To give birth to herself or through a cesarean (natural birth vs cesarean) - the experience of a mother with many children

At some point, every girl has a desire to become a mother. Someone thinks about a child as early as 20 years old, someone - only 30 or even later. However, when looking at the baby, most women begin to smile gently. Motherhood is great happiness. To be a mother is a gift of God!

On the other hand, many people are already afraid of the very word "childbirth." This is a natural process, but it involves very severe pain and torment. Therefore, even those women who are in awe of the firstborn are afraid to give birth on their own. It is not surprising that most pregnant women carefully study ways that will allow them to alleviate their suffering in the hospital without harming the baby. Some begin to meditate, others calm down to classical music, others try to relax under a warm shower. The most sensitive young ladies are ready to use radical methods, just to save themselves from pain. They seriously think about epidural anesthesia or even a caesarean section. Everyone has their own story and everyone has the right to be!

Each of us has its own pain threshold and its own pregnancy story. I do not blame anyone, I do not try to impose my opinion. I’ll just tell you how I gave birth to my three children. Perhaps someone will find my experience useful. I just want to tell you - without persuading anyone to anything.

Natural birth

I went through three births, after which three wonderful children were born. I gave birth both myself and through a cesarean section, so I have something to compare with. For both options, I see my advantages and disadvantages. Although, it will be more accurate to call them more or less pleasant features.

I will start with natural childbirth. This phrase can cause a smirk. Some will think: “What can be called a natural process that brings so much pain?” This is a rhetorical question, so I will not answer it. Just describe in more detail how my physiological birth took place.

I will not dissemble. The sensations that I experienced are far from those that can be experienced during chocolate wrapping in the SPA salon. To put it mildly, childbirth is an unpleasant procedure. However, it is difficult to describe the pain a woman feels when a long-awaited baby is born. Personally, she did not seem unbearable to me. Rather, she was tiring and exhausting.

During the natural birth, it seemed to me that the muscles in the lower abdomen literally burst out from the inside, but at the same time they stretched out. It was a aching pain that gave back to the lower back. It seemed to me that I became a member of the crash test and they test me for strength. About a minute I was simultaneously stretched and squeezed, twisted and inflated with such force, as if someone were checking the limits of the possibilities laid down by nature.

I had to endure pain, gaining full lungs of air and counting seconds.It seemed to me that time slowed down at times. The seconds dragged on so slowly that thoughts arose: “That's it, I can’t take it anymore!” However, just at such moments, she began to let go a little. This brought great relief, it seemed that finally there was an opportunity to relax and mentally prepare for the next "race". Only you will think like that - and after a second everything starts over again, a whole bunch of unpleasant sensations is revealed.

Periodically during childbirth nausea develops. I was shocked by such a discovery, because I didn’t eat anything. However, this is not all. Suddenly, a terrible chill swept through me. And the windows in the delivery room were tightly closed, and I put on my socks, but it got so cold that I didn’t get a tooth on my tooth. In general, only you understand that you won’t be able to relax, as a new wave rolls in - all the muscles below the abdomen are tensed as if they are preparing to burst.

At this time, all you can do is say to yourself: “Breathe! The main thing is to breathe correctly! ” Your lungs also begin to work to the limit, pumping all the oxygen that is in the hospital. Do you remember how you were taught to count: “Inhale - one, two, three. Exhale - one, two, three. Breathe again ... ” This simple math slightly distracts from the pain - and then again, relief comes again. "Thank God! Finally, the break I've been waiting for! ”, You think. However, this is another illusion. A doctor comes up, listens to a small heart, checks the disclosure and reports that the baby will be born very soon - it remains only 40 minutes to suffer, the largest - an hour. This “good” news darkens in my eyes. For a doctor, 40 minutes is nothing, because childbirth has been going on for several hours. Only the expectant mother thinks that her strength is left for a maximum of 15 minutes. You are in shock, and the doctor is mocking you, telling you to move, and not just lie - you see, this will end faster.

In approximately this way, babies are born. Just need to make one correction: the whole process of natural childbirth from contractions to the direct birth of a child takes from a couple of hours to a day - every woman has its own way. It is not surprising that pregnant women often lose their sleep and dream of a powerful anesthesia or cesarean section.

Cesarean section

The operation, of course, looks more attractive than the physiological birth: they give you an injection, and then wait calmly for yourself. Instead of suffering from painful struggles for several hours, you can “read the magazine”, “listen to your favorite music”. Appointment of a cesarean section for medical reasons and does look like a gift from heaven. You got anesthesia, went to bed - and then just sleep or watch the doctors circling over you and discussing the weather, cat food, children's performance at school or a hard shift. You wonder how it’s possible, tryndet about some garbage about you, because now you have such a crucial moment ?! This is also possible, because modern methods of anesthesia even allow you to be conscious during surgery.

And while you are passionate about your thoughts and anxieties, the treasured ten to fifteen minutes pass, and here you hear the first cry of your crumbs ... and you can’t believe that it is all over. Now they put a baby to your chest and ask what his name will be. Doctors say that they only need 20 minutes to stitch, and then they will take you to the intensive care unit. It's over, and you didn't even feel anything. That's lovely! Everything is behind!

To be honest, when they injected me with anesthesia, I prayed that everything would work out by some miracle, and the need for surgery would disappear. I thought: “I already gave birth myself! Maybe wait a bit - and I can do it again? ”

In just 10 minutes, my baby loudly expressed his dissatisfaction with the fact that he was swaddled for the first time in his life. I could not understand whether this is all happening in reality or it was just a dream. After all, for the whole 9 months I carried the baby under my chest, felt how he was kicking, sharing food and air with him.To experience all this and not even give birth? The child lies next to me - a healthy and handsome boy ... He is my son, only I did not give birth! NOT! SHE DID NOT GIVE BIRTH TO THE CHILD! We did not do this together, and it seemed to me a betrayal.

Of course, caesarean section was not a tragedy. They operated on me well and quickly, I completely trusted the doctor. I felt fine, and the baby was born healthy. It was just sad at heart, because I didn’t plan a cesarean section at all. The doctor then understood my condition and encouraged me: "If you want another baby, you can give birth to it yourself."

Why is it better to give birth to yourself?

Over time, I began to remember less and less about how I had cesarean. The main thing is that all my children are with me. They are healthy and cheerful. My husband and I wanted three children and completed our program to the maximum. Only now I am haunted by the idea of ​​giving birth again. It is to give birth - to survive the whole process.

I’m not a masochist, I don’t feel pleasure from pain and I fully felt all the “charms” of natural childbirth. I just remember very well the moment when they put a baby to your breast just born. He is so warm, gentle, dear. You kiss him and you understand that at last you are not in pain - on the contrary, you are very well and calm. Sleepless nights, diapers, infant illnesses, wonders of lactation and colic festivals - all this will come later. Now you just enjoy unity with your baby, feel his timid breathing and weak instinctive movements in an attempt to get closer to his chest, and my eyes are focused on his wet head, the size of a little more than a fist. At this moment, you literally fall into euphoria, thank the whole world for such a miracle.

Nothing compares to what a woman experiences on a maternity table in the first minutes after the birth of a child. From happiness, tears come to my eyes, like a divine dew of happiness, you want to kiss a tiny face, hug, love this baby. What words are there! It is such a strong feeling that they instantly erase all the memories of pain. Torment is replaced by bliss and bursting with happiness.

Dear girls, I personally believe that these few magic minutes are worth giving birth on your own and enduring the torment that nature has prepared for us. Of course, we are the weaker sex. However, each of us should temporarily become courageous and strong if a new life depends on it.

Author: Marina Mostepan, mother of three