After the birth of a child, life changes dramatically, as does the woman herself. Sometimes a newly minted mother suddenly becomes a different person. Previously active and self-confident, she turns into a mother hen who can’t leave a crumb even for a second and constantly talks about how he slept, how he ate, what his progress was. Some of them suddenly become truly “abnormal mothers” who are ready to wipe the whole world with antibacterial wipes, just to protect their child from invisible bacteria. If you notice the characteristic signs of an anxious mother at home, gather your will in a fist and find time for yourself, and let your grandmother, husband, aunt or nanny sit with the child. Read about how to distinguish an anxious mom.
№1. You live only for the sake of the child
You devote all your time to the child, 24 hours a day, cherish and cherish him, giving him all of you. If you have to go away, every second you think about the baby. Are you worried whether everything is normal with him, whether they fed him, changed his clothes, and suddenly he got sick or someone offended him ... For emotional comfort, you need to be with the child around the clock.
№2. You want to be the perfect mom in the eyes of others
You need others to appreciate how much you are doing for the baby, how well you care for him. Even better, if approval is given publicly so that everyone hears it. If someone says: “A great mom came out of you,” you blur into a contented smile, you bloom.
№3. You forgot about your feelings
You have stopped paying attention to your condition and your feelings. You take care of the baby 24 hours a day and do not rest at all. You are annoyed, depressed, you have chronic fatigue and lack of sleep, but all this is no longer important for you - the main thing is for the baby to feel good - "What is the difference, the main thing is for the baby to feel good". Yes, in the first year of a child’s life, this is justified, and sometimes you need to take a break to restore strength and sleep soundly. When the baby grows up, it is time for mom to gradually return to normal life, in which there are other things.
№4. Are you afraid to do something wrong
You are scared at the mere thought that you will make some mistake in the care and upbringing or miss a sign of a beginning illness. You are very afraid to do something wrong. Therefore, you regularly consult with doctors, specialists, study thematic sites, communicate on forums with other mothers. You constantly have a lot of questions regarding the upbringing of the baby and his health.
№5. You feel guilty for shopping for yourself
You literally feel ashamed when you buy something for yourself, even if it is a necessary thing. Each time in such cases, you think that it would be better to buy the next hundredth toy to your little one. And it doesn’t matter that there’s nowhere to put them.
№6. You sacrifice everything for a child
It seems to you that it is unacceptable to leave the little one with his dad or grandmother, because this is practically a betrayal. Therefore, you do not go anywhere, except for walks with the baby. For the sake of your little one, you forgot about your hobbies, about meeting with friends, although no one demanded such victims from you. You do not remember when you were sitting in a beauty salon or choosing a new handbag in a store, but you are a regular customer at sales in children's stores.
№7. Maternal debt is above all for you
Ever since you had a baby, there are no more expressions for you: “I don’t want”, “I’m tired”, “I can’t take it anymore”. "Mom must!" - Now this is your motto in life.
№8. Children are your only topic of conversation.
You constantly talk about children, so friends and relatives begin to shirk from communication. Because of this, you are very upset, but not everyone is interested in listening to stories about diapers and childhood diseases for hours.
It is not necessary to turn motherhood into hard and exhausting work. There is no point in forgetting about yourself and devoting your whole life to a child, you do not have to do your best to look like the perfect mother in the eyes of someone. Try to find a balance between caring for the baby and the time that you can spend on yourself. Then you can truly enjoy motherhood.
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After reading this article, I realized that it fully describes me and my attitude to the child. At the same time, I understand that it’s impossible that by such behavior I can only harm my child, grow out of him either a complete egoist or grow up, he would rather want to escape from such excessive care, but I can’t do anything. Still, I’ll try to find the measure that will allow me to be a good mother without harming the child.
It seems to me that both parents should play an important role in raising a child. The help of close people, relatives is important. So that mom has time for herself, leaving, taking her favorite hobby, talking with friends. A 24-hour, continuous stay with a child will make a nervous, torn mother out of any woman.