Who said that children are the flowers of life ?! Whoever it was - he was definitely in the subject! But how to fix household chores when you have a whole "flowerbed"? Tatyana described the real day of one large family.
How it all started
Like all normal young people, I made quite adequate plans for the future: to graduate from high school, find a good job, earn credibility, and after all this, give birth to ONE with about thirty with a tail! child and necessarily a boy. I will say right away - I succeeded. I managed to give birth to the first boy)). Of course, a development plan was also provided for the heir: an advanced school, sports, a theater club and the best university, to choose from. Oddly enough, the husband was not provided for in my projects.
No wonder they say: "if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans for tomorrow." And literally on the eve of my twenty-second birthday, I got Andreyka. This event shocked me so much that after a year and a half I wanted to experience it again and gave birth to Artyom, and to finally convince me that this was not a dream, Grigory appeared four years later. But for some reason I was haunted by the feeling that I had not fulfilled the master plan of fate.
And then I came across an article about family orphanages. I was shibanulo like an electric current - here it is! I became pregnant with the idea of “giving birth” to four children at once. Nine months later, I succeeded and now our family consists of ten people: four little sons, three little daughters, a husband and a guardian Volodya and I.
Since then, our life has become like a roller coaster ride - every day is full of events, but it is so terribly interesting that television “nervously smokes on the sidelines”, he never dreamed of our comedies, dramas and action films. Sometimes, before going to bed, I recall my girl’s plans with a smile and rejoice that they did not come true, because then my life would not be so interesting and immense, promising.
39 children - a mother with many children:
A normal day for many moms, or - for the faint of heart, please leave
All roles are major:
Mnogopapa, Mnogomma, Sveta (16 years old), Andrey, (14 years old), Artyom (almost 12 years old), Gregory (8 years old), Lyuba (10 years old), Katya (6 years old), Pavel (5 years old), Volodya ( 25 years).
As always, an unexpected bell alarm bullet sticks between the shoulder blades, runs a shiver along the spine, and you understand - that's it! But it remains to be conquered from Morpheus the warm, comfortably sniffling kids and adolescents. It is necessary to gather all the will into a fist and set off in the cycle of events.
Everyone yawns desperately, groaning, thinking of how not to go to school today, but to climb back into the warm cocoon of the blanket. I do not interfere with them dreaming to themselves about a pipe, urging laggards to wash, along the way, helping to find socks and tidy up the rooms. And, finally, after breakfast, under the howls: “we will be late for sure today!”, Everyone moves to the bus (fortunately, in our village there is a good kindergarten and one school for the whole district).
Phew! My husband and I enjoy a well-deserved moment of peace and quiet. We have breakfast slowly and over tea, discuss upcoming matters. Now it's time to wake Volodya - our ward of a 25-year-old guy with the mind of a child of five. Vova does not like children making noise, but she loves to talk with us, talk about her plans for today and talk about what he dreamed about. After washing, he enjoys breakfast, drinks a cup of tea with homemade jam and plunges into his classes.
To create or to sleep is the question ...
Most people are mistaken in thinking that all mothers with many children, and even more so with a family orphanage, do not work in the generally accepted sense, but only at home. “I won’t tell you for all of Odessa ..”, but this is definitely not about me. The Internet is our everything! Including an interesting job without leaving home.
Morning silence contributes writing textsunless on the eve Muse stuck you to the computer until late at night. Then the silence of the early morning acts like a proprietary sleeping pill. You can afford a couple more hours to take a nap and gain strength for a new "battle".
The cook from the factory cafeteria - cried!
To cook in a 5-liter saucepan is tantamount to an offer to put on booties! Our house has taken large forms. The most rarely used, "small" pan of 8 liters. Well, what do you cook in it? Is that a porridge for one tooth. Here are ten, thirteen liters - this is our size, just the pan. Oddly enough, but if you know how to cook dinner for 3 people, a further increase in the number of eaters no longer matters. Just a little extra time and voila! lunch for ten people of 3-4 dishes (a portion of soup, a packet of porridge, a bowl of salad and a huge frying pan with meatballs) plus the compote is ready!
Well hello - it's us!
By 16, a group of teenagers flies into the house. Everyone is hungry, disheveled, and full of news. They loudly sit around the table, grab the most delicious pieces from the plates and vying with each other to talk about school events. This is happiness! But early to relax! Soon you have to go meet the kids from the kindergarten and you cannot miss the right moment.
