A playground is a place where a child can frolic in plenty, throw out overflowing energy. Here his socialization takes place: the baby learns to communicate with peers, faces problems and conflicts that need to be addressed.
1. Outsiders criticize you as a mom
You probably know this situation: a child carelessly jumps through puddles, laughs, and a circle of other mothers and grandmothers gathers around. They are discussing with might and main how badly you are raising your child.
A natural reaction to this behavior of strangers is to fight back: “Who gave the right to outsiders to make comments to me, especially in the presence of a child?” It is difficult to restrain this impulse, because those around you are really unfair - they have no idea what kind of mother you are. However, arguing in this case is useless. You just waste your nerves, but everyone will remain in their own opinion.
The best solution is to ignore other people's statements. Do not pay attention to what strangers say to you, especially if their nit-picking is groundless.
2. Someone remarked to your child
This situation is also possible: you and the baby are returning home from a walk - happy and funny, but dirty. If suddenly you meet any Anna Ivanovna from a nearby entrance, she will hasten to make a remark to the child: “Why are you so dirty? Look how dirty you are! And your mother will have to wash the clothes! ”
You need to remember that babies react painfully to criticism from the lips of strangers. In such situations, mom should always stand up for her little one. Otherwise, without feeling support from you, he will close and become unsure of himself.
The kid should not blame himself for the fact that mom will have to wash the things that he stained while walking. If someone makes such comments to him, your task is to protect him, to make him feel that you are on his side. Turn to the child and tell him in a calm tone: “Well you and I walked, right? Now you need to wash and wash your clothes, but you and I are happy and rested, so we can do this job! ”
3. Your baby stole a toy from another child
If on the playground you notice that your baby is trying to pick up a toy from someone, do not rush to scold him. The conflict can be resolved peacefully:
- Waiting tactics. Calmly explain to the child that he is taking someone else's toy, which her master still wants to play. Ask your baby to wait a bit.Perhaps a little later the owner of the toy will share it or want to play together;
- Sharing toys. If your child agrees to this option, let him offer the owner of the toy he likes a few of his choice.
4. Your child is crying and cannot return his toys
Some of the kids in the playground can take the toy from your child. Even if he cried and ran to you with complaints, do not rush to intervene. Better use these tips:
- Talk to your child. Tell him that you understand how he himself wanted to play with the toy, and offer to ask him to return it together. Another option: explain to the child that the other child took his toy for a while, soon he will give it back. To distract the baby, invite him to swing on a swing or ride a hill;
- If your child does not agree to wait, hold hands and go together to the offender. Politely ask the child to give the toy to your son or daughter;
- If the request does not work, invite the children to exchange toys for a while. If they do not agree, gently pick up the toy from the baby’s hands.
By following these recommendations, you will teach your child how to resolve conflicts peacefully.
5. Your baby is angry because a toy was taken from him
If another child takes a toy from your baby, he may try to return it by force. The realization that property is only comes at the age of three. Prior to this, the child thinks that the toy is taken from him forever.
Your actions in this situation should be as follows:
- Do not allow children to use force in relation to each other;
- Tell your child that you understand how unpleasant he is, but that you can’t offend another baby either;
- Invite the children to exchange toys. Tell us that it will be more interesting to play together;
- Do not force the baby to give away toys and do not put pressure on him;
- If your child does not agree to share, talk with another baby. Apologize to him and say that your child still can not give him his typewriter, as he himself has not played enough.
6. Your child took someone else's toy that no one was playing
Children take different toys for a walk. Then they forget about them, being distracted by other activities. If your baby walked up to a pile of abandoned toys and tried to take one of them, you should behave like this:
- If the kid takes the toy of your friends, ask them for permission to take it. Warn your child that later the toy will need to be put in place or given into the hands of the owner;
- If you don’t know whose toy it is, ask aloud about it. If you still have not found a master, tell your child that you cannot take someone else’s without permission, and ask them to return the toy to its place;
- If your baby can’t refuse the toy and is ready to cry, but the owner hasn’t shown up, offer to look for it together. Walk around the playground, ask around. Even if you do not find the owner of the toy, the child will at least play with it, and then put it in place.
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Dmitry Karpachev: conflicts on the playground. How to teach a child to respond to conflicts
The article is quite worthwhile, but it is worth remembering that often it is not necessary to clarify the relationship with the children, but with their parents, who, seeing that they have taken a toy from their child, which he did not even play rush to pick up right away.
I think that any direct intervention of adults in such a situation is unacceptable, it’s a child’s world, and you can influence his events only through your child, briefly leading him out of this space into your family world, and influencing him there if you themselves, of course, have a solid knowledge of what needs to be done when an owl has been taken from your child, or vice versa does not give someone else's. With other adults, also solve episodes, stepping aside, children should not hear these conversations.