The childhood of each of us is inextricably linked with fairy tales. Perhaps, when you think about fairy tales, the image of that beloved book even appears in your head, the appearance of which you so eagerly waited for in the hands of your mother. Since ancient times, people conveyed their life experiences through fairy tales, and so far we are trying to instill the best qualities in children using magical stories. Each parent is responsible for choosing a fairy tale. After all, the baby should be lured by history, and in no case should frighten.
However, the kids do not always understand the moral of the tale, they are more often interested in the storyline, magic and adventure. In this case, personalized tales come to the rescue. What is it, and why are they needed, we will understand further.
Differences from ordinary tales
A personalized fairy tale differs from the usual one in that the story is about a specific child. The kid immediately recognizes himself in a fairy tale, because the main character has the same qualities, lives in the same house with his mother, father, sister and cat. Friends of the baby and his relatives participate in the tale. In such tales, the real name of the child and his relatives can be used, or maybe fictitious, but with all the qualities and situations that characterize the life of a child.
Personalized stories will replace you with long teachings that children try to avoid in every way. The kid likes to feel like a hero, protector and winner. He always knows that everything will be fine, a solution will be found, and he will remain at his best.
Similar tales invented by the famous psychologist Shalva Amonashvili appeared back in 1982. Even then, the scientist proved that with the help of fairy tales it is possible to correct the development, perception of the child, participate in the formation of his personality. And to what, no matter how this is done by bona fide parents.
When to read?
If we consider the most suitable age for personalized fairy tales, this is the time when your child is aware of himself, his actions, their consequences, understands the difference between “good” and “bad”, “good” and “evil”. Each baby has this moment at a different time, so you yourself will determine when your baby can correctly perceive magical stories with your own participation.
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Characters are also selected depending on age. So, for a kid under 3 years old, in addition to himself, toys, cartoon characters, animals can become the heroes of stories. Children older than 5 years will listen with interest about fairies, wizards, princes, princesses, heroes. At primary school age, fairy tales can already be domestic, in the form of a parable, fairy tales will also remain popular.
It is preferable to choose a time for reading before bedtime, when the child can focus on the story, and then draw its conclusions. Depending on the baby’s temperament, you can slightly shift the reading time if the child reacts very violently to fairy tales.
Therapy and Psychocorrection
Personalized fairy tales can be used as a correction of a child’s behavior, to overcome his fears and phobias. Instead of long educational speeches, the baby can listen to a fairy tale in which a hero very similar to himself faces the same problematic situation and leaves it with honor. A capricious kid can be told about what the child’s vagaries from a fairy tale led to, and how good it all became when he recovered. Make a shy and reserved child a hero, a knight, let him defeat evil, be aware of strength and courage. A fairy tale can help the baby find a way out of situations in which he himself cannot understand the reality.
Of course, the ending of the tale should always be good, do not leave the fairy-tale hero alone, with losses, without friends.
There are also fairy tales for diagnosis, when a child asks a specialist to compose a fairy tale for himself, on its basis the problem qualities of the baby, his fears, inclinations are revealed.
Composing a fairy tale
Even if you do not have the talent for writing, coming up with a personalized tale is not so difficult. The main thing is to adhere to a certain "fabulous" plan.
So start with the standard "lived once", describe the character (we examined above what they can be in accordance with the age of the child), place of residence, character, habits of the main characters. How did they meet.
What happened. Describe the situation (choose one that worries you and the baby, connect it with the character trait that you want to change in the baby).
Effects. Come up with the result of the actions of the hero and his friends. It can be negative in the case of bad behavior or negative character traits.
How did it end. Describe how the characters coped with the problem, the situation. Remember that characters must find a way out, come to a logical result.
Output. Help the kid realize the moral of the story, gently hint what the hero did wrong, and where he did the right thing.
If you don’t have any imagination or just time to come up with personalized fairy tales, use the offers of sites offering such services. Give preference to those where stories are written by people with psychological education, this will help you use magical stories for the benefit of the baby.
Today there is the possibility of publishing a whole book with personalized fairy tales, where even in the illustrations your child and family members will be. Pleasure is not cheap, but how much joy your baby and you will receive.
If you know how to work in graphic editors, then you can make the book yourself to your liking and in accordance with your requirements. It remains only to print it.
Who else but you, parents, is responsible for your child, for how he will perceive this world, how it will be in it. Use every opportunity to help your baby in this, especially if you can read and listen to your favorite fairy tales with pleasure.
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