10 major mistakes when trying to get pregnant
Some get pregnant at the first attempt, while others try for years, but everything turns out to be unsuccessful. What is the reason?
If you want to increase your chances of having a baby, do not make common mistakes that we will tell you about.
1. Too often worry
Stress is one of the main factors that reduce the likelihood of conception. If a woman’s body increases the level of cortisol, a stress hormone, this can negatively affect her fertility. American scientists observed 400 couples trying to become parents, and came to the following conclusions: if a woman has a high level of alpha-amylase (stress indicator), her chances of getting pregnant are reduced by 29% compared with those who have this indicator within normal limits. Experts believe that under the influence of chronic stress, the production of hormones that ensure a stable cycle is reduced.
If you cannot get pregnant, try to relax and let go of the situation for a while. Try meditation, yoga - it has asanas that improve the flow of blood to the pelvis and thus stimulate the synthesis of necessary hormones. This has a positive effect on the ability to conceive. Stop planning your pregnancy all the time. Instead, just remind yourself daily that this is a miracle that happens very often.
2. Do not do too much or too little
A large number of couples are convinced that the chances of conceiving a baby will increase significantly if you do not have sex for a week, "saving" sperm. It's a delusion. After a week of abstinence, sperm cells become much less mobile. Therefore, doctors advise having sex daily or every other day for a week before ovulation and on the day when it occurs. More frequent intimacy can negatively affect the ability of sperm to fertilize, while a rarer one creates a risk of missing the conception window.
It is scientifically proven that regular sex life helps to stabilize the cycle: the male body secretes hormones that affect the female reproductive system. Therefore, with regular sex, more estrogen is produced.
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3. Use dubious techniques
Although we live in the 21st century, many women continue to douche, believing in the miracles of this method.It seems that this is the logic: from infections, malnutrition, bad habits, the environment in the vagina becomes acidic, and the sperm in it dies and cannot fertilize the egg. Therefore, many begin to introduce a weak soda solution, so that the environment becomes alkaline and favorable for conception.
Doctors do not support douching: along with harmful microorganisms, soda destroys useful ones, disrupting the natural pH of the vagina. There is still a risk of exacerbation of inflammatory processes, because of which damage, cervical erosion can develop, which can often be detected only by examination with a gynecologist.
4. Erroneous calculations
The most common mistake is the incorrect determination of the day of ovulation. In most women, it occurs in the middle of the cycle, but this applies to women with a 28-32-day cycle. Ovulation, as a rule, happens 14 days before the onset of menstruation. Therefore, if you have a 24-day cycle, then ovulation will occur on day 10. If your cycle is noticeably longer, say, 42 days, then we can assume that you ovulate less often, not in each cycle. In this case, as well as if you have an irregular cycle (in this case, ovulation can be both on day 6 and 21), or you do not remember when the last time was monthly, forget these rules. Here you can not do without a test to determine ovulation, with which you can easily find out when you have a conception window.
Often women make another mistake - they do not count the beginning of the cycle from the first day of menstruation. The day of the onset of menstruation is the one on which blood begins to be released, not the day before and not the day after that. It is very important to know the exact day of the beginning of the cycle, because for a successful conception, the count goes literally on the clock.
5. Blame yourself
In vain attempts to get pregnant usually suggest infertility on the part of women. Only in reality both partners have the same degree of responsibility. According to statistics, in 40% of cases men are infertile, in another 40% - women, and in the remaining 20%, unsuccessful attempts to get pregnant are caused by compatibility problems of partners. Therefore, do not panic ahead of time: an average healthy couple needs from 6 months to 1 year to conceive.
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6. Trying to fit everything on schedule
You can’t accurately plan your pregnancy. Although usually healthy couples need from 6 months to a year to conceive, sometimes the first six months go by a woman only to normalize the cycle, which went astray due to birth control. Until the cycle becomes regular, there will be no ovulation. So, if after 6 months the menstrual cycle has not returned to normal or you are not sure that you are ovulating, be sure to see a gynecologist.
7. Hurry
For many, the statement that after a woman has sex for about 20 minutes needs to lie on her back with raised buttocks causes sarcasm. But, according to doctors, this increases the chances of getting pregnant by 80%. So do not neglect this method.
8. Ignore unrest for good reason.
Consulting a doctor is not paranoia. There are situations when you should not ignore what bothers you, because we are talking not only about you, but also about the future baby. It is possible that your cycle has always been irregular, and this is precisely the reason that you can’t get pregnant. Or maybe you have some kind of illness, and you want to make sure that this does not threaten the health of the future baby.
If you are worried about something or are not sure about something, go see a specialist. He will explain to you what surprises and difficulties you may encounter. If then difficulties arise when trying to get pregnant, you will know what to do.
9. Can't give up bad habits
At least one year before the planned pregnancy should give up bad habits. Doctors around the world warn: the first trimester is the most important stage in the formation of the body of the future baby. Even a meager dose of alcohol can cause him irreparable harm.
