When a newborn baby appears in the family, the personal life of a man and woman, of course, does not end, but the nature of intimate relationships changes. Quite often not for the better. The embarrassing situations described below are evidence of this.
- In the morning, you agreed with your husband that the coming evening is exclusively for the two of you, because you are less likely than before the birth of the baby to pay attention to each other in bed. Beautiful underwear is ready, you are waiting. However, the baby does not want to fall asleep. Finally you laid him down, lay down for a minute next to the baby ... The husband is waiting, and you are already sleeping soundly. In a peignoir, with makeup. Well then ...
- In the midst of caresses, either you or your husband hit a crumb toy in the dark. Nothing wrong! If only the toy was not talking. Now you have to continue to the song from the cartoon.
- Everything goes perfectly, you enjoy each other, but the children are children: the baby wakes up, cries and needs attention to himself. Well, what can you do here? Smile, after 20 years you will be able to “take revenge” by returning from the cottage early.
- Your husband is bored, he finally holds you in his arms, kissing him gently, but why are your thoughts so far? You forgot to buy diapers and now you are not sure if they will be enough for tomorrow, whether you will have to run to the store, because the child will have no one to leave. Switch now from baby to husband! Your mother raised you without diapers!
- You just started a wonderful prelude to love, but why it’s somehow uncomfortable. Milk is dripping from the chest quite inappropriately. Breastfeeding is wonderful, but at the moment it’s not at all a feeding process ...
- You are very afraid of becoming pregnant, because too little time has passed since the birth of the baby. That is why we are ready to use all possible contraceptives immediately. However, one is enough - a maximum of two. Talk to your gynecologist.
- You are struggling to restrain yourself not to tell your husband: “And here is our daddy! We were waiting for our sweet daddy! ”
- You always thought: “The longer, the better, of course!” And now suddenly the opinion has changed. Yes, just so sorry to waste time now, which can be used for sleep.
- You perfectly understand that only hormones are to blame, but you cannot cope with yourself. Sexual intercourse with her husband evokes in memory the joke that did not come to my head at the right time: “Again these ridiculous gestures?”
- For some reason, it hurts so much, as if this is happening to you for the first time. You frantically recall that you read on the Internet about additional lubrication for comfortable sexual intercourse after childbirth. Maybe to buy several packages at once, so that is definitely enough?
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Family psychology: problems in sex after childbirth
With the advent of a newborn, life changes dramatically, I can say for myself. You look at many things differently. What previously attracted is now in doubt. This is the whole point that only a mother can comprehend. Almost all the time spent on a child: feeding, playing with him, looking after. Therefore, you simply forget about the elementary.
With the birth of a child, the sexual life of a woman changes, because only we are overcome by everyday thoughts and fears. Often there is no particular interest in proximity due to elementary household affairs and fatigue.
I think that it is not so critical when there is a baby, you can still find the opportunity to be with your beloved husband. In extreme cases, there are grandmothers, and if everything is completely bad, you can turn to the nanny for a couple of hours.