Any parent can face this problem. If you suspect that you cannot buy this or that thing to your child, you need to take care of this in advance - it is best to do this before the child writes the letter, you need to be involved in the process of writing the letter. Also at this moment, you can gently direct the child’s thoughts in the right direction and gently push him to choose the right gift. But what if time is lost and the letter is already written? It will be great if the child receives what he asked as a gift, because the children believe in a miracle and wait from Santa Claus for their cherished dream to come true. Let's talk about why you can’t give your child what he wants.
Gift is expensive
Try to really assess the magnitude of the disaster. Perhaps you can cut the New Year’s expenses and give the child exactly the gift that he is waiting for. Or you can choose an inexpensive analogue of the coveted toy.
For example, a boy asked Santa Claus for a helicopter on the control panel, but his parents did not have the funds for such an expensive gift. And they worthily got out of this situation: they found a helicopter in the store that started manually, but it flies as good as the radio-controlled one. The child was satisfied. Or another case: a girl asked for New Year's Barbie doll with a collection of outfits and a house where she will live. Parents bought only a doll. Mom sewed clothes for her, and dad made a dollhouse with his own hands.
Inappropriate gift
You are not constrained by the means, you simply do not want to give the child what he asks for. Let's look at the reasons for your refusal together.
Your child asks Santa Claus for a new doll or toy car, but there are so many of them that you don’t want to buy another one. Perhaps you should think about the fact that the purchase is the next one, it is not known which bags (blouses, dresses, etc.) can be considered unnecessary for yourself.
Or do you think that the child chose a gift that is not suitable for his age. Adult children sometimes ask for New Year's toys, and kids, on the contrary, choose a gift for older children. Maybe you should not upset the child and spoil the festive mood?
If you are one hundred percent sure that you do not want to give the child the gift that he asks for, then you will have to dream a little. Write a letter from Santa Claus to your baby, where you describe in detail why he cannot receive what he wants as a gift. You can write that on the way with Santa Claus there was some unpleasant incident, as a result of which all the gifts broke, and he had to buy others.Below is an example of such a letter, it can be slightly changed to suit a specific situation, but the meaning will remain the same.
Hello dear ... (baby name)!
I received your letter in which you wrote that you are dreaming of parking with a set of cars. I try to always fulfill the wishes of children and prepare gifts in advance. Until the New Year, all gifts are stored in my home, and just before the holiday I load them in a sled and distribute to the kids. I try to give everyone exactly what he wants. That day I received a lot of letters and worked tirelessly.
I read the letter, selected a suitable gift from my supplies, my assistants packed it and put it in a sled so that on New Year I could quickly deliver gifts to children on my magic sleigh. I read your letter and went for a car park.
I wanted to put your gift to the others, but it was too high, on the very top shelf of my magic wardrobe. To reach him, I had to get a ladder and climb it. I took out a box in which your gift was stored, and was about to go down, when suddenly my staircase broke with a bang. And I fell to the floor.
But don’t worry about me, everything is fine with me, my little friend! A huge soft toy was lying on the floor, and I fell right on it. But your gift is not so lucky as I am. He fell to the floor, the box opened and your parking lot scattered in all directions, and the cars crashed. I felt so sad because now I can’t fulfill your desire, and I cried. I could not calm down for a long time, and then my dear Snow Maiden came and reassured me.
She promised that we will surely pick you up another gift, in return for the spoiled one, and you will like it no less! I really hope for it. Santa Claus.
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There is no universal way out of this situation, but it seems to me that in such a situation it would not be a sin to manipulate the child a little, using his parental authority. Ultimately, the child himself will refuse this gift and believe that another gift is much more interesting and useful for him. And this will be his decision)))
I would warn my child before writing a letter to Grandfather Frost that although he is a wizard, even wizards need gifts to buy money to buy them. And he has a lot of you children, he really wants to give everyone a present, but he cannot afford too expensive presents for every child.
Our good friends, a daughter asked Santa for a horse ... A real one ... There was a strong desire to please a child and financial opportunities, you cannot come to a one-room apartment in Moscow ... If you want, you need to invent something. My mother also advised me to write a letter from Santa Claus and present a book about horses. In a letter write that unfortunately you don’t have the conditions for keeping a horse, read about horses, learn how to care for them and how they should live, etc. In general, the meaning is clear. We sent them a book about horses, a book with photos of horses and a calendar with horses, and asked for a gift from Santa Claus6 with a letter))) I hope I will like it and my daughter will not be upset.
The idea with a letter from Santa Claus is very creative, children are always waiting for a miracle for the New Year.
I would not want to upset the child, you should look in the stores for something similar to the ordered one and add sweets to your gift)
No need to buy the exact opposite, if the child wanted a lego or car, a soft toy would not please him.
Nonsense. Why give a child gifts for the new year, and even on behalf of a nonexistent Berendey? WHAT FOR? AND? I believe that children should accept the world as it is and live accordingly, and not hope for something that will never happen. To make children happy is to pamper them. And in the world there are many children who are hungry! And why charity? This is the same Santa Claus! Not! Children must be taught to work in this world and survive in it.