Some women drink alcohol in the early stages of pregnancy, not realizing their interesting situation. So, if you are not protected, either give up alcohol and cigarettes, or reduce their use to a minimum.
We also read: Smoking during pregnancy - how it affects the baby and what harm it can cause
10. Do not monitor your partner’s health
What harms your fertility can negatively affect a man’s ability to conceive. Tobacco, alcohol, unhealthy nutrition impair quality and reduce sperm count. According to research, smoking and alcohol damage sperm at the level of chromosomes. Given that a complete sperm renewal takes 3 months, at least for this period your partner should give up bad habits. Keep his diet balanced, including selenium, vitamins C and E - they are very beneficial for men's health.
The effect of temperature on a man’s ability to conceive has not been proven. American experts believe that it is not essential for the work of male genital organs. However, some doctors do not recommend taking a hot bath often, even if a man has no problems with sperm quality.
The results of a number of studies indicate that the temperature of the scrotum rises when a person holds a laptop for a long time on his lap. Other experts found that radiation from mobile phones can reduce a man’s ability to conceive, especially if the gadget is in the pocket of your trousers. Nevertheless, a clear relationship between heat and male fertility has not been established.
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In my opinion, the biggest mistake is fixation on the goal, one way or another it puts us in stress, and in this state it is almost impossible to get pregnant, it is important to relax and enjoy the process, so you need to be able to let go of the situation, not rush and push everything under a certain schedule, life makes its own adjustments, you can’t plan everything unfortunately.
I consider the most terrible mistake to be the one that is not indicated above. This is the previous - especially the first - abortion. This can lead to infertility or subsequent miscarriages. All other errors can be fixed.
It also did not work for a long time to get pregnant, but then my husband and I simply decided that it was still not the time and stopped worrying about it. We have an active sex life, regular sex, we just stopped thinking about it all the time and began to enjoy it, it all happened, now our daughter is growing, we are happy. Do not rush, everything will come to you.
My wife and I when we made the first child and were guided by the calendar and used special poses and passed a bunch of tests. I don’t know which of these helped.When they planned their second child, they simply stopped protecting themselves and drinking alcohol. It turned out no worse!
Now, after some time, I understand ... I was too nervous, before that I smoked for about 7 years, it was hard to quit. Here are my mistakes. But my husband had health problems, effex tribulus drank, ran to doctors. I am very glad that everything is experienced and everything worked out.
I wanted to ask for advice about actert-andro. I now have his girlfriend’s husband drinking, they really want a second one, but they can’t do it themselves. the doctor insists that this is now one of the best means - to increase the activity of sperm and spermograms after it are excellent. We are planning a baby. I want to drink before pregnancy
Are you stupid people? What ovulation, what a common mistake in the details, used to get pregnant in the USSR without knowing any contraceptive methods, women did not calculate any ovulation at that time, no one could guess how long the cycle, alcohol never affected, cigarettes, everyone lived like usual, no vitamins , there were no female consultations at that time, never, my mother gave birth to me, ultrasound was rare at that time. And now you are reading fictitious myths that a woman cannot become pregnant, and you have not tried to contact your partners or turn to your health, how much we spend on ourselves, cripple ourselves in sports, take antibiotics, it is not known how we breathe, what foods we eat. And no posture and lying in the form of a birch will not help brighten up the release of sperm into the morning. I have been reading this nonsense for 15 years, but there are fools in the world who believe in this garbage. Pregnancy began to be considered in our time as some kind of disease, and before women could not even think about these hypotheses. You still say that you can’t get pregnant, because there are a lot of animals at home or your mother-in-law is stupidly bothering you. A delusional article for oligophrenics who still believe in Pushkin's tales. I’m 30 years old, I can’t get pregnant, but why, because it’s not your partner psychologically, dear girls read psychology and think why you can’t conceive, everything is described in red and white, the psychological attitude towards men nowadays affects reproductive function of the female body, from there you can’t conceive, because the man you live with is NOT YOUR MAN, the root of the problem lies in the head.
For the whole year we have not been able to conceive a child, everything was fine with the doctor, but when asked why then it doesn’t work, try better and everything will work out, we don’t know what to do, hands drop, what to do
Thank.
Very useful article! When we did not succeed in becoming pregnant (it was with us, because it was also important for my husband), we went to the doctors. They passed the necessary tests and the husband turned out to have poor sperm motility. The doctor said to abandon the bath for a while, advised Spermaplant and generally lead a healthy lifestyle, an integrated approach, in short. After a couple of months, the test had two strips)
I don’t know why I couldn’t get pregnant, maybe I got stuck, maybe something else. After a year of unsuccessful attempts, she decided to properly prepare for pregnancy and conception and went to the doctor. All she advised me to do was drink the non-hormonal ovariamine and relax more. She became pregnant after two courses on the first attempt, because she prepared correctly.