Many adults occasionally have to communicate with other people's children. It can be friends of classmates of their own child, little relatives or just kids on the site. To become a child's friend in a short time, you should study the nine main life hacks. Each of them contains useful advice that helps to establish contact with the child and show the baby that adults and children are much alike.
1. A smile will make the world brighter
A smile is a universal means of communication that helps to establish contact with any person, both large and small. If the baby is frightened or shy of an adult, then a smile can defuse the situation. To do this, you need to become funny for a little man, cheer him up. All children love to play “cuckoo,” when an adult covers his face with his hands, says “cuckoo,” and then puts his hands away. The child laughs out loud.
2. Become one level
If you imagine yourself as a small child, who moves among huge adults and sees only their legs, then you can feel what unpleasant sensations a little person experiences. To achieve an arrangement, you need to become with a baby of the same height, for example, kneel down and look into his eyes.
3. Adult communication
A child is the same person, only a small one, so you need to communicate with him in the same way as with your adult friends and acquaintances. It is not necessary to lisp and use diminutively affectionate and distorted words - “go buy”, “give yum-yum”. A child is more likely to recognize a friend as an adult if he communicates with him on an equal footing.
4. Equality of emotions
Children very subtly feel emotions and mood swings. He will not trust you if the emotions do not match, for example, the child is crying, and the adult is laughing at this time. If the kid tells something funny for him, then you must definitely laugh. The adult's face should reflect all the emotions of the crumbs.
5. A look at the subject
This method is perfect when communicating with an overly shy child who does not know how to communicate. In this case, you need to shift your attention to one subject: “Look, what a beautiful dog,” “Your backpack is not heavy,” “Do you want a glass of lemonade?”
6. Praise is not a child, but his thing
If an adult wants to praise something, there is no need to focus on the smallest man: “What beautiful eyes you have”, “How big you grew up, is already taller than me”. In such statements you always feel falsity. A shy child may close completely. To interest a little acquaintance, one should boast of an object belonging to him: “You have a cool scooter”, “What are fashionable sneakers”.
7. Talk about what's interesting to the child.
Everyone wants to talk about what is interesting to him and the child is no exception.If an adult begins to discuss political issues or talk about cooking soup, the baby will instantly get bored. But the conversation about cartoons, children's games and books will interest him. It is necessary to listen with special attention when a child tells how he won the competitions in the sports section, or what game his dad bought for him.
8. Play by children's rules
If an adult began to play with children in something, then you should not set your own rules. Any game has several options, so the baby needs to be given the opportunity to act in a familiar environment. For example, if a child, playing a board game, is used to calling its heroes or objects somehow in his own way, you should not prove that this is wrong. Just support your little partner and accept his rules.
9. A gift is happiness
Everyone is pleased to receive gifts. It is worthwhile to establish a rule for yourself - never come to a child empty-handed. Let it be a small machine, puzzle, soap bubbles or sweets - the baby will be delighted by this no less than an expensive present.
To make friends even with an unfamiliar child is not at all difficult. The main thing is to experiment and put your soul into communication with a small person.
I can add one more item. If the child turned to you for help or offered to play, or wants to find out something, ask, talk, you need to do it. If you really are in a hurry to leave or urgent work does not allow, then you need to at least not forget about it and at the first opportunity, it is better on the same day, to fill the need of the child.
I always easily manage to make friends with unfamiliar kids on the street, especially with 2-3 year olds. Their parents are surprised at how I do it, because there are children who, except their mother, are no longer suitable for anyone. I just squat down, look into the child’s eyes and feel great pleasure in interacting. I do nothing more. But they immediately smile at me, give their toys, babble something, ready to follow me if I call. To be honest, for me this is a surprise. I really love children, but how do they know?
I always find a common language with children. I'm starting to talk to them. Showing trees, grass, the sun, the sky. I ask what color. You just need to interest the child. You can play, look for something. Just win over the child and all.
For my child, I try to be an older friend, to respect his personality. If the baby is criticized, suppressed and constantly forced to do something, he will close within himself and every year the gap in relations will be stronger. I am very glad that for my son I am still the main adviser and listener.
I am very pleased when my friends, acquaintances, and colleagues communicate with my child in this way. But, frankly, it annoys me when completely strangers on the street begin to molest a child, ask something, or even call to go with them.
Oh, tips for beginner pedophiles 🙁
No, everything is correctly told, but it would be necessary to end the article with a warning that not all friendly adults are trustworthy.
I have always been opposed to having a stranger adult talk with my child.