There are no perfect people. Everyone knows this, but many parents are sure: “These 5 points must be followed in order to become a good mother for your child.” In practice, not everyone has the time, patience and opportunity to fully comply with these requirements. However, this does not mean at all that they are bad parents.
1. Breastfeed as long as possible
At least up to one year. If possible, it is worth continuing to breastfeed for another 1-2 years. So a woman will have a lower risk of developing breast cancer, and this is very useful for a child.
However, more and more modern mothers refuse breastfeeding. The reasons are different:
- you need to get back to work early, and expressing milk during the day does not work;
- you have to take medications that are prohibited during lactation;
- I just don’t want to breastfeed, etc.
Some mothers simply do not have milk or it is not enough for the baby to eat, as a result, thousands of women feed their children with mixtures. Is this enough evidence to blame them for being bad mothers?
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2. Keep in touch with the child throughout the day
It is important to comply with the measure. There are parents who every hour inquire about how the baby ate, drew, or went to the toilet. With their increased care, they risk more harm to the crumb than to benefit him.
Modern mothers often call children only on business, and they find out all the details in the evening, when the whole family gathers at home. Psychologists support this position, since it is much more important to spend quality time with the child, and not to make a certain number of calls.
3. As soon as possible to stop feeding from a spoon
If the child has grown up, but they continue to feed him with a spoon, this no longer indicates parental care, but the desire not to waste time and keep clean in the kitchen. This is quite normal, no one will blame you for that. On the other hand, psychologists recommend from an early age to teach the baby to eat with their own hands, and this must be understood literally. After all, the baby still does not know how to wield a spoon and a fork.
If you are a supporter of early development, then allow the child to make mistakes and dine on their own. Let him squeeze boiled carrots, potatoes, beets in his hands, crush vegetables. Of course, you need to mentally prepare for the mess in the kitchen and bright spots on the wallpaper.
An important rule for those moms and dads who strictly follow the order and are ready to feed the baby with a spoon as much as necessary: if the baby wants to take a spoon with his pen, do not forbid him to get this experience. Even if there is porridge in a bowl, there will be a big mess, but it’s better to clean up the kitchen than to get a schoolchild in the future who knows absolutely nothing.
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4. Weekends belong only to children.
Children need communication, especially with parents. Despite this, many are not ready to spend all their free time on weekends solely on the child. Many psychologists think this is right, because you can not live solely for the sake of children. The main thing that any child needs is for his parents to be happy.
You do not need to sit with your baby at home all weekend just because you rarely communicate on weekdays. Go to the playground, to visit. You yourself will be able to chat with different people, but at the same time spend time with the child.
Separately, it is worth mentioning that "all the best is for children." Maybe someone will call you the ideal parent for such a sacrifice. Nevertheless, many parents and psychologists are ready to argue with this.
5. The task of a woman is to enjoy motherhood
Kids grow up very fast. It seems that yesterday he was lying in a bed with a rattle in his hands, but today he is already going to school. Of course, it would be nice if a woman would get real pleasure from raising a baby. Only many modern mothers do not consider motherhood their destination. Therefore, they spend a lot of money on paying for the work of the nanny and consciously refuse those precious hours of communication with the crumbs that will not be repeated.
In this matter, all mothers are divided into 2 opposite camps, each of them considers himself right. Only an ideal solution does not exist. Therefore, family psychologists simply advise finding the option of raising crumbs that will be optimal for your family.
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I believe that breastfeeding is a must, as it contains essential vitamins and the baby’s immunity will be strengthened. But this does not mean that you need to breastfeed up to 2-3 years - this is somehow abnormal and too much.
It seems to me that if you constantly monitor the child and call him during the day, he will not learn to be independent. Do not go to such extremes. It is important to show the baby that he knows how to be self-sufficient, that you trust him, to bring responsibility.