way that you want to pretend to be dead on Saturday morning, to sleep an extra couple of minutes or to push children to grandmothers with poorly hidden joy on their faces. Everyone has days when the best nanny is TV, and a full dinner with sausages and pasta with ketchup (and what, is ketchup not considered a vegetable?). It is important to recognize the fact that we are living people, we get tired, and sometimes we are lazy, and this is normal! Plus, all this can be used for good.
Separate the grain from the chaff or hammer on what you can really hammer
There are moments in raising children that you should never retreat from. And there is a whole heap of advice, rules, norms that are hung on us in addition to anxious friends, too caring grandmothers or fashion magazines for wealthy housewives. This information should be evaluated soberly, deciding how much all this needs to be done. For example, constant ironing of linen from two sides and disinfection of everything that the baby comes into contact with. Or compliance with the timing of the introduction of complementary foods, the rules of joint sleep or the need for decantation, fashionable cereals on goat's milk or someone else's opinion about your parental abilities. Exhale! Release the situation for a minute and discard what is “too much.” You will see that nothing happened, on the contrary, the child became more independent, even a little happier 🙂
Parrot freedom or let the child do what he is able to do himself
Yes, we are fully responsible for our children. Yes, they are so defenseless against the outside world. But they grow, they learn, the more and the sooner we will allow us to do things accessible to them, the sooner they will learn to live safely and independently. And a little independence is very useful for their development. Let the baby clean his toys, wash the dishes, buy the baby doll in the bathroom or give the hamster food, you can ask him to bring you something from the room, throw the diaper out after sleep, help set the table, try to put on your socks, put the book you’ve read into place .As a rule, small children do it all children with great pleasure, especially if your request sounds softly and calmly, and not like the order of Sergeant Hartman. By the way, many methods of progressive developmental education are based on this.
Important! If you decide to remake something for the child, make it so that he does not see. Do not injure his tender nature.
Useful! For especially curious friends and relatives, say that this is a trendy technique ala montessoriso that you are not accused of exploiting child labor or your laziness.
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Friendship is different or allow the child to interact with other children on the playgrounds
Scientists have proven that even if the baby is unable to speak, it interacts well with other children. Such a joint game or parallel (when everyone plays their own, but close by) is very useful for development. There is observation of each other, socialization, plus the kids develop their imagination, inventing games for one, sometimes playing with an imaginary partner. Even if children are involved in a conflict (sharing toys, territory, swings), it’s worth interfering only when your help is definitely needed or your child does not understand how to solve the problem.
Do not rush to give the offspring new knowledge every second, you will have time to repeat the colors and properties of objects for the hundredth time, and now you are too lazy, sit for 5 minutes on a bench, drink coffee from a paper cup and eat twix ...
Progress for good or buy something that will make your life easier (and don't be ashamed of it!)
If someone came up with something to make our life easier, do not give up these benefits of civilization. Do not heroically wash the diapers with your hands, laundry soap, because mom did it. Automatic washing machine, disposable diapers and wet wipes are created for you and me. And mother didn’t use them just because they hadn’t been invented yet.
Do not have time to cook - a crock-pot to help you! Tired of fighting with a child, forcing to wear orthopedic bots with laces, sometimes slip on rubber crocuses or comfortable slippers with Velcro. Do not worry, among adults there are very few who do not know how to tie shoelaces, and your treasure will learn.
No strength bending down to run after the crumbs that only learned to walk? A leash for parents will allow you to keep your child close and will not prevent him from being independent. Tired of walking with a nimble baby - buy him a tolokar, let him develop leg muscles and coordination. Tired of carrying a child in his arms, but in a stroller he no longer wants to - buy kangarooHe will save your hands.
In general, everything has already been invented and done before us, now for almost everything there is a convenient solution. - take and use! And shame is inappropriate here. Not taking advantage of the benefits of civilization is at least unreasonable, otherwise, why is progress needed?
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It’s great to follow the rules, of course. But sometimes this is not necessary. Sometimes my baby took out all the dishes from the cupboard and tapped it loudly. And mother, as they say, was resting a little at that time. Sometimes children need to be given more freedom of action. I do not understand parents who forbid everything.
Let the stones fly at me now, but sometimes I give the child a tablet. No, there are not a dozen super games there. There are puzzles, learning letters and numbers, and more about animals. I give 20-30 minutes ... This is a happy time when I have time to drink coffee, put myself in order and even relax a little.
The main thing is not to get involved and not give your child this kaku-byak often)))) (a tablet is not a very useful thing for a child).
I am happy to leave children with my grandmother for the weekend and I am not ashamed of this. But how else to devote at least a little time to yourself and go to the salon, to the store or just to meet a friend? And we spend very little time together with my husband. I consider myself a good mom, but I am also a young woman. And my children are much better off seeing a beautiful and happy mother than tired and nervous)