Outside is the end of December. My acquaintances and friends summarize the ending year, make plans for the future and share their thoughts on this subject on social networks. I thought: why am I worse? Nothing! Only here I will start with what is not yet completely finished in 2018.
This is what I will try not to do, starting January 1, 2019.
1. Continuing self-education
In May, I began to participate in various webinars, watch videos, listen to thematic lectures on writing, SMM, personal brand and more ... To begin with, I decided to upgrade my Instagram. But you just have to plunge into it, then they bombard you with an endless stream: “Learn again, take this course, watch this video, because everything is just beginning!”
In the end, I realized: it's overkill, because I'm just choking on self-education. Enough!
2. Strive for complete excellence
Is it possible: to be perfect in everything? Of course not! That’s why I say to myself: “Stop! Stop being in constant stress because you need to change something in yourself. Enough to search and find a lot of flaws and imperfections, because in the whole world you will not find an exclusively ideal person. ” Personal growth, no doubt, is necessary, but everything is good in moderation.
I'm tired. I’m tired of considering myself inferior, tired that I definitely need to “tweak” something somewhere in my home to be perfect.
That is why I finish the first two points today and immediately and, of course, leave them in the outgoing year. In New I will be fine without them.
3. Shame? Shy? Enough!
I firmly decided for myself: it’s enough to be ashamed and embarrassed at the slightest occasion and without it. No, not very accurately formulated. It would be more correct: I’m not looking for a reason for shame. Absolutely: there are no reasons for shame! Social networks are to blame. Why don’t you be ashamed of your round forms after childbirth, when there are thin moms around with 3-4 children? Or maybe this photographer just took good pictures?
And I will never stop enjoying the crib, peace and quiet, especially in the arms with my daughter. True bliss you can only dream of!
For some reason, many people think that in order not to be considered a loser, you just need to constantly be in good shape and do something, to run somewhere. Stop believing in it. I decided: I will do what I want, and at a pace convenient for me. But it happens that you don’t want to do anything, but simply lie in bed all day. So what's stopping me from doing this? And let everyone get jealous!
4. No goals that do not meet my "I"!
There is no doubt that setting goals is necessary. I love it and do it without fail. But I simply can’t set global goals, and I don’t want to. To conquer the world is not in my plans. I think that you need to start moving towards your dream slowly, but surely, and then take acceleration. So what if the dream is small and perhaps selfish? She is mine!
I prefer to eat an elephant in parts and start with small steps towards dreams and only then accelerate.
And let this dream be small and selfish, renew the eyebrow tattoo, for example, and save the world indirectly - with its beauty.
5. No doubt!
“Do I write articles well?”, “My blog doesn’t interest anyone!”, “Is anyone interesting at least?” - Such and similar thoughts are familiar to many. And they even push some to be too frank in their statements, to too candid photos with peach presets, to buy likes and followers on social networks. Such people are prepared for a lot in order to be considered cool.
And why? The whole point is in self-doubt, in constant doubts that torment so: “Do I need the one I have, with all the shortcomings and imperfections?” All this is familiar to me, but I decided: enough! What will I do? Yes, nothing special: just go out without any embellishment. But it is interesting or boring to read my masterpieces - this is not my concern anymore, the main thing is creativity. So claimed Liz Gilbert in the book “Great magic. Creativity without fear. ” I completely agree with her.
6. I want to complete everything planned
But be that as it may, I still check the plan drawn up at the beginning of the year. I will tick off the items that have been completed and congratulate myself on this.
Well, if something could not be done, I will not be upset and reproach myself. Just calmly try to figure out what is the reason for the failure, why it did not work out.
After that, I will think about whether it is necessary to take this goal in the coming 2019 year. And only after that I will draw up an annual plan, taking into account all the points listed above.
Good luck to everyone (of course, from your point of view) of the coming year!
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How familiar! After the birth of a child, life is divided into “before” and “after”. Inexperience is so difficult to realize many things.I also tried to push myself into the framework of a supermother, forgetting to myself, pushing my needs and interests aside. Now I realized how important it is to develop, and most importantly, I managed to find the time for this. It seems to me that every mom has it, everything else is an excuse. In our city there is a coworking platform for mothers. It turned out that it is free. And the child, under the supervision of the educator, is in the play area, nearby, while mom improves her skills in courses or works remotely.
I agree with everything, and subscribe to everything except the first two points. How is it not to engage in self-education and does not strive for excellence? Especially if you are a young mother. Now a little man looks at you and takes an example from you in everything. On the contrary, with the advent of the baby, one needs to develop more, study, read, then to give this knowledge to the child when the time comes. And about the pursuit of excellence, I generally keep quiet. The child sees in you the first example of a woman, and this is very responsible and important, both for the girl and the boy.