The most common fear in infants and children of the first years of life is the fear of loud, unpleasant, unfamiliar sounds. These include suddenly starting to buzz and rattle vacuum cleaners, coffee grinders, blenders and other household appliances, which are becoming bigger every day.
We, it seems, are no longer small: a year and 8 months. I don’t know where this panic fear came from and how to deal with it! If I’m at home alone with her, then as soon as I turn on the vacuum cleaner, then she starts to sob sooo, and immediately to my hands. That is, I have a vacuum cleaner in one hand, and a 12-kilogram daughter in the other + I’m also pregnant. If dad is at home, then he vacuums. The daughter again, with a roar, rushes to my hands ... Already trembling with my whole body! Sometimes he plugs the ears with his fingers.
The child is already a year old, and the sound of the vacuum cleaner turned on continues to cause panic in him. He knows that the vacuum cleaner is in the pantry, so he points to the door with his finger, makes huge eyes and utters with horror a long “y”. At the same time, he begins to have a strong heartbeat and involuntary movements. I even consulted a neurologist about this: she said that this was nonsense. Only I don’t think so. Maybe someone with a child had something similar and you know how to overcome this fear, tell me please.
Where does fear grow
- The baby unexpectedly even for himself fell into a new, unknown world. The familiar environment, in my mother’s tummy, suddenly disappeared. Everything was familiar there, it was warm and cozy, the sounds fell to the baby muffled and unsharp. The loss of a familiar world, - this is the first reason for fears in newborns;
- Awareness of oneself as a center is a normal condition in a newly born person. He was the only one in his world. It is logical to understand that all unexplored phenomena and sounds are a priori hostile to the baby. This is normal a sense of self-preservation. How this baby will accept this world, joyfully or wary, depends on the parents;
- Even adults are scared suddenness. It is necessary to conduct a preliminary conversation with the baby before turning on the vacuum cleaner or mixer. And it is completely unacceptable to work with humming household appliances while the child is sleeping;
- Try to fix good relations with neighbors. Ask them not to use a drill or screwdriver without calling them first. Explain that your new family member must adapt to life, avoiding unnecessary shocks. Leave your phone number to your neighbors. It is not difficult to call and coordinate the repair time, and the benefits will be huge for your relationship, too.
The child is afraid
- You habitually turned on the vacuum cleaner, and the baby fell into a scream. Do not test his nervous system, immediately turn off the unit. And yourself, try to continue to “buzz” instead of a home dust bag and slowly approach the child.
The buzz should become quieter, calmer. And mom just has to smile. Smile the most native person is half the success. Do not tidy up anymore this day. And mom is not allowed to “buzz”. In this case, you need to monitor the reaction of your baby, perhaps he will start to make the same sounds himself.
Before turning on the vacuum cleaner, talk with the child, whine with him, stroke a miracle of technology. Turn on for a couple of seconds, turn it off. Nothing bad happened. Nobody ate anyone. The child is still warybut no longer crying. You can turn on the vacuum cleaner and explain to the baby that it helps to remove garbage. For children of 2 years of age, you can come up with a story about a vacuum cleaner, a fairy tale about a hair dryer, together draw these devices.
Sometimes a toy helps to overcome fear. Give your baby a toy vacuum cleaner. Such a game - imitation of adults - will help the child cope with fear by participating in the process.
If your baby is not even a year old, and sharp, roaring sounds make him nervous, scary, you should be patient. Exclude the use of such devices with a child, vacuum up, for example, when dad or grandmother walk with him on the street.
If a child is frightened even by turning off the device, then the best thing is to temporarily put him away. After a few months, you can try to take advantage of some of the tips above and begin to re-introduce the baby with a vacuum cleaner.
Feeling fear, the child instinctively seeks protection, and his mother becomes the mainstay of his safety. The kid asks for her handles, calms down next to her. Many mothers say that they got out of the situation with fear of the vacuum cleaner turned on in this way: The child sits on one of her mother’s hands, she vacuums the other. Of course, this is very difficult, so entrust the cleaning to another member of the family, and play with the baby yourself in the free room, distract him. Gradually, the child will cease to be afraid and you can try to get acquainted with a vacuum cleaner.
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When curiosity settles in the eyes of a child, you have overcome fear.Remember that this fear is temporary — it goes away by 2.5–3 years.
- Make dinner for the baby. You just can’t do without a blender. Press the button and ... hear the roar of not only technology, but also the child. You have to knead the vegetables manually. Today. And tomorrow take your child in your arms and patiently, in a playful way, with a mandatory smile and try to introduce the two howlers.
Show the blender to the baby, let him touch it. Just do not forget that in no case adaptation should not be plugged in. You will have to make mashed potatoes in the presence of the child so that he sees the process, becomes interested in him and is no longer afraid.
Right there feed the baby yummy, which in front of his eyes had recently been prepared by such a terrible blender. Something like this can teach a child not to be afraid of a mixer.
- Least of all kids are afraid of the washing machine. Sometimes they even like to watch the drum spin. If your child’s fear is stronger than curiosity, you will have to use the talent of an illusionist.
First, pay attention to the kid's completely soiled favorite blouse, then put it in the washing machine, and at the end show the clothes already without spots. Spend two hours of time during which you will tell and show, demonstrate and praise the miracle of technology.
- It is more complicated with a coffee grinder, the noise from it sometimes scares even adults. But you don’t need it every day. Try to use it in the absence of the baby. When he already ceases to be afraid of other kitchen appliances, then introduce him to the coffee grinder.
We examined the most common fears of a child before the sounds of household appliances.
General recommendations
- Smile, be calm and patient.
- Let your child feel confident in your willingness to help.
- Do not laugh and do not shame the baby for fears, for him it is very serious.
- Make sure that the kid does not watch scary cartoons, does not see the horrors of news channels.
- Do not be lazy to tell your child about unknown objects and phenomena in a positive way.
- Draw those objects that inspire fear, but cheerful and beautiful, with eyes, ears and a smile.
- Buy a toy in the form of a frightening kitchen appliance; a small washing machine does not inspire fear.
Children do not cry just like that, there are always reasons for this. You can not dismiss children's fears. This is an adult fear of a vacuum cleaner - a reason for jokes. For a small person, everything is extremely serious, on the verge of a struggle for their own security. Help must come from mom or dad. These are the only people whom the baby trusts so far.
Some young parents do not attach great importance to children's fears. This is a mistake not only in education, but also in the ability to raise a healthy child. Fears develop into phobias, phobias develop neuroses, and neuroses form mental illness. Remember, everything has its roots in childhood.
Mommy tips from forums
Dasha:Our child under 1.7 years old was afraid of everything that made loud noises. Now he is 2.5 years old, now he is grabbing at the vacuum cleaner himself - trying to get out. The fear has passed. Of course, I helped him overcome these fears: I demonstrated that terrible objects for him would not offend either his mother or him. When I used objects that he was afraid of, she always sentenced and talked with objects as with friends. First, the son fled to another room - hiding, and then he began to come, seeing my friendly mood. The better you suggest to the child that noisy objects are safe for you, the faster he will understand that they are safe for him.
Felice:We had a similar situation. also feared and cried. Then we hid the vacuum cleaner away and vacuumed only when the child was in the room. Over time, we let the child play with the handle of the vacuum cleaner, and he walked around the house with it with an important air, as if vacuuming, while mumbling, copying the sound of the vacuum cleaner. When he got used to and walked up from the heart, we took out the vacuum cleaner itself, naturally not including it, and in the same way we gave it a play. That's the way our vacuum cleaner has become our favorite toy!
Lena: let me play with the vacuum cleaner turned off! Just vacuum clean together without including and pronouncing at at at at at at at. I think she will be interested
Manyunya:buy a child’s vacuum cleaner for your child and turn this terrible thing into a game))) smiled at your blog, because in my childhood I was also panicky afraid of this unit))) mom and dad gave me a children's vacuum cleaner, on batteries, it also vacuumed)) fear as if by hand my mother also helped, because for half a day I was dragging a toy vacuum cleaner along with me and vacuuming all the farthest and most secret places where my mother could not get with a large vacuum cleaner)))
Irina: I think it will pass. Maybe you need to cover it with something. Do not show her. And then tell a funny story about a funny “vacuum cleaner”
Alika: My son and hair dryer were afraid, and a vacuum cleaner. Afraid to horror, to cry! Also, trying to dry his hair when he sleeps in another room, and vacuumed when dad walked with him. Now we are almost three, I don’t even remember HOW everything went. Somehow by itself. But to force, to force to touch the working vacuum cleaner or the hair dryer, of course it is impossible in any case!
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It seems to me that in the modern world there is practically no such problem, but I will give advice to all young mothers. When you have a baby, you need to try to live in your house or apartment, as before, that is, you don’t have to walk on toes and protect your child from the slightest noise and there will be no problem of fear.
The game is the best teacher for a child :))) For our daughter, we tore paper into small pieces and scattered around the room. After that they asked the child to vacuum up pieces of paper. What noise and fear there, then try to take it away.