It is hard to find a child who would not love his grandmother. Usually, many mothers are strict with their children and may not allow something, but many grandmothers, on the contrary, allow themselves too much and indulge their grandchildren and granddaughters too.
Meeting with granny is always delicious cakes, intimate conversations, good tales. Based on their wealth of experience, grandmothers often give wise advice to their children, but some of the recommendations of the older generation are not relevant today. We will name 5 such grandmother's tips that are hopelessly outdated.
It's time to introduce complementary foods
The birth of grandchildren is a great joy. Grandmothers really want the baby to be healthy. And their health is associated with fullness. They are ready to start feeding the baby almost from birth.
And now the advice is already sounding: “The child is already three months old, but he has not tasted human food yet. Give him at least try apple juice, cook semolina with milk, you can give him a little borsch. ”
When the teeth begin to erupt, grandmothers are advised to give the grandson something to chew on - a dryer or cracker. Grandmothers have one argument: "I gave you all this - and you see how much they grew up."
Nowadays, WHO does not recommend “grandmother's” foods as an early feed.
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Why without a hat?
Grandmothers favorite expression: “Put on a hat!”. It sounds when the grandson is still very small, and when he is already a student. Most of all, grandmothers are afraid that the child will not be puffed into the ears. They knit a variety of bonnets, hats from pure-wool yarn, hem flannel linings to them and require that these hats be worn by grandchildren in any weather.
It is undesirable for a child to walk with his head uncovered, but you need to choose a "hat" according to the weather. Otherwise, he will feel, to put it mildly, uncomfortable.
Get away, don’t touch, don’t run, where you climbed!
With age, grandmothers become less mobile, it is difficult for them to keep up with their grandchildren who got out of the stroller. Therefore, any of their independent movement is accompanied by warning cries of a granny sitting on a bench. She feels her responsibility for the safety of the child, she is afraid that he will injure himself, and therefore decides the matter with the help of endless remarks-prohibitions: “Where did you run? Sit next to me in the sandbox! "Do not climb the hill, you will fall !, Again you climb into a puddle - get away quickly!"
Grandmothers forgot that children cannot sit still, that they need independence to fully understand the world, and that bumps and scratches always accompany this process.
And when they raised us, there were no safe playgrounds with a soft coating, no wonderful waterproof clothes, no psychologists who insist on the importance of developing independence from an early age.
Who is not listening? Now the woman will take you!
One of the favorite methods of upbringing with grandmothers is the intimidation of the baby by mythical creatures or real people. How many times have you heard: “Now I will give you to that uncle!” or "See the policeman, he will arrest you for your running around." Laying the baby to sleep, the grandmother tells her to behave very quietly, because there is a woman in the closet who picks up small children. The promise of the arrival of Baba Yaga, too, as my grandmother thinks, can pacify her grandson.
Psychologists do not recommend scaring children, they form complexes because of this: the child begins to be afraid of the dark or left alone in the room, and the police will perceive him exclusively as a punitive organ. Ask your grandmothers not to invent stupid things to preserve the child’s mental health.
For mom, dad, grandmother ...
What does any grandmother do when her grandson is brought to her? Tries to eat more tasty and satisfying. If the child has a poor appetite, she is ready for any tricks: playing at the table (your mouth is the garage, and the spoon is the machine, the machine goes to the garage); feeding from a spoon under the good and not very good tales, under the cartoons. “Eat another spoon for mom, dad, grandmother ...” - the list of relatives is endless. They also love to stuff the child with sweets.
Candies, chocolate, ice cream, soda - everything that parents usually forbid is always in the arsenal of grandmothers.
It’s good when the grandmothers manage to feed the little one, but you can not overfeed the baby, it can be pulled out, after which the aversion to food will intensify, and treating with sweets can cause severe allergies.
No need to be angry with good grandmothers: everything they do for their grandchildren comes from a pure heart. Therefore, kids are so attached to them, they like to visit them. Without conflict with older people, you calmly ignore some outdated methods of education, which, from your point of view, are unreasonable.
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