We live in a communal apartment (yes, such still exist), where 2 rooms belong to my mother (in total 4 families live there). We moved there, because, like most Russian families, there is no money to rent separate housing. But this is not about that.
In the next room, right across the wall, there lived a girl with her husband. To say that they swore is to say nothing. All day long swearing, screaming, knocking. Especially selective Russian mat could be heard after this same girl came after work while intoxicated. This, in fact, annoyed her husband (I will not go into the details of their personal lives).
Soon it became known that she was pregnant. We all breathed a sigh of relief. We thought that pregnancy would help her settle down, and we will now live calmly. The first 2 years after giving birth it was. The neighbor quit drinking, there were less screams, as well as foul language. We involuntarily began to believe that people can change.
But no. After a while, it only got worse. The reason - the husband stopped spending the night at home. At the time of his absence, the girl came off on her two-year-old daughter - Margarita. She screamed (and this is to say the least!) At her constantly - at the moment when she was crying, refused to eat, sat down on the pot, bathed, played. Judging by her phrases, the daughter did everything wrong and, in general, was born some kind of wrong. As soon as the husband came, silence fell.
She threw a phrase like “this is my life,” “don’t get into your own business”, “don’t like it — call the police.” She didn’t care what others were saying and thinking. The screams grew louder and longer. Insults were sent to the child. She humiliated her, trampled her into the mud, blamed her father for cheating.
The child grew up in such an environment up to 4 years. Then Margosha's father left the family and, as expected, forgot about his daughter (it even got to the point that he refused to pay child support). Then it all began the most terrible. The screams did not stop. We called the district police officer several times and described the situation. Each time he had a conversation, explained that if she did not stop treating the child like that, the baby would be taken away. But he could not show her anything, since there was no beating, and screaming or not screaming is the business of the parents. “Everyone has their own methods of education,” he said.
The neighbor, realizing that she was not in danger, began to behave worse than ever. By the way, we lived in peace only when she was at work, then endless screams began.She calmed down at 22-00, as she was afraid of calling the police and the anger of her neighbors.
Now about the behavior and reaction of the girl herself. Somewhere up to 5 years old, she was afraid of her mother. Margosha sometimes didn’t even want to leave the kindergarten - she rolled a tantrum. Teachers, observing the behavior of Margarita, invited a psychologist, even came from the guardianship authorities, looked, whether there were abrasions and bruises on the body. But they were not, and, therefore, cruel treatment of the child, according to the guardianship authorities, is not there either.
She always asked the same questions: "Mom beats you, offends you?". But the most interesting thing is that the child always answered negatively. I don’t know why - Toli was so frightened by her mother, Tolya Margosh was afraid that she would be taken away somewhere. By the way, we neighbors could not do anything either, because the girl always said that she loved her mother and that she did not offend her.
Anyway. Somewhere closer to 5 years, she became indifferent. The girl did not pay attention to the cries of her mother, the comments of her neighbors. She did not listen to anyone. For example, I always scold Margosha for taking other things from the table. But the child doesn’t care. She pretends not to hear. The girl is constantly lying, silently committing dirty tricks, can break something on purpose and dump on another.
But these are still flowers. Margarita is now 7 years old. She went to school. More precisely, how she went. He attends school whenever he wants. That is, in the morning mother wakes her up, and she says that today she won’t go anywhere. Naturally, screams, blows, persuasions. Nothing, no reaction. She just doesn’t react, turning to the wall.
Three children live in our apartment, including my son. All the same age. Margosha can just come up and hit, or scream as if she was being beaten (but in fact, no). In general, the complete unpredictability of actions.
She always does in spite. Moreover, it seems that it is revenge on everyone and everything. In it there is no childish mood, any pampering, fantasy, kindness, sympathy, pity. Margarita does not like to draw, play with other guys. Children in the yard mock her, can hit, call. The reaction follows a different one - complete indifference is often replaced by hysteria and vice versa.
I myself, like other neighbors, tried to talk with my mother that the child needed psychological help, and maybe medical. But she is busy with her life, the problems of the child do not bother her. “I bring up like that, she’ll follow my chord,” she says.
We agreed with the neighbors to help the girl as much as we can. Please let Margarita go for a walk with us. I even sometimes do lessons with her (when she wants to).
And further. The girl almost never smiles. She does not like to have fun, play with toys, prefers to be alone. She does not answer questions. When you talk with Margosha - she looks at the wall. That is, the child has learned to completely immerse himself in himself and not hear what is happening around.
I don’t know what will happen to the girl next. Neither the guardianship authorities nor the police respond to our requests to admonish the mother. The policeman says that there are no beatings, there are no witnesses that the neighbor is beating the child. But shouts can’t be sewn to business.
Guardianship authorities generally stopped coming, justifying their indifference that the girl does not admit to a bad attitude from her mother. And our dictaphone records do not help. In general, complete indifference.
I would like to finish this story on a positive note, but I can’t. Soon, I and my family will move to a new apartment in another area. I'm really sorry for the girl. But, unfortunately, I can’t do anything.
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