“Come on soon, otherwise we'll be late to the kindergarten again!” - begs the mother, and the baby continues to linger. This problem is familiar to many adults. Someone makes the children finish breakfast or dressing, pushing them with insulting words and even slaps. Others redo everything themselves, leaving alone a hoof. How to help a slow baby and an annoyed mom?
To find the right approach to the solution, you need to understand the reasons for this leisurelyness. And they are not always on the surface. The problem is most often seen by parents in preschool childhood, although the first signs can be traced already in infancy.
Such a feature can cause a lag in learning and the formation of skills, a low concentration of attention and distraction, a feeling of guilt due to regular comments and, as a result, neurosis. Therefore, the identification of the source of sluggishness should be entrusted to a neurologist, psychologist or pediatrician.
Where does slowness come from?
- Sometimes this happens against the background of a prolonged illness. After restoration and increase of immunity, the pace of activity of the child is restored.
- It can arise due to an organic pathology of the brain resulting from an unfavorable pregnancy, difficult birth or the birth of a premature baby.
- Often excessive “inhibition” is just a period of normal development. In the early years (from 1.5 to 3 years), imperfection of fine motor skills is characteristic of children. Their fingers can not cope with buttoning, tying shoelaces.
- Retraining left-handed people on right-handed people is also on the list of factors contributing to a slowdown in the flow of mental processes.
- Phlegmatic is a classic example of a hoof. He does not tolerate haste, judicious and thorough. He does not like innovations, chooses proven and familiar tricks. Wake-ups and fees are becoming a real challenge for adults.
- A decrease in overall activity is often associated with a stressful situation - moving, divorcing, moving to a new educational institution, and domestic conflicts. Children's psyche simply can not cope with increased stress.
- Slowness is another form of adult manipulation in a family with an authoritarian type of upbringing, stringent demands, strict penalties and continuous monitoring. In this way, the child secretly protests against numerous orders and orders.
Tips for slow-moving parents
So, in order to change the situation for the better, in some cases it is enough to establish relations between households, wait until he grows up, or conduct vitamin therapy to facilitate a speedy recovery. Now let's discuss what to do if the baby is leisurely by nature, and this is in no way connected with parenting.
What do we have to do?
- Get an hourglass that demonstrates how time is running out. Offer the child to dress or eat until the sand runs out. With the help of such a device, he will independently learn to monitor the speed of his actions and will try to finish all things faster.
- Sometimes a son or daughter falls into a stupor due to the difficulty of switching to another activity. Give them some time to prepare: “Play with the constructor for another five minutes, and then we'll have dinner and brush our teeth.” A warning will prepare them for the next task.
- Most kids feel calmer if they have a clear daily routine. It is useful for preschoolers not yet able to read to have a schedule with photos that will show the sequence of actions: washing, dressing, breakfast, etc. So you can significantly reduce the number of reminders, and the child will feel more confident.
- Develop mobility of the nervous system through daily work. This can be jogging, finger gymnastics, cycling, rope exercises. To increase the effect, switch from a slow rhythm to a fast rhythm.
- Pay special attention to the adaptation stages in educational institutions, because such children have a fear of the unknown. Be sure to tell teachers about the psychological qualities of the future pupil.
- Planning is one of the best methods to combat the slowness of the crumbs and their irritation. If the student’s morning toilet seems to take half a day, prepare his clothes in the evening and make sure his backpack is packed and waiting for the owner at the door. Reduce chaos and your emotional state will also bounce back.
- Set clear time limits for your student for a specific activity. For example: "Dima, you have 20 minutes to have lunch." After 15 minutes, restrainedly remind you that the meal will end soon.
- If the child is having difficulty at school, not having time to learn the learning material, you should help him at home. Disassemble and repeat everything that he goes through in the classroom. Better yet, go ahead with a few topics to keep up with the teacher’s thoughts.
- Constantly give slow-moving children unobtrusive support, showing genuine interest. They are often unsure of their own skills and abilities, and they also feel guilty about their slowness.
What can not be done?
- Do not reward offensive nicknames. The phrases “kopusha”, “tinker”, “send for death” hurt your child. Address him as if he was already doing almost everything on time (or, at least, trying).
- Never compare slow kids with their more active peers. Draw an analogy with their past results: “Now you eat much faster!”
- Refrain from participating in competitive games. Believe me, this will not bring the crumbs of luck, because he is painfully experiencing any failure.
- Firmly understand that sluggishness is not a fault, but a feature of a little man, so that shouts, let alone cuffs, will not accelerate his action.
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However, do not think that a leisurely child will grow up to be a failure. Remember about age-related compensation and that it is in your power to help him adapt to the frantic rhythm of the world around him. And psychologists argue that it is from phlegmatic crumbs most often obtained equanimous and purposeful people.
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