Raising a child is a difficult task in which all family members take part, and grandparents “try” most. From the best intentions, the older generation intervenes in the life of a young family, imposing their opinions on how to raise children, how to raise, care, feed, dress ... Often, grandparents make grave mistakes in upbringing that do not affect character well and the behavior of the younger generation.
Let's try to make out the most frequent mistakes of the elders in communication with the grandchildren.
Remind parents of their own mistakes
Often, grandparents rush to the defense of their grandchildren, not even suspecting what mistake they make. For example, my mother is trying to seat her daughter for lessons for an hour, when suddenly a granny appears with the words: "Oh, think, you yourself studied at school from under the stick."
This behavior of elders will further convince the child that he is right. A small person will consider his behavior the norm.
Bring to religion ahead of time
Most people turn to faith consciously when they mature and gain life experience. What to believe is everyone’s personal choice, the main thing is not to impose your beliefs on other people, especially grandchildren. Forcing to go to church will cause nothing but dislike for the child. Perhaps the grandchildren themselves will want to go to the temple with you when they grow up and become interested in the creation of the world.
Break parental rules
Usually, grandparents allow what mom and dad forbade. For example, my mother does not allow riding a carousel in the yard, considering them too dangerous.
The kind grandmother releases the child on a dangerous carousel with the words: “Don’t tell mom”. The negative consequences of the act of the grandmother are obvious. First, the child will understand that it is possible and necessary to deceive parents, even if his beloved grandmother sets an example in this. And secondly, if the carousel is really malfunctioning, the child may be seriously injured.
To impose ideas on the appearance of children
"Who do you look like! That they pulled you on! ", - children often hear such statements from the older generation. Of course, grandparents have the right to their own opinion. But it is one thing to express one’s point of view and quite another to impose one’s ideas about fashion and beauty.
Use the kids as free labor
Of course, the elderly need help with housework.However, sometimes it turns for the grandchildren into a heavy duty. With reproaches and accusations of heartlessness, some force children to work in their own household plots, rather than simply agreeing with them. After all, with the right approach, the child simply cannot refuse his beloved grandmother or grandfather.
These rules will help the older generation avoid unnecessary conflicts with their own children about raising their grandchildren. After all, no matter how strong the love of grandparents is, they should not forget that children have parents, and the last word belongs to them.
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