Many young mothers really want to return to those happy times when they lived in peace, without constant concern for their baby. What a sin to conceal, it is known that beloved children can easily “help” even an iron lady become a weak woman with a twitching eyelid and shaking hands. Every mother has her own set of desperate fears for her child. I am not an exception, therefore, I’ll tell you about the anxieties that I began to experience after the birth of my first child. This is the fear of the night, the fear of losing your child, the fear that the child will fall ill, the fear that the child will be injured, and after the appearance of the second child, there is a fear that the children will not love each other ...
Night time fear
I am the very mother who prefers sleeping together with the baby because of his breathing. The quietly snoozing little lump on my side saved me from the panic attacks that attacked me in the first months after the baby was born. I woke up in alarm at night and carefully listening to his breathing. It was very important for me to know that everything was in order with my child. This is not a joke to you, there were real panic attacks. I listened to the breath of my daughter until the age of two.
Fear of losing children
My girl was lost twice. Both times were terrible stress for me. When I arrived home, I peered at the mirror in search of gray hair. I experienced on myself that if the child is not in the immediate visibility, then the adrenaline level rises to a critical point, and you can run around all the surroundings in literally a minute. This is a real dope. However, at the same time, the ability to soberly assess the situation disappears completely, only fear and panic remain. So now, going out with a child, I watch vigilantly for his movements, with horror thinking about how you can simultaneously watch over two children.
Fear that children will fall ill
Colds, diarrhea, bronchitis are such trifles compared to the diagnoses that I imagine, and from which the heart breaks in place. I imagine my emotions, feelings, actions, if I heard about the onset of a serious illness of my crumbs, and I can not hold back tears. So I cough, upset stomach with optimism, hoping that only these diseases will be present in the life of my child.
Fear that the child will be injured
Fall from a swing at the playground, fall from a carousel, trampoline, slides in an amusement park - but you never know how a child can get injured. I’m even afraid that my child will fall on the stairs and roll down. At the same time, I perfectly understand that it is impossible to insure a little man from bruises, scratches, and bruises. I can not help myself - nerves.
Fear that children will not love each other
This anxiety appears in a family with two children. As a rule, a mother draws in her mind the image of an ideal relationship between her sister and brother. But reality constantly corrects it. Children often quarrel over toys, unwillingness to obey each other. You just need to understand that there is nothing wrong with that. Children are not required to correspond to the ideal picture drawn by us, being individuals with their own vision of the world and the situation in which they fall. I can only hope that in the future my children will not “dog” and will not write angry posts on social networks in the spirit of “We’ve been dog and dog all our life, he’s already got me”and they will be friends, love each other and will always be ready to help each other!
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Video: Fears of a young mother
Personally, I was afraid that my daughter would catch some infection. Soaps her toys after the street several times. But then I realized that I was just wringing myself and those around me with an obsessive phobia. My fear made everything worse.
It’s scary to let one child go out into the street, I think that he will be stolen by the authorities. I’m afraid that the children do not open the door of the house to strangers who introduce themselves as neighbors and bribe them with various tricks.
I had many fears, most of them did not pass. But my main fear was after the appearance of the second child, that the children would not love each other, that there would be constant competition, jealousy, the struggle for the love of parents. At first, the eldest really showed that she was better and tried to draw all attention to herself. But I showed her that the sister is small, defenseless and needs her help. Now the girls are inseparable, the best girlfriends.