With the advent of children, the life of every person is radically transformed. It is in the process of observing her growing baby that each mother begins to open the world from a completely unexpected direction. One day she will understand that ...
Actions are much more valuable than words
Countless times you can interpret the tiny banal truths about what is good in this world and what is quite the opposite, it is useful and instructive. It is from such conversations that the child receives useful information about the world and the people who inhabit it. However, his actions will be an exact copy of your actions.
Do you neglect the rules of the road, turning the street into a red light in front of the baby? Be sure - someday your baby will repeat this “feat”. Like a copy machine, a small child unconsciously and with absolute accuracy repeats the actions of those closest to him.
It’s great if you copy really good deeds and strong qualities: this can only cause the emotion of others. But what about the flaws? Repeated by the little man who made them public, they seem even more unsightly. Want to be a good role model? Will have to work on the strengths of his personality. The first discovery is that young children stimulate the desire for self-improvement in parents.
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Even a small child is a person
Every person from birth is the owner of a unique temperament and corresponding character (newborn character traits) Any mother’s attempt to fashion something perfect from her crumbs, consistent with her ambitious dreams, is not only hopeless, but also completely meaningless.
The period of unconditional trust in the mother continues in the child until about five years. Being an absolute authority for him, at this age, the mother can convince the baby of anything. The following is the discovery that the child is not obedient clay and not a toy. This is a person with a peculiar character, unique abilities and interests, requiring a special approach.
Before offering the baby any activity, a loving mother should take a closer look at him and understand why her child came to this world. Parental ambition should not go against the interests and natural inclinations of the child. Do not make a lawyer from a talented singer or dancer from a gifted mathematician.
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Mom can’t answer all the questions.
Most modern mothers are educated and fairly erudite people. However, the questions of a growing baby, actively learning the world around him, can immediately make them doubt the fundamental nature of their knowledge (Why is winter and summer? Why does the sun shine?Why the sky is blue? Why is night falling? Where the babies come from? etc. etc). Satisfying the natural curiosity of a child asking a lot of simple questions about the essence of surrounding objects and phenomena, any mother will understand that she is comprehending this world again. A very unexpected and interesting discovery.
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For the development of the child, freedom is more important than toys
The famous aphorism says that a woman who has given birth to a child lets her heart go wandering wherever he wants. This statement perfectly accurately expresses the essence of the mother’s constant anxiety for her child, who is outside the walls of her home.
However, this anxiety does not justify the attempts of some mothers to make their heir only an obedient executor of unfulfilled aspirations and parental will. The most difficult maternal task is the need to teach the child to be independent and, having found his way in life, boldly go this route.
Freedom of choice is the key to the formation of an independent person. For such a person to take place, it is necessary to provide the child with the right to free choice from a very young age. This freedom applies to all aspects of his life. What books to read? What colors to paint the landscape? What dress to wear for the holiday? Such questions the child is able to solve himself. Understanding this, a smart mother should give him the opportunity to make independent choices.
Even with a beautifully thought-out program in mind designed to make her child happy, a caring and wise mother should leave him the right to make a final choice in life. This is a very difficult discovery, requiring a lot of self-denial and great love from the mother.
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It is unreasonable to refuse personal affairs for the sake of the child
Living completely giving oneself to a child is far from the best idea. Not for mom herself, nor for her adorable baby. Having become mothers, many women begin to live only by caring for their children. Their day is constantly distributed between endless washing, cooking, walking, visiting developing studios, modeling and drawing, reading children's books and a host of similar events dedicated to caring for children.
Such a busy schedule leaves absolutely no time for mom herself. This is both bad and wrong. Women's forces are far from unlimited. Any woman has the right to take care of herself and to rest. She needs visits to the hairdresser and beauty salon, time for shopping, sports, reading books and basic relaxation in an easy chair. At the same time, there can be no question of any remorse associated with the presence of one’s own interests other than caring for a child.
Who said that mom should be with her children every minute? Every healthy child can and should have a certain amount of free time, which he is quite able to fill with games and interesting activities. This is one of the methods of forming children's independence and self-sufficiency.
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Silence is an alarming symptom.
Every experienced mother knows that complete silence in the apartment where the child is playing, having the opportunity to engage in an independent game, is a cause for serious concern. If the quiet baby does not show any signs of his presence, this means one thing: at this moment he is doing something “Extremely fun” 🙂.
After such classes, parents may simply not recognize the apartment (the walls of which are painted with very picturesque frescoes overnight) or the child himself, who has decorated his physiognomy with a full set of expensive mother’s cosmetics.Sometimes a young fashion designer makes adjustments to the style of an exquisite designer toilet. In general, silence is a signal for an immediate search for an unpredictable little prankster.
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Children's issues should be taken seriously.
Loving mothers know how deeply and sincerely young children experience their failures and losses. To an adult concerned with domestic and social problems, they may seem insignificant and not worth attention. This is the greatest error. The outstanding Polish teacher Janusz Korczak warned against this, urging to put children's problems in the first place, even if they seem too small.
Due to a little life experience, the loss of a favorite toy is experienced by a young child as dramatically as an adult perceives a lost job or the loss of a significant amount of money. Having made such a discovery, a loving mother will never brush off childish problems.
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Little kids are the funniest moments
Having given birth to my first son, my whole day was constantly devoted to him and his work. And as it turned out later, he knows how to play well and wants to play alone, and I began to have time for other things. And the silence really turns around in us with torn wallpaper and a spilled basin of water.
She always provided freedom of choice to her son, even perhaps too much, because sometimes he says to me: “Mom think of herself what to do, I’m still small.” Well, as for silence - this statement is true for everyone, it happened so quietly that it’s scary to enter.
They say that a child under three years of age must not be prohibited, but the conditions must be created under which he would not have the opportunity to indulge and play. We clean things that can be ruined or broken, the child has access EVERYWHERE!