A broken knee or bump on the forehead sometimes becomes a tragedy for young mothers, and even more so for grandmothers. The child is crying, parents are groaning and gasping, some even get hysterical, the whole area is raised on their ears. All pity the poor man, soothe, try to punish the unfortunate threshold or a stool that got in the way. And the baby revels in everyone's attention and ... even more roars.
Such situations happen in almost every family with small children. And for us, such reactions are quite natural. But, unfortunately, completely wrong. But what is it worth to do if the baby fell, hit and cries?
What NOT to do and say when the baby falls
- Loudly lament, panic, take the child home from the site (if the child hit the site). We also read: Important rules for child safety in the playground - teach your child to play in the playground;
- Show your fear by saying the words “horror”, “catastrophe”, “nightmare”. And without that troubled baby, your words and reaction may scare you;
- Too sorry for the child. The baby, who will get used to complaining about every scratch, will grow up too anxious and fearful;
- To stop the baby’s attempts to tell and show that it hurts, to ignore the pain of the child. Even with a small scratch, one should not say such phrases to the child as “Stop whining!” "Nothing wrong!" or "Men do not cry." The kid will see that you deny his pain and emotions, and will be hostile and wary of you.
How to calm a baby
The child fell and hurt himself. He is hurt and scared. And then mom doesn’t know how to pull herself together in order to seem calm. Emotions and facial expressions give out tension and nervousness.
Comment of a psychologist. You need to follow your emotions, movements and facial expressions - they should show the child the same thing. If you say soothing words, but at the same time anxiously grab the baby in an armful, he will still be nervous.
In this situation, you can, and most importantly NEED to pull yourself together and calm down. Therefore, if you were frightened by yourself, first exhale with force and shake your hands so as not to additionally excite the child. Such actions will relieve nervous tension. And now a calm and confident mother should do 3 simple actions.
- We sit down to be on the same level with the crumb and gently hug him.
- We say encouraging, affectionate words of support: “I know that it hurts you and really want to help you. You hit and got scared. I understand how scared you are now, I'm by your side, baby. I am with you, which means that everything will be fine. ” Let the baby cry a little in your arms. The main thing is that he will understand that you are not indifferent to his pain and worries and you accept his feelings.Gradually, emotions will subside and the child will calm down.
- When the first storms of emotions subside, tell the baby how you will treat a bruised knee together. “We have a magic water at home that hisses and removes dirt from the wound. And there’s a magical green elixir, after which the wound will heal quickly and quickly. ”
TESTED BY TIME! Be sure to try kissing a bruise or bruise at the end of your speech. Tactile contact with a loved one has an amazing miraculous power, the placebo effect, i.e. acts as a painkiller. No medicine - and the child immediately easier! The main thing is that the baby believes in the magical power of his mother’s kiss.
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Often I notice in the yard that if a girl falls, then everyone runs to calm her. And the boys have a different attitude. Moms either do not pay attention, or say nothing to worry about. If my baby doesn’t fall very much, then I also think that you should not pay too much attention to this and I can wait until he rises.
It is difficult for a mother to control her emotions when her child falls and hits. My wife and I always argued over the fact that she reacted too violently to abrasions and bruises of the child. So you can grow a crybaby and a coward out of a boy.
That's right, it’s precisely many who cannot pull themselves together. Not all of us are psychologists, therefore they act instinctively - they round our eyes, shake our hands, they don’t know how to calm them down. And then suddenly my mother-in-law or the neighbors will see - then you won’t get reproaches. We like to comment on everything from the bench at the entrance or through the window.