It happens that parents' expectations regarding life with a baby are very different from reality, and what a child does is not always convenient for adults. Bad habits in children up to a year are mainly associated with the basic needs of the baby, so they are bad for parents only, and for the child it is an opportunity to get what he needs. Some bad habits have a physiological background. These habits are easier and faster to clean up than psychological ones.
If we talk about habits caused by psychological reasons, then you need to be patient and get some ideas about the characteristics of infancy. At this stage, many “uncomfortable” phenomena are more than normal, so parents should not panic and blame themselves for the fact that they have formed bad habits in the child.
Let's try to figure out which bad habits in children up to a year usually have to deal with, which ones and how to eradicate.
Incorrect capture of mother's breast
This is not a rare problem, the consequences of which are tangible for both mom and baby. Mom threatens to capture the wrong breast cracks in the nipples and severe pain when feeding, baby - insufficient amount of milk, because sucking effectively in this situation does not work and the wrong bite in the future.
With proper grip, both sponges of the baby should be turned outward, as if not only the nipple, but also the halo should be in the mouth. If the baby does not take the breast correctly, you do not need to endure pain and inconvenience. Gently take away the chest and help the baby in the grip. How to apply to the chest.
Sometimes the problem of improper grip is associated with the mother's anatomical features - the so-called flat nipples. In this case, the best option is to use special breast pads.
Finger sucking
Sucking a finger or even a whole cam is shrouded in a huge number of different myths and horror stories. In fact, behind this undesirable behavior is insufficient satisfaction of the sucking reflex of the crumbs or a sense of anxiety. You can learn about why a baby can pull a pen in his mouth, and how to help him get rid of this ugly manner from the article https://kid.htgetrid.com/en/razvitie-rebenka-do-goda/kak-otuchit-rebenka-sosat-paltsyi.html.
Sucking or biting lips, cheeks, tongue
Parents of babies may notice that the child sucks or bites his lips, tongue, inner surface of the cheeks.This habit is not aesthetic and can lead to microtrauma in the mouth, so the child needs help to get rid of it, eliminating the cause.
Most often in this way insufficient satisfaction of the sucking reflex is manifested. If you notice this habit in your baby, try to offer him breasts more often. The dummy here is not a very successful solution to the problem, because for the child it is still a foreign object, which also does not fully cover the need for sucking. However, for artisans, a dummy would be a better option than lips or a tongue.
Interest in the genitals
The habit of a child to touch his genitals is always alarming for adults. This habit is not associated with any physical pleasure; there is no erotic connotation in it. This phenomenon is exclusively psychological, indicating anxiety and increased anxiety.
How to wean a child to touch genitals? The very first thing is not to scold the baby for this and not to focus attention. Gently switch to other actions, remove the handles "from there" and reduce anxiety. The latter can be done by increasing the frequency of physical contact: more often hugging, picking up, talking friendly with the baby. You can note in which situations the child begins to fumble for the genitals, think what is common in these situations and what, presumably, is a stress factor. After such an analysis, you can be proactive, and, for example, take the child in your arms even before he begins to worry and show concern.
Infant anxiety: hair pulling, rocking in the crib and banging his head on the pillow
Quite serious signs of high anxiety is tugging at the hair and rocking in the crib. In children living in the family, such manifestations are very rare. Typically, these manifestations are characteristic of a state of emotional deprivation, that is, isolation from a loving adult, which refuseniks suffer.
The "cure" of this problem is to establish contact with an adult who can provide attention and love.
Falling asleep only after motion sickness
Laying the baby in some families turns into a real test for parents, because the little one refuses to fall asleep and goes to sleep only after motion sickness.
Until a certain age, children really do not know how to fall asleep themselves. This is due to the specifics of the development of the nervous system. The reason is that the processes of excitation and inhibition of the nervous system in the crumbs are not yet regulated, and the child simply cannot, by the effort of the will, relax, close his eyes and fall asleep. He definitely needs an external calming and relaxing factor.
Wiggling - these are just the feelings that accompanied the crumbs before entering the big world, that is how the fetus is walking and any changes in the position of the future mother's body. Motion sickness for a child is a way to calm down and relax.
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Is it necessary to suppress this habit and let the child scream until he, exhausted by a cry, falls asleep himself? The decision is yours, dear parents. Yes, in this way you can develop the habit of falling asleep on your own, but if you focus on the interests of the child, it is better not to create a feeling of lack of mother's love and attention in him.
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Sleep with parents
There is no single answer to the question of shared sleep. Someone argues that the toddler should immediately get used to his place and sleep in his crib, so being in the parent's bed is a real bad habit. Someone considers a joint dream as the only opportunity to get enough sleep with the whole family, because in the crib the baby now and then opens his eyes and screams.
From a psychological point of view, a joint sleep is a very useful thing, because in such proximity children feel safe, they get breasts at the first cry.
In the matter of shared sleep, it is important to find a compromise between the needs of the child, his safety and the comfort of the parents. If you are ready to provide your baby with a safe sleep in the parent's bed (for example, by blocking it with a special pillow), and even then both mom and dad get enough sleep and do not suffer from the presence of crumbs in an adult bed - a joint dream for you. If for some reason this is not convenient - it is better to leave the baby for the night in its own crib or shift it there already asleep.
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I want to handle!
Horror stories on the topic of handwriting in parental circles are also just mass. If you do not refuse a baby from birth to be in her mother’s arms from birth, growing up, the child will really be calmer to behave only in his arms. This is especially clear in children of the first year of life, since such crumbs are not yet capable of full-fledged independent movement in space.
For most modern mothers, the “manual” period becomes a problem, because a woman literally feels attached to her child. And if you do not delve into the meaning of the “manual” period, then you can really perceive it as a bad habit and a consequence of spoiling. However, the evolutionary child is supposed to be in the arms of the mother, so it is better to allow the baby to enjoy it in a timely manner.
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Perhaps we called the main bad habits that parents of babies have to meet. As you can see, these habits are only conditional, since they do not come from corruption or spoilage. Behind these habits are the normal, healthy needs of the child or some physiological characteristics of the mother and baby.
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Some of these habits can be corrected in two ways, some things require more time, patience and mental strength. Moms and dads should definitely be very observant, attentive to the baby’s behavior, note any changes and new details in order to react and remove the habit in the bud as soon as possible.
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