What a child should not parents
Many people with children expect to receive a reward in the future for their educational efforts. But even the ancients said that the child is a guest - he needs to be fed, taught and released. Many modern psychologists support this postulate, arguing that you should not rely on the fact that children will live according to your rules and live up to expectations. Each parent should remember 5 points of the rules, which should not be required of their child.
Compliance
There are certain norms and standards by which a child is evaluated as soon as he is born. Having issued his first cry, the baby should: comply with the norms of weight and height, eat and sleep for hours, at a certain age to get used to the pot, learn how to wipe the ass, start talking and so on ...
Of course, there are certain standards and norms by which to assess the level of development of a child, but it is worth remembering that even the smallest person is an individual who has his own characteristics.
And do not panic if the baby somewhere does not reach the "norms".
Frankness with parents
Any person has secrets, something very personal, belonging only to him. If a child is small, this does not mean that he should share all thoughts, experiences and secrets with his parents. Adults should take this for granted and respect the personality of the child. For a son or daughter to want to share the details of his life, you need to show an example of his own frankness. Children are very fond of listening to their parents' stories about life and always feel false.
Even the most loving and open child will not share everything with everyone. Take it for granted and do not meddle in personal things for a grown-up child.
Respect a person only because he is older
From time immemorial, it was believed that old age itself deserves respect, that is, if a person has lived longer, he is smarter, better, more correct and older ones must be listened to and respected. This is only partially true, as often parents do nothing to earn this respect. They should become a whole world for the baby, a support, and in fact, sometimes they only bring pain and suffering.
Want your child to respect you? Respect him!
Live up to expectations
Even when the child has not yet been born, future fathers and mothers imagine how they will make him an athlete, musician, politician or manager. Psychologists have found that almost 80% of people see in children exclusively as a continuation of themselves, educating them as their continuation and expecting success in those areas where they themselves have not reached.
It must be remembered that the child is a separate person, with his own character, desires, inclinations and aspirations. If he does not want to become an engineer, as his parents dreamed, and has a penchant for music or drawing, his plans cannot be crushed, pressure on him.
Let his talents be revealed, perhaps an artist will grow up in the family of “physicists”, or the future great financier or programmer lives next to you in a bohemian apartment. Relax and let the personality grow.
Be comfortable with others
Your child should not grow comfortable for others. The concept of "behave yourself" try to remove from the vocabulary and thoughts. If a child quits music school or refuses to perform on the line-up, this does not mean that he is bad. Always be on the side of your child in order to remain his support and support all his life, a person whom he fully trusts, even if everything is against him.
