How we spoil the game for children: 6 common mistakes

Let's remember ourselves in childhood. Our grandparents, mothers and fathers constantly forced us to do something: either draw or sculpt, then read or write, while we wanted to play with our best friend on the street in little balls. They introduced us to household chores, taught us to distribute responsibilities, to help each other. Then - to learn lessons, go shopping ... And all our plans to play the robbers often broke down and led to discontent and resentment. But adults only had to take our entertainment more seriously, because the game is the best way of self-expression for the child. This is exactly the independent occupation in which it is possible to fulfill your desires according to your own rules. In the game, the child is the way he wants to see himself: a hardy superhero or a beautiful princess. Children's play is needed not only for pleasure, but also for the development of the child. And even those adults who want to understand this do not always encourage the hobbies of their child. What mistakes should we avoid in the difficult process of education?

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1. We buy technological toys for ourselves, not for the child

Most modern parents are very busy with work, and they try to compensate for the lack of attention with the help of fashionable and expensive toys. The so-called "developing" toys with many colorful elements of various shapes, sound and light effects, singing and telling tales become interesting to us, adults, but not to the kid who still does not understand such a number of functions. It turns out that parents do not buy toys and development centers for their child, but for themselves. It looks as if we are trying to compensate for the lack of toys in our own childhood. Children are much more interested in playing with plasticine, balls, dice, a bucket and a spatula, as well as other useful things. Playing with all this, they seem to be preparing for adulthood, developing their imagination and finding new uses for objects.

2. We impose our views

Parents are constantly trying to come up with activities for their child according to their own plan, instead of giving them the opportunity to come up with activities of their choice. Be patient and give him the opportunity to play with pots, pans. Allocate for him several cups with cereals, give him access to drawers and shelves.Let your child have the opportunity to choose what to play today and how, and you watch from the side and then join his game.

There is nothing wrong with the fact that the child will study subjects at hand, while choosing entertainment to his taste. Indeed, restricting space and types of activities for him, we thereby deprive the child of initiative and freedom of decision-making. Do not deprive the baby of a carefree childhood, even if he sometimes lounges, dreams, and then shares his fictional stories with you.

3. Baby and TV

They have been talking about the dangers of television for a long time, to say nothing of its harm to the young organism. On the one hand, watching TV shows negatively affects vision. On the other hand, they often do not carry a semantic load. Unfortunately, mothers are used to showing cartoons for babies almost from the cradle. While the child is distracted, her mother's hands are untied and she can go about her business. He can fall asleep to the quiet rumble of a working TV, or with enthusiasm to watch cartoons, reacting to bright characters. This becomes a kind of distraction from reality. Up to three years of age, this is not worth doing at all, you can cause irreparable harm to the psyche of the child. Watching cartoons deprives him of fantasy, makes it passive, gives him ready-made solutions in certain situations. Adult films and programs often carry aggression, which certainly is not needed for the young brain. The kid may be scared, or even get addicted to television.

Remember! Depending on the age of the TV, the child can spend: from 15 to 40 minutes per day at the age of 2-5 years and no more than 1 hour per day if he is older than 5 years. Children under 2 years old are contraindicated!

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4. Overload with circles and sections

We are trying to teach our children everything that we have not mastered in a lifetime. Therefore, from early childhood, we begin to strain them by studying foreign languages, mathematics, writing, sports, choreography ... As a result, the child seems to have no childhood, he is busy with learning and training all his free time. There is an overload of the body, general overwork. This is wrong, such children often grow up self-contained, notorious, at school they have problems communicating with classmates. Yes, and later it will become noticeable in a decrease in intelligence and social activity. If you restrict the child in games, over time it will manifest itself as a negative trait. Indeed, in the game the kid also learns a lot! On the contrary, it needs to develop communication skills, give him enough free time for games with peers. Recall, not imposed by us, but those that they themselves will choose. Any activity should have its own time when the baby is mentally and physically ripe for this.

5. We do not teach a child to play

Children adopt all the habits of adults. And, first of all, we are talking about bad habits. But it is very important for us, conscious parents, to set a good example. Therefore, you should not be afraid to show your childishness, find time to play with your child. Change into the Indians, build the wigwams, stock up on weapons - and go! Help daughter sew a dress for the doll, swaddle the baby doll, show how to sculpt the little ones out of the sand, jump with him in the hopscotch or with an elastic band. The child will surely like what you do, and he will begin to repeat after you. In the end, outdoor games and physical activity are useful not only for the baby, but also for yourself, improving your shape and increasing immunity.It is good to instill a love of sports activities from early childhood - this will be the most valuable contribution to the future of the child, contributing to normal development and good health. If it’s embarrassing for you to fool around with the kids, just tell them what other games you can play, which ones you played, and how fun it is!

6. Do not show interest in joint games

Arriving in the evening from work, you most likely want to drink tea in silence or watch TV. But there is no way to play hide and seek, or fold the designer. But your child requires attention, and you are forced to fulfill his whims, making efforts on yourself. Any child is direct and feels your unwillingness to participate in the game. Do not deprive him of pleasure, take it seriously. Try to play with the kid those games that are interesting to you. If you make something, or even cook food, introduce a child to this matter. He will play with your instruments with pleasure, he will sort out beads, ribbons, sculpt pigeons from the dough. Come up with a storyline for a role-playing game - this is so important for the development of creativity. Do not neglect reading, tell tales (the effect of fairy tales on children's development – https://kid.htgetrid.com/en/psihologiya-detey/vliyanie-skazok-na-razvitie-rebenka.html), consider the pictures together. You will surely like the passion with which your kid will listen to your stories or repeat after you what you teach him. After all, a small helper or a skilled hostess is growing in your house!

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