How often do we hear from mothers the phrase “I do not have time, I have a child”, “I have no time for anything.” Is this really true? In this article, we will figure out how to make a difference and make time our best friend!
It's amazing that people survived, this is truly a miracle :). Indeed, if you listen to people who were lucky to become a parent, you can hear about their sad fate - lack of sleep, lack of time, lack of opportunity to do at least some business (not to mention a hobby). And when the child grows up, they complain about the ingratitude of the children and the inability to manage them. Is everything really that bad? Let’s try to find a way out, so that a feeling of disappointment due to lack of time has passed out of your life - be it real or fictitious.
1. Appreciate your role
Sometimes we exaggerate and emotionally talk about events, feelings that shocked us. Even if the experience is not so significant, we still exaggerate and hyperbolize for the full sensation. This is not self-deception and not a desire to impress. In human psychology, this is a normal occurrence. The same goes for lack of time. Sometimes we talk about how difficult it is for a child to make people around us appreciate us more.
But what seems valuable to you may not produce any reaction to another person. All people have different problems and values, so it is important that you yourself soberly evaluate what you do. Do not compare yourself with other mothers who “do a lot”. Some people can do one thing, and some are comfortable with many responsibilities.
2. Admit that you are tired
The human body has limits, and you are no exception. Allow yourself to be tired, this is natural, because having gained strength after rest you will be much more productive in fulfilling your duties. A tired person will spend at least two times more time doing basic things. Do not try to be an omnipotent super mom, allow yourself to be an ordinary person.
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3. It is not necessary to be perfect in everything
When you just begin your maternity journey, you want to be an ideal mom and mistress, and also manage to be a business woman and an ideal wife. It seems so easy at first, but with time the lack of time will make itself felt