The time is turbulent now. It would seem that children walking unattended are nonsense, not the norm of today; and, nevertheless, terrifying news about abductions of children, acts of a sexual nature against minors and murders do not run dry ... Explain to children the rules of behavior with strangers, and do it right!
I know three words
“Nowhere! Never! Never!" - such a phrase, to simplify memorization, reinforces the parents strict order not to leave with strangers.
If in response the child asks how they can abduct him in broad daylight, in most cases they will be answered: "A terrible guy will put in a bag and carry away!" ... This is one of the mistakes of parents.
It is important to explain that apparently bad adults are no different from good adults, and the trickiest methods are used for abduction:
- “A cat and kittens live in a neighboring yard. Let's go, show! ”;
- "You're so beautiful. Do you want to act in films? ”;
- “Help bring the backpack to the car, please”;
- "Your mother became ill, I will take you to her!";
- “Let's go to the store, you will help me choose a toy for my son”;
- “Help me find a hospital, let’s you get in the car and show me the way” ...
- the attacker will say anything to cause location.
Teach your child to remember the rule “Nowhere! Never! Never!" then, when a unfamiliar person grabs his attention, and not at the sight of a “scary uncle with a bag and an ax” (whose appearance in real life is generally unlikely).
Any suggestions to go somewhere with a stranger must be firmly answered NOT and immediately go where other people are.
No point!
Explain to the child - sometimes he does not have to be polite. The offer to go somewhere with a stranger should be answered firmly "Not!" and leave him in a crowded place. Well, let it look impolite. A good adult will perfectly understand such words as: “I am forbidden to ride in an elevator with strangers. Dad will come now, and I will go with him ”,“ If my mother really called me, tell me the password! ” and just short "Not".
Of course, for some it is not easy. Obedient children often can’t imagine what can be done without what the adult commands. That is why it is so important to teach them safety rules.
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In war as in war
An attacker can pretend that he is an angry parent or relative of a child - grab his hand right on the street, scream “March home!” Come on! ”trying to seat in your car.
Since this is very scary, at such a moment the child may lose his voice, and, trembling with horror, dutifully perform all that is required: to leave in an unknown direction or to get into a car with a stranger. Quietly, imperceptibly, submissively. This is what the villain needs.
Explain to the child that fear is his faithful savior, if you do not lose your head!
Yelling - as loud as possible, biting - as painfully as possible, kicking and scratching - with all my might, and generally drawing attention to myself by any means - that’s what you need to do in moments of fear. After all, then other people will notice him, and the villain will have to rush to the hilt, or the baby will be able to break out and escape.
By the way, and this is especially important, yelling is not something like: "Leave me alone!", and distinct: "I do not know you!" - so that eyewitnesses could guess that this adult is really a stranger to a child.
An even stronger effect is the targeted address to any people, even on the farthest horizon: "I do not know him! Help! He wants to take me away! ”.
Important! Shouting must be wisely. If the child just screams: "No, I do not want, leave me alone.", - people around may think that this is really his dad, who was angry that the baby did not come home on time.
You need to shout like this: "I do not know you! I won’t go anywhere with you! ”…
Friend in trouble won't quit
When talking with your child about safety, talk about how to behave if your friend is taken with you. Unfortunately, it is often found out after the disappearance of the children that one of the friends saw that a stranger was taking him away, but either did not suspect a bad person, or, on the contrary, was too scared and was able to tell about that fact only after the lapse of time ... Lost time.
So: if someone takes someone somewhere, and there are absolutely no adults nearby, you must run as quickly as possible to where the adults are: at the nearest bus stop, to the store, to the playground! Without losing time searching for acquaintances, you need to grab anyone and clearly communicate: “A stranger took my friend away!” They went there. Call the police! ”. If this adult is confused - grab another.
If a friend was put in a car, the most important thing is to remember the number, color, brand. And turn to adults as soon as possible!
Shout, and in response ...
Every child should understand: worst of all, in the event of an attack, when there is no one to call for help. This is very beneficial for the villain, he may not stand on ceremony and even get weapons.
That's why you need to remember that places such as wastelands, garage cooperatives, basements, attics, abandoned buildings, deserted alleys, construction sites are not suitable for games.
Once and for all it is necessary to clarify: wherever an enthusiastic game of hide and seek or a thirst for exploring the terrain leads, there should always be people in sight who, if necessary, can be reached or shouted to.
Dangerous Web - Internet
It's no secret that these days pedophiles, and people with other manic tendencies, often prey on children on the Internet. Here, the impersonality of communication on forums and social networks, and the plus is a game of trusting children (some, by their naivety, can not only send photos and talk about their favorite time and places of walks, but also give a phone number, address, last name - because the child does not understand that under the guise of a peer, anyone could meet him). And then, when a stranger comes up on the street and calls by name, introduces himself as a friend of his parents and calls to mom, saying her name and your address correctly - how can you not believe it?
Teach your child not to report data about himself on the Internet, not to check in at every step, not to make real acquaintances without the presence of parents, and if an Internet friend offers to exchange phone numbers - answer: “Now I will ask my mother for permission”. After all, an attacker is afraid of the attention of parents. A protected child is not at all suitable for the role of a victim.
Teach your child the basic rules: never give your name, phone, address. Create a nickname for your child.Also, you can not tell where the baby usually walks or upload your photos unnecessarily. You should never go to meetings with online friends without parents.
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Set of rules
There are still fewer bad people than good people. In order not to get caught in their way, it is important for the child to remember the most important thing:
- Do not walk in deserted places - always keep people in sight;
- Do not get into someone else's car under any pretext;
- Do not enter the porch and the elevator with a stranger;
- minimize Internet activity related to the disclosure of personal data and the publication of your photos, not to get to know virtual friends alone;
- and, of course, nowhere, never, never to leave with a stranger, and if it touched another child - not to run after him, but to call for help from adults;
- if nevertheless a villain is nearby - forget all the rules of politeness and shout as loudly as possible: “I don’t know you!”, seek help from any random person and not lose my head in fear. It is possible and necessary to escape from the criminal!
If nevertheless the villain has appeared - teach the child not to lose his head, not to obey, not to be afraid, but to ask for help out loud.
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Chatting with strangers
The big problem, as for me, lies in the fact that we always draw evil uncles very, very implausible, while they may even be your neighbor or acquaintance, whom the child knows well and therefore does not feel any threat . It is necessary to teach children to be careful not with any particular type of people, but to be more careful in general.
Children should not be alone. First, you need to explain to them that they play in the playground, where other children are crowded and have walks only in groups, then the kidnapper will not climb. Since the target is single children.