In fact, making this decision is not so difficult, it is enough to make out a few important points that will help parents in their choice:
1. Mom’s physical fitness.
The very first thing that needs to be taken apart is whether the mother is ready to physically accept the next pregnancy, will she not harm her and the future baby? Especially this issue concerns women undergoing cesarean section, women after 40 years old or undergoing recent childbirth.
If the mother has pathologies, then it is worth listening to the doctor and waiting for the full restoration of the reproductive system.
2. Mom’s psychological readiness.
If physically mom is ready to give birth, now you need to understand whether she is ready for this emotionally? To do this, answer these questions:
- Do I want a second child?
- Does my husband want more children?
- Will I love my children equally? (Of course you will)
- Am I ready to take care of myself as a child for the next 9 months?
- Am I ready to sacrifice my figure?
- Am I ready to feel severe birth pain again?
- Am I ready for the next sleepless nights and screams?
- Am I ready to devote myself to two children?
- Am I ready to spend the next 3 years in complete life?
- Am I ready to fight double diseases? After all, if 1 child is sick, then probably the second will get sick.
If the answers to the questions were more positive, then you are ready to replenish in the family and it remains to understand whether your family can pull this important event financially.
3. The material well-being of parents.
You already understood that you definitely want to have a baby and you can, but one “BUT” bites - money. Then immediately a bunch of advisers appear in the face of friends, parents: “Where are you second? You and one are cramped in the apartment ”,“ And what are you going to feed the second with? ”,“ This is not for you to get a kitten! ”.
But the truth is, how can a young family get along in a four-room Khrushchev four? Salaries are barely enough for food, the head of the family will hardly pull to provide four mouths. Hopeless situation? Of course not! Whining on the subject of "No money" can be infinite. Even millionaires “cry” that they have little and no money. You just need to learn how to spend money wisely, plan a family budget. Mom can start working at home at the computer without looking up from children. And the main plus is maternal capital. Thanks to him, parents will be able to expand their living space.
A crib, baby things, too, do not have to be bought initially - all this is probably left from the first-born.
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Benefits with a second child:
- It will be great for your children to grow together (if the difference is no more than 5 years).
- Again on maternity leave! This can also be considered a plus.
- Maternal capital.
- Benefits for rent and kindergarten.
- Again the first “Agu”, a naive loving look, the first steps ...
What you should not take into account:
- Tips from relatives, friends, etc. To give birth and bring up YOU, and not friends, so listen only to your husband.
- The presence of pets. The fact that the baby will be allergic to wool is 5%.
- Children can’t get along together. Well, this is utter nonsense. All get along, even cats with dogs.
Previously, in Soviet times, all people did not live well, but all had two children — that was the norm. So, if both of you really wanted a second child, go ahead boldly and don’t listen to anyone!
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