Each mother for a child is a priori the most expensive and beloved, but some of them are incredibly complex. So what kind of mom does the child have a hard time with? Hopefully you will not find yourself in this list. Well, if this happens, you will at least find out what needs to be fixed.
1. Anxious mom
She always sees troubles everywhere. She rolls her baby in a stroller for up to three or four, forbids him to jump and run, constantly holds his hand, and stands guard near children's stairs and slides. If someone else’s baby “armed” with a stick or ball gets into her field of vision, she will quickly lead her child away from the “threat”.
As for the home environment, the floor of such a mother is covered with carpets or mattresses, all corners and pasted with foam or special nozzles. The kid is always wearing socks or slippers, and the windows are closed so as not to miss even the slightest draft. Alcohol sprays, antibacterial wipes and a first aid kit - all this is always at your fingertips.
A teenage child with such a mommy should not even dream of personal freedom. Just try to come home late for at least 5 minutes or not call when she starts dropping valerian into a glass. Alas, children grow up too fast, so the treasure of an anxious mother still has to face the realities of our world. As practice shows, breaking knees and hands is painful, jumping from a hill is quite dangerous, the street can be switched exclusively to a green light and only at a pedestrian crossing. Agree, it is much safer to expand the freedom of the baby from an earlier age. For example, you can start from the moment the child is on his feet.
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2. "Iron" mother
Such a mother could even manage a regiment without any problems. Her voice is always firm and decisive. Those who dare to disobey the order will be punished, but not always limited to reprimand. Living with this mommy under the same roof can be compared to a strict-regime colony, where any wrong move will certainly be punished. The child, living in such conditions, does everything possible so as not to provoke the parent to the next reading of notations, abuse or slap.
Pity and empathy or kisses from a tough mom expect in vain (as well as tender hugs). The child will have to hide from her many details of his life as he grows up, while often lying. But the “iron” mother is an authority not only for her children, but also for her husband. In her family there is always severe discipline, and the kids shine with impeccable behavior.
3. Illogical mother
With such a mother, the child does not know about boredom. She has all 7 Fridays in the week. Today it strictly forbids, and tomorrow it will give the green light to the same thing without any problems.At one point, she decided to seriously take up the upbringing of the child, punishing him for wrongdoing, and after a couple of minutes she promised him gifts, kisses and hugs.
Such a mother constantly tries to establish for children certain rules and frameworks of behavior that she herself violates. It is easy to manipulate. Sooner or later, but all the whims of the child will be fulfilled. Minor disciplinary offenses may go unpunished, since an inconsistent mother can simply forget some of her own prohibitions. It would seem that what could be better for a child? Despite all the visible advantages of an inconsistent mom, it is quite difficult with her, because she does not fulfill her promises, and is also completely unpredictable.
4. The idealistic mom
She must have all the best, and this also applies to children. Kids are always neatly dressed, impeccably brought up and diversified. They achieve success in their studies, take prizes at district and city competitions. No one raises his voice. Eating, everyone uses a knife and a fork.
If friends sent their child to a section, a music school, to developing classes or foreign language courses, then an idealistic mother will do the same. Moreover, the ideal child does not have the right to the slightest mistake. He is also denied the rights to noisy games, relaxation and expression of his own opinion. It is necessary to justify mother's expectations, which is sometimes difficult to do.
5. Selfish mom
The thoughts of such a mommy are entirely dedicated to her beloved. Her baby screams from boredom, cries from hunger, and she calmly chooses new shoes in the store. A child plays on an asphalt track instead of a specially equipped playground, since there are more comfortable shops and high-speed Internet. It is difficult for such a mother to enter the baby in her schedule, so he gets the minimum attention of the parent. And the worst crime of a child is to break my mother’s plans for the day. And the punishment will not keep itself waiting, manifesting itself in ignoring, imprisonment in a children's room or arena.
If you fall under one of the above types, do not rush to consider yourself among the abnormal. Abnormality will manifest itself if you leave everything as it is, continuing to further "cripple" the child. But the efforts to fix everything are worthy of respect. Agree, it’s worth a try, if not for your own good, then for the future of the children for sure!
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