For young mothers, with the advent of smartphones, life has become more diverse and interesting: you can sit on the Internet, make online purchases, play online games or just chat with friends in social networks. networks, and even make money online. But all this only makes it difficult to look after the child. Sometimes caring for him completely fades into the background. Let's see: is this becoming a problem?
How young mothers lose themselves
Often there is such a picture: mom has a whole list of tasks that are performed simultaneously. Meat burns on the stove, messages from a girlfriend constantly appear in a telephone messenger, a laptop is open, where another article is written. At this time, you also need to keep an eye on the baby who wants attention.
We highlight the advantages that employment among mothers has. Firstly, the woman continues to feel independent and useful in the decree - she works, she keeps up with the housework, and the child grows before her eyes. Secondly, additional funds appear due to online freelancer earnings. And finally, there is an opportunity to escape from everyday problems.
But often the boundaries are erased. Attention is scattered, which is unacceptable when you need to look after the crumbs. Too much time is spent on the Internet: instead, one could play or take a walk with the child. It becomes difficult to switch from one task to another, because attention is scattered, mom is more tired and in this state it is easy to make mistakes. Well, if the problem is limited to runaway soup or a mistake in the text. And if the child drops something on his head? Engaged in several things at once, mom as a result does not really do anything, does not give herself completely.
What happens to the baby?
The child feels calm and protected only when adults are next to him. That is why he constantly requires attention. But just being around is not enough. What will the baby be like if he constantly watches how mom smiles while looking at the phone, and not at him? The child feels it, begins to worry. And adults only begin to annoy the cry and screams of the baby. And here you need to understand the following: it is not he who distracts you, but you pay him insufficient attention. That is the problem.
If the child sees that the mother’s attention is focused on the smartphone or laptop, the baby is left alone with his loneliness and his fears - he is upset, because the baby sees that the mother somehow loves an incomprehensible object, a piece of plastic, and not him begins to be simply jealous. Therefore, try to allocate time correctly. Set a time frame when you fully give yourself to the baby and when doing personal things. Go online while the baby is sleeping.In general, review your need to freeze on the Internet. After all, often time is wasted on completely useless things.
About online stores
One of the types of Internet addiction is shopping and a constant selection of goods. in online stores, their comparison. Sometimes it’s useful, moms buy baby items at better prices. The Internet constantly gives us a choice: which diapers to buy? In which online store? There’s a discount, but there bonuses come to the card. To get more profitable and more correct, we begin to go deeper, search, spend our time. But the process of choosing and comparing things is so addictive that all other things are fading into the background. There is a separation from reality, this can be said about absolutely every person. We are all affected by the world wide web. And also - a permanent presence in online stores - this is work, in addition, because of which anxiety and doubt can accumulate. Anxiety and fear that there is not enough money, and the experience that we cannot afford to buy something better.
I want more and more!
It's not for nothing that the Internet has been nicknamed the “web” - indeed, it is addictive and confusing at lightning speed. Having bought one product in the store, we want more and more ... For ourselves and for the child. After all, everything is at hand: just click and the job is done! After ordering cheap diapers, we are thinking about buying beautiful toys. As a result, parents are gradually starting to buy a lot of excess. We get euphoria from our online purchases, and even when the goods arrive, the feeling of joy is not the same, anyway we are eager for online shopping. There we feel good and calm, break away from reality. We are addicted. We cannot come off, we will never get enough of it. How to handle this?
Pull yourself together. Ask yourself: “Do I really need this?”, Consult with relatives. Think about how useful your pastime on the Internet is. Look at the baby: does he feel discomfort, does he want to play or just relax with the dearest person.
The most important thing: you need not to try to break out of virtual reality more often, but rarely turn to it. Then the world will become brighter, you and your child will be great and fun!
We also read: How to get out of the Internet and stop being annoyed by children?
Watch the video, mom is on the Internet and does not pay attention to the child:
Give the child a lot of attention, at an early age he develops character and psyche. The main thing - do not miss the moment. You can’t even imagine how many psychological problems a child may have that has developed in childhood.