Not all parents develop friendships even with their children. And there are a lot of situations when you need to get along with someone else's child. To find a common language with the kids of friends, colleagues or neighbors will help 9 interesting life hacks.
1. Smile
Smile is a very effective tool. It helps to defuse the situation and win over to itself. Therefore, it is important to start acquaintance with the baby with a smile and get a smile in return. Do not be afraid to seem funny! Kids love it when they flirt with them. You can cover your face with your hands, and through your fingers as if peeping at the baby. And with a very young child, play ku-ku, opening and covering your face with your hands.
2. Keep up
No need to talk to a child with high. It’s better to kneel down so that your eyes are on the same level as the baby’s eyes. Then the child will feel on equal terms with you, and the discomfort will subside.
3. Talk like an adult
Do not lisp and do not distort words, do not use phrases such as "go to the bay", "goofies fly outside the window!" You will quickly make friends with a child if you communicate with him as an adult. Speak in normal language, without frivolities and tricks.
4. Control emotions
It is difficult to win over a child if your emotions differ with him. Confidence can be raised by becoming a mirror image of the baby’s mood. Do not laugh when the child is crying, and do not remain indifferent if he tells something funny and laughs.
5. Focus on the subject
With a shy child, the general topic of conversation will not be easy to find. It’s possible to stir up the baby if you draw his attention. Ask what the child has in the backpack. Ask if he is thirsty. Show an interesting toy or picture.
6. Praise
The first thing adults usually tell children is their appearance. And this praise is the biggest mistake: “What pink cheeks you have!”, “You are already so big. Above me! ”,“ And are your eyes blue? ” No need to flatter the baby's tall growth, his curls or rosy cheeks. It looks pretentious and can embarrass shy children. But you can compliment a beautiful hairpin or new sneakers. This technique will help melt the ice in communication.
7. Talk about interesting things for your child.
It is unlikely that the child will be attracted to the topic of finance, politics or cooking. Talk with your baby about what's interesting to him. Ask about success in the sports section, about camp relaxation, or how he cares for a pet. A simple guiding question “Why?” Will help to continue the conversation.
8. Play by the rules
Try to create a favorable atmosphere for communication with the baby. In his usual surroundings, he will be able to relax and feel comfortable.Do not set your own rules! If you play board games, let the child decide in which order to roll the dice and make the move.
9. Make a present
Children love gifts. Even if it is candy, colored pencils or another pleasant trifle, the baby will be pleased. A small present will help you build relationships with your child for the future.
Now you know some secrets of communicating with other people's children. Take them into service - and make sure that making contact with any child is not difficult at all!
I have one more piece of advice from personal experience. It is better for a foreign adult to not be the first to impose on a child who is clearly shy and quiet. You need to wait until he gets used to it, comes up and turns.
I really hope that my son and I will always have such a relationship - I am not only his mother, but also a friend. When he was still young: they listened to his opinion and conducted conversations on an equal footing, while discussing family issues, they listened to his opinion. If she accidentally raised her voice, she always apologized later.
Gifts, I think you should not go too far, especially for other people's children. Even if it will be your nephew. With a candy and a toy, it’s much easier to have a child with you than to really entrain him with something in order to build communication in the future.
With children you need to be as honest as possible. The child will immediately feel a fake smile. Gifts are a bribe. Personally, I am interested in games, little secrets and adventures. Fantasy and curiosity in children are endless.