Be the initiator of negotiations
Set a good example for a child from childhood: discuss issues that concern you. Do not gloss over the problems, but initiate negotiations. Talking with parents on a variety of issues will teach the baby to listen to themselves, to realize the importance of their opinions and desires. The child must be sure that you can discuss problems that concern him.
Answer all incoming questions
Let these questions roll in hundreds every day, each of them should receive a worthy answer. Discuss each situation with the child, explain the phenomena of interest to him. You do not know how the bulb burns and why do the trees need leaves? Find the answer with your baby. Explain why you do this and not otherwise. Be interested in the opinion of the child. Subsequently, he will copy your actions, trust you and understand that you are open to dialogue. Otherwise, the child will ignore you, as you once did.
Find an example to follow
Not only from parents do children take an example. Close relatives, friends of parents and an older comrade from kindergarten can become an authority. Often heroes of favorite cartoons and books become role models. Use such allies wisely. Watch a cartoon with your child where the characters talk to and listen to their parents. For example, in the series “Walking with Dad” in the animated series “Three Cats”, the main characters, the little kittens Korzhik, Karamelka and Kompot, understand how important it is to take into account the opinion of the pope: his experience helps to avoid many problems. Watch the episode with the baby and discuss the behavior of the kittens. The next time you have to find a compromise again, your favorite characters will help your child make the right decision.
Develop the tactics that you will adhere to
Are you going to a park, a store or a movie with your child? Discuss in advance the rules of behavior in public places: do not scream, do not run away from your parents, do not talk with strangers, do not be capricious. If the baby suddenly forgets one of the rules, it’s enough to calmly recall the arrangements that he promised to fulfill.
Compromise sometimes
If you understand that you can give in to a child, do it. After all, the baby must understand that you are ready to listen to him and take into account his wishes. Next time, he will make concessions.
Of course, there are situations that are not subject to discussion.You can agree to go to the cinema, not to the park, or allow a few more times to slide down the hill. But it is strictly forbidden to cross the road to red, insert scissors into a power outlet, throw garbage past a bin or talk to strangers. The child must understand that there is no other way out in these situations and cannot be.
Crisis Situation: Postpone Negotiations
The baby is hysterical, what should I do? Forget about the negotiations for a while. If the tantrum occurred in a public place, go out with the child in the air or move to a less crowded place. Try to calm him down, calmly say simple, short phrases: “look at me”, “breathe deeply”. Offer a drink of water. The main thing is not to succumb to tantrums and not to be nervous yourself. When the child calms down, find out why there was a tantrum. Perhaps the child is tired or nervous. Discuss the behavior and explain that the next time you should immediately tell mom and dad about your tiredness or worries. Parents will always understand and hear. After all, you are one family, which means you must be a mountain for each other.
