12 signs of a bad mom

Being a parent is a difficult task, and even the most experienced mothers do not always cope with it, making a lot of common mistakes.

Scold the baby for the truth. If the child found strength in himself and admitted to a bad deed, which he did, but instead of the expected understanding and support, he received a censure from his parents.
Punish in the presence of strangers. It is not only about strangers, but also about close relatives. If you scold the child before their eyes, this negatively affects his self-esteem.
Constantly reproach the child. Requests to remove toys, go to bed, help around the house are certainly needed, because the baby should have its own responsibilities. But these requirements are best alternated with praise and affectionate words: the child should feel that they love him.
Keep away from what is happening. If a child does his best to attract attention and does everything for it, sometimes he doesn’t even do very good things (whims, tantrums, fights with peers at the playground), and the mother at this time is busy with her affairs and only occasionally yells at the baby . This makes the child feel unnecessary.
Compare the child with others. For example, to say that the girlfriend’s son is an excellent student, helps around the house, and is engaged in a music school. It is important to remember that each baby is individual, he has his own characteristics of character, and comparison in this case is inappropriate. The child will consider that he is worse than others, he will have a wrong idea of his own significance.
Lack of praise. Affectionate words and mother's approval are very important for the baby. To get them, he tries, makes efforts and achieves achievements. And for each age they are different: for a young child - the first word or a pyramid assembled from cubes, for a teenager - good school performance. If the mother is indifferent, the child understands that he tried in vain.
Lack of emotion. When a mother constantly demands to restrain her emotions (not to express excessive joy, anger, resentment), the child has the opinion that he has no right to them.
Do not learn in practice. Of course, it is much easier to require a child to dress or wash the dishes on his own than to show and explain to a child how to do it.
Do not show your own example. A small child copies the behavior of parents, not only good qualities, but also bad ones. Therefore, before demanding good behavior from a child, for example, hard work, honesty, perseverance, mother needs to think about what example she sets for him.
Lack of choice. Even the smallest child needs freedom, of course, it should not be global, but manifest in small things. For example, you can offer the baby to choose clothes for going for a walk, or choose on which platform he will walk with his mother.
Buy off gifts. Of course you need to pamper your child, but in moderation. And if you replace intimacy with your mom with gifts and expensive things, the baby will feel lonely.
Lack of independence. If a mother does everything, even the most basic things for a child, he will grow up helpless and insecure in his own abilities. After all, responsibility and independence are qualities that need to be raised in a child from childhood.

Have you noticed such mistakes in yourself?

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