Sometimes children pose impossible tasks for us when it comes to gifts for the upcoming holiday. The child waits and believes that Santa Claus will fulfill his cherished dream. The question arises: What should parents do if their child asks for something impracticable, for example, so that people never get sick or very expensive? Or what if the baby dreams of a pet, but you do not share this desire?
No panic! We reveal the secrets of how to get out of the situation and not upset the child.
Gift Value
Imagine a situation: a child asks for a thing that the family budget is not designed for. Many parents make a grave mistake in their upbringing, when they get into debt when they have a lack of finances and take off their savings to buy a toy that their baby dreams of.
What does this lead to? Over time, "appetites grow," the child simply does not see the real picture of the world, begins to demand even more, considering this the norm. It is sad to see how already adult children consider parents obliged to buy expensive gadgets, a car, and more.
That is why it is so important to explain to a child from an early age that money is not always easy to give, and not everything can be bought right away. It is necessary to prioritize, denying yourself minor things, for example, to limit yourself to one toy instead of two.
Tip
If your budget just does not pull what the baby dreams about, you can tell the child that such a gift is a very expensive thing. Tell your child honestly that such a gift costs too much money. If Santa Claus gives him this expensive gift, then other children may be left without gifts and will cry. At the same time, this can be a good reason to think with your child how you can save up on your favorite thing.
Or give the child a list of what Grandfather Frost can give this year and let him choose one thing (this will mitigate the feeling of rejection). There are many children in this world, and grandfather’s budget is limited, and there is such a restriction to endow everyone, otherwise many will be left without a gift.
Responsibility for Others
“Mom, I want a dog,” you hear from your child, but do not rush to get a pet, which is why very often children ask the good Santa Claus to give them some pet. The first thing that comes to mind is to give not a living puppy or kitten, but a toy. But here you need to be careful: remember the tears of the Kid from Carlson, when instead of the long-awaited dog he was presented with a plush lap?
You (of course, Santa Claus) can write a letter to the kid explaining that a pet is a very big responsibility, you need to prepare for it, you need to walk with a dog in the morning and evening in any weather, or vacuum and wipe the floors every day. Before a child becomes the owner of a puppy or kitten, he should explain how hard it is to take care of him, that this is a living creature that requires constant care and care.
Have your child take the test! Arrange a home quest: cleaning, help in preparing simple dishes, completing tasks around the house. To complete all of the above, the child will have to make an effort and sacrifice his time (which he could spend on games).
Did the child pass the test? Then you can think about acquiring an animal, but which does not cause trouble. For example, fish or a turtle.
And the fairy tale will turn into reality ...
The child asks Santa Claus to give him something non-existent - a real Spider-man, a hero from the animated film Fixiki, or to help him find himself in a magical land. How to explain to him that this is unrealistic?
Do not harshly tell your baby that there are no magical creatures and this is fiction. But what about Santa Claus? In childhood, children should have a fairy tale.
Try to explain that Grandfather Frost brings to children those gifts that can be found in a simple store, he does not have the opportunity to create them himself.
Parent bans
Computer games, tablets, weapons, which modern manufacturers will not come up with in order to attract the interest of the child. Adults understand how harmful this is, but are powerless in front of skillful marketers.
A child can ask Santa Claus for a toy or thing that you consider unacceptable - one of the dolls with the “wrong send”, computer “shooters”, toy weapons with bullets. In this case, Santa Claus can write a letter in which he will explain that he knows that parents are against the choice of a child and tell an interesting story of a “replacement” gift.
It is worth discussing with the child that Santa Claus is always happy to listen to the requests of children, but he is not required to fulfill them exactly.
World peace
But what if a child asks for something global - so that everyone is healthy, so that there is no war in the world ..? This is an occasion to be proud of your baby! But the parent has a difficult task - to explain to the child that Santa Claus does not control all the processes on earth, so he will not be able to fulfill his desire. But invite the baby to make his personal contribution to saving the world, let him feel like a true hero. Do a good deed together! You can congratulate the children from the boarding school, for example, bring them sweet gifts. If the age of the child allows, he can take part in a volunteer program, visit the animal shelter with the child ...
In any case, the New Year is a special holiday, and gives us all the opportunity to touch a miracle. Dreams come true for children, and adults have the opportunity to be real wizards 🙂
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If a child asks for “happiness for all,” you should not put disappointment in Santa Claus into him. It is wiser to explain that everyone has their own work - we should do good deeds, and grandfather's work should reward us for them.
I would not forbid anything to my child and say "order it, and the other is too expensive for Santa Claus, then do not order." I would explain that Grandfather Frost will fulfill everything, if not for this New Year, then next, the main thing is to believe and imagine that you already have it. Adults make a wish card, and Santa Claus works on this principle. He will do everything if you really want to.
Now the desires of the child are increasingly dictated by aggressive advertising from television. And having received what the son asked, sometimes remains disappointed. Therefore, we add our present to the gift from Santa Claus, showing that it is better to give each other.