The tradition of inviting relatives and friends to the newborn's wedding is quite ancient. Until the fortieth day, parents did not talk about the baby and did not let strangers into the house. And after this period, they held a celebration, and sometimes walked for several days. Today, they do not adhere to strict rules.
When is it better to arrange weddings and whom to invite?
These are the most important issues that parents care about. Invite guests immediately or wait for the notorious 40 days, or maybe delay the bridegroom for 5-6 months? Can I invite friends and colleagues or just relatives?
When. Of course, you should not arrange a holiday in the first months of a baby's life. The immunity of a newborn is not yet strong, so at this time it is necessary to reduce the circle of communication. In addition, the emotional state of the baby is important - he can be nervous and capricious when even one new person appears, not to mention the large crowd of guests. Parents also need time: mom to fix breastfeeding process and child care, dad get used to the new family member and the new daily routine. Given all this, it is better to wait a few months and only then call the guests.
Whom to call. Close relatives should be the first to see the newborn. Moreover, it will be enough to invite grandparents. The invitation of friends and girlfriends, colleagues and pals is better to postpone for a while.
Number of guests. It is best if there are not too many of them. You can invite 3-6 people. Do not forget, the child is not yet accustomed to the presence of strangers. Instead of fun, he can make a tantrum. Then the holiday will fail. And then the over-excited baby will not be able to fall asleep in time.
Time. What is the best time to invite guests? It all depends on daily routine. The child should be fed, so it is advisable to guess and invite guests immediately after feeding. Well, if you show the baby, and then put him to bed.
Safety. Be sure to take care of the safety of the crumbs. Guests must be healthy, notify them in advance. Ventilate the child's room, do wet cleaning before the arrival of guests and after. Do not let the baby kiss, it will be enough to look at him :).
Celebration
How to organize a wedding? What to put on the table? How to decorate a house? It is difficult for a young mother to organize grand events during this period, so it is better to arrange a modest dinner.
How long. How long will the event be? Consider the regimen of the day of the child. It is best to keep fit while the baby is sleeping.But if he sleeps little, guests want to sit longer or are you sure that you can put the baby to bed again, arrange a long celebration.
What to cook. You can organize a magnificent feast: prepare many dishes, if you have the time and energy. If you decide to have a simple dinner, limit yourself to 2-3 types of snacks.
How to decorate. It all depends on the imagination of the parents. Suitable posters, garlands - in general, everything you like. But it is better to refuse balloons (the baby may have an allergy to them) or the balloon may burst and scare the child.
Best Gifts for Baby
Newly made parents can hint to guests what gifts they would like to see. But if there were no such hints, then choose yourself. We offer gift options.
- Musical Carousel (mobile). This is a very useful thing. The kid can have fun with the sound and movement of the carousel, consider the figures. And mother at this time will go about her business.
- Large towel or plaid. Such a gift is very popular among relatives. And he is really useful.
- Developing mat. The baby will play for a long time with this rug. Now there are musical rugs, and simple developing. Choose.
- Swing. This is a wonderful thing for both a child and mom. The kid will be delighted with the fun, and mom will be able to relax a bit.
- Bath toys. Not all kids love to swim, but everyone loves to play with floating toys. Therefore, you can purchase a set of bright toys for the bath.
- Overalls. Warm winter overalls are an expensive but necessary thing. If you have the means, you can buy it. Parents will be very grateful to you.
- Feeding table. The same expensive items include a feeding table. They use it for a long time, so the gift will be long-playing.
- Diaper set. What really needs to be constantly done is diapers. Now they are making funny diaper cakes. You can make a small cake, and leave the rest of the diapers in the package, so it will be more hygienic.
- Educational toys. Various soft cubes, pyramids, large puzzles, interesting rattles - all this will be needed for the crumbs.
- The big ball. A ball with horns is useful for gymnastics. Just at this age, you need to do exercises with the baby every day, so the ball is a very necessary gift (read an article on fitball lessons).
You should not buy gifts such as:
- cosmetics. It is not known which cosmetics the baby will not be allergic to;
- baby food. This is a strictly individual choice;
- pram. Although this is an expensive gift, parents may not like the model;
- baby clothes. If you are not sure of good quality, do not buy clothes. Or you do not know what parents have already bought. Why bring the tenth vest;
- souvenirs. This is a useless gift at that age;
- bicycle, scooters, skates. Everyone has his time. It's too early to buy these things.
Master class: do-it-yourself diaper cake
Rules for guests
If you are going to a wedding, it’s nice to know some rules.
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- You must be healthy. Even a mild cold will harm the newborn.
- Do not make noise. Do not show too violent emotions and noise. Children do not like excessive emotionality and begin to act up. Be calm.
- Smells. Do not bring strongly smelling flowers into the house, do not use saturated perfumes. The baby may be allergic.
- Purity. After entering the house, be sure to wash your hands. Superfluous microbes crumbs now to anything.
- Do not take children. If you have children, you should not take them with you. Kindergarteners and schoolchildren are the most serious carriers of infections.
- Do not pick up. If you are not allowed to hold a child, do not be offended. Understand young parents - they worry about their child.
- Help. Offer help to parents, now it will not be superfluous, for example, to go to the store.
- Be polite. If you think that the young mother has recovered, and the baby is not too handsome, do not voice your thoughts.Do not impose your opinion on the upbringing and nutrition of the baby. Each family has its own experience and beliefs.
- Do not stay too long. Since it is inconvenient for young parents to say that you have to leave, remember the time.
- clothing. Do not wear fleecy clothes for a visit. Pathogens of various diseases in dust particles can linger in it.
Signs related to the bride
Few people now remember the signs, but some of them still came to us.
- 40 days after birth - a special period, you can not show the child to anyone;
- you can not kiss the crumbs on the heels - he will go late;
- you can not take pictures - it is not known why;
- you cannot come empty-handed - you cannot come to a newborn’s house without a gift;
- you can not breast-feed with strangers - jinx it.
For the bride to go well, the baby must be healthy and well-fed, and the parents should be calm and ready to receive guests.
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This is the bridegroom so the bridegroom 🙂
Based on my experience (I’m a mother of two children) I want to say that we didn’t arrange shows and didn’t go to visit the baby for about six months. In fact, during this period, the kids have no immunity and the intestines are still working ... he often cries and needs attention, so I wasn’t up to the guests ... But if we were to collect the guests, the closest ones would not last long ... an hour and a half no more ... And as for gifts, I would prefer something practical for the baby ... and a plaid and developmental toys and even large packs of diapers would go with a bang!
We organized a wedding two months later. They invited everyone at once, and relatives, and friends. Somewhere around 15. Since the bridegroom was in the country, the guests did not interfere with the child, they were sitting in the garden. Gifts were different, and they were all needed, but nobody brought a cake from diapers.