The birth of a child is a serious test for a married couple. Even if before this event the family reigned “quiet and smooth,” serious passions may flare up with the appearance of the baby. The wife begins to accuse her husband of the fact that he does not help her at all with the child, with the housework. The “accused” puts forward a “lawsuit”: the wife literally drowned in diapers and vests, she is not interested in anything but the child, and he feels unloved and lonely.
As a rule, this kind of problem most often occurs in couples who have a fairly short period of cohabitation. How to get through this happy, but at the same time difficult period in the relationship.
How to introduce dad to care for a small child?
Begin to prepare your husband for the birth of a child and the need to help you during pregnancy. But don't limit yourself to a vague phrase: “I will need your help.”
Men by nature need specifics.
- Tell him what “extra” chores will fall on you, why it will be so important to fulfill all of them.
- Emphasize that after childbirth you need to relax more, and some types of homework may be strictly prohibited.
- Since men trust an authoritative opinion, “accidentally” show him an article in a specialized magazine with a suitable subject. For the same reason, ask the attending physician to write down all the recommendations at discharge. As you understand, it is imperative to give the doctor’s prescriptions to her husband. Discuss in advance what concerns your husband will take upon himself.
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It must be economic affairs: mopping, old man and ironing - all this for some time the husband can do. Explain to him how important his actions are for you and the child, emphasizing that you would have disappeared without his help.
Be sure to give your husband responsibilities related to caring for a newborn. Many men are afraid to pick up very young children: show how to properly hold the baby. Think of a “sacred” action for the newly made dad: let him prepare a bath for bathing and the necessary accessories, or walk with the baby. You will see, the husband very soon “will get a taste” and will cease to perceive these actions as “obligatory”.
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Do not get hung up on the rules and regulations. The diapers ironed on both sides are not more important for your baby than the happy mom and dad are nearby. Be careful and patient with each other. Do not make yourself a heroine: having a baby for a woman is normal and natural. Spend more time with your husband, because you are rocking or feeding your baby, you can enjoy a joint conversation or just silence, when your whole family is assembled and you do not need phrases for happiness.
For the harmonious development of the child, from the first days of birth, autumn, understanding and trusting relationships between parents is important. If such a relationship remains between the spouses after the birth of the child, this will not be stress and a difficult test for them, but on the contrary will become a pleasure!