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It’s hard to learn - but life will be interesting
The most difficult thing in the life of many moms is the implementation of the "home". Children of different ages with different abilities, inclinations and some just can not concentrate for a long time. Everyone needs to find their own approach - where to wash, where to ride.
And it is also the duty of the elders to help the kids - such home tutoring. For good performance of the "student", the "tutor" is rewarded with extra time for computer games or something else at will.
I noticed that foster children, doing homework, show more zeal. Apparently, they are in greater need of a sense of intimacy that hovers over their heads during general classes.
Outdoor games
Our generation has the most vivid childhood experiences associated with the summer in the village, with my grandmother and grandfather. My children live in such expanse all year round. In the summer - bicycles, fishing, swimming in the river, hiking for berries and mushrooms, and along the way we come up with different games, quests, quizzes. In winter - skis, skates, snow fights, sledges. Fortunately, we have a slide - more than enough! When they tumble into the house, covered with snow from head to toe, flushed and with a wolfish appetite, it becomes clear that the day was busy. Children learn the living world not from books, but every day, observing around them, amazing natural diversity. Not to mention astronomy at arm's length. Here SEE the stars!
Are these devices or gadgets?
No matter what they are called, it is impossible to imagine modern life without a TV and computer, smartphone and tablet. And no matter how adults moan that children spend too much time on the Internet, there’s nothing you can do about it. Now not letting your child communicate in social networks is like in the 80s not letting friends go for a walk in the yard. I would also like to shorten these endless sessions a little, but Sveta has been engaged in her Instagram page for a long time and makes live broadcasts there, Andrey, Grigory and Tyoma hang in YouTube, looking for a video about survival in extreme conditions and the creation of unusual mechanisms. And the small ones, of course, surrender to slavery animated series. I don’t bother too much about this because I know for myself that if something is really interesting, there will always be time for it.
Debriefing, or who today is without sweets!
In a large family, conflicts of various calibers cannot be dispensed with, no matter how hard you try. Sometimes it seems to someone that household chores are distributed unfairly, sometimes disputes arise literally over a trifle. And in order to repay a serious confrontation in time, before the process has gained momentum, a family veche is going to. Of course, other current or promising matters are also discussed here. The advice is delayed, sometimes even breaking the end time. I have a quiet suspicion that it is for this that teenagers are up to quarrels)). One thing is that most problems are resolved immediately on the spot, without reaching the advice.
Evening Together - Reboot
When the day comes to an end, the lessons are done, the games are over, the rituals of going to bed begin, and everyone has their own. Each of the four rooms where the children sleep, becomes a small theater with its own action. Katya and Pavlusha are comfortable in their bed, looking forward to a new tale that I invented for them. The older girls climb into the bathroom for half an hour and splash there, as if they were loading coal all day. The boys got to his father and find out from him all the secrets of the world or discuss the latest scientific news. Volodya is waiting for the baby to calm down to sit with us at the table with evening tea and conversation. Suddenly, silence falls upon us and we, as in slow motion, stretch our pleasure and dream of the future.
Of course, summer makes significant adjustments to this schedule when children are on vacation, and we can afford multi-day trips to our places and other joys. But I promised to describe a typical weekday. Slightly paraphrasing Alexander Sergeyevich, ".. on, here, take it soon!". And you know what? Life in such a large family is always new, with unexpected twists and lots of amazing events! Children are so different, spontaneous teach me how to live and enjoy every day!
We also read:
- 10 arguments in favor of a large family
- The experience of a mother with many children: 5 ways to make life easier for parents and children
- The manifesto of a mother of many children: why children are hard and what to do if you want to quit and run away
- Why it is worth being a mother with many children: 5 weighty and weighty arguments in favor of a large family
- Pros and cons of a large family
Found a video of the Vershinin family (one day of a large family)
I also want a big family, but not so much) There is sometimes no time for one with myself and my head swells in the evening, and when there are SO MUCH! A properly organized regime in such a family is the main thing!
In general, I can’t imagine such a large family, I have two children, and I don’t have time to do anything around the house, because I spend almost all the time on my baby and baby. And how can you cope with so many children? Moreover, you need to think about putting children on their feet later, and not just giving birth to a huge number of them, without thinking about how to help children in the future with a good education, work, apartment, etc.