Constant doubts
Since the birth of a child, fears and doubts have overcome me. All the time, it seemed to me that I was doing something wrong: I didn’t feed, put on, put to bed, and carry out hygiene procedures. But a year passed and it turns out that all doubts were in vain: the baby is healthy, well developed, active and cheerful.
Output: no need to doubt your actions, experience is a matter of time, everything will work out over time.
Attempts to breastfeed
Following the advice of the pediatrician, I did my best to feed the baby with breast milk. But I didn’t have much milk, no matter how I tried to put my daughter to my chest, she didn’t get enough, she quickly woke up and cried. Milk never came, although I tried to eat fatty foods (like nuts) and drink plenty of fluids (We also read: how to enhance lactation) After suffering a month, I switched to feeding with milk formula. And the thing went: the girl ate well, slept soundly, weight gain was normal.
Output: if there is little milk and it is not oily, watery, you need to switch to the mixture, and not torment yourself and the baby.
Unconditional adherence to advice
As soon as the baby was born, numerous relatives began to advise one thing or the other. Sometimes their advice contradicted each other. Some said: take the child in your arms and rock him, others - teach your baby to sleep in the cribDo not come if he is naughty; some said: wet diapers should be changed immediately, others - do not change the diaper until the baby cries.
Output: the recommendations of experienced mothers and grandmothers need to be listened to, but it is not necessary to follow them unconditionally.
Bathe a newborn in boiled water
After the appearance of a little daughter in the house, I did not have a minute of free time. To bathe her in the evening, following the advice of a pediatrician, in the morning I boiled a huge pot of water, cooled it, and before bathing I prepared another portion of boiling water. Then in the bath it was necessary to mix this water with cooled, add a slightly pink solution of potassium permanganate and only then immerse the baby there. As a result, our kitchen has become a steam room. Moreover, it took time to iron the girl’s laundry with a hot iron.
Output: no need to do extra work.
Wrap up a child, be afraid of fresh air
Once my girl caught a cold, she had a runny nose, she had difficulty breathing, and she had problems with feeding, since it was difficult for her to suck from a bottle. Since then, I began to be afraid of the cold, it always seemed to me that we had a draft, I began to close all the windows. At night I wrapped my daughter in a warm blanket. But in the stuffy room she opened up endlessly and woke up, because of the dry air her nose was drying up, crusts appeared. I remembered: “If a child has a warm nose, it means that my child has not froze,” and I stopped wrapping the baby.
Output: it is necessary to ventilate the room before going to bed, a warmly dressed child sleeps better in a cool room.
Complexes about extra pounds
After childbirth and attempts to breastfeed I got much better: added more than 10 kg. Looking at my wedding photos, where I looked like a reed, I tried to lose at least a little, but the weight did not decrease. I decided to do fitness on the Internet, but the case ended in severe pain in the back and lower abdomen. The doctor warned me that after a difficult birth you should not give the body heavy physical exertion, you need to skip 9-12 months. And so a year passed, and the weight gradually returned to normal.
Output: no need to complex due to extra pounds, they will go away with time.
Do not think about yourself
All my time was devoted to the family. The former stylish haircut turned into ugly regrowing hair, I had already forgotten about manicure, in a year I took down three bathrobes and two pairs of slippers from clothes. It seemed to me that the husband should appreciate my efforts, but once noticed that he was losing interest in me as a woman.
Output: a woman in any conditions should remain a woman, you do not need to forget about yourself.
Take it all on yourself
I was so tired with the child that sometimes I cried alone with myself. No matter how I tried, there was still no order in the house: there were toys lying around, here was an abandoned bottle, and on a chair was a mountain of laundered clothes. At night I got up to the child, I could carry the child in her arms for several hours so that he would not wake her husband: he should go to work tomorrow.
Output: it is necessary to distribute responsibilities around the house and often seek help; dad can take a walk with the child, wash the dishes, hang the laundry. You can offer to watch on nights at a time.
Search for information on the Internet
When I still had a free minute, I immediately went to the Internet and immersed herself in reading forums, tips, pages of mothers, etc. The phone “ate” all the free minutes, it was impossible to rest.
Conclusion: less call the phone, more rest.
Do not accept guests
When my husband said that his mother or our friends would come tomorrow, I was always angry, because by their arrival you need to clean the apartment, cook something unusual, and then deal with them. But then I realized: guests are a good discharge. None of them will pay attention to the mess, and they will always help to cook food, clean dishes too.
Output: guests need to be received; nor will they cheer up and add variety to the monotonous order of daily child care.
I recently discovered that I was expecting a baby again. I will try to avoid those mistakes that were made with the first. I would be glad if my revelations help other young mothers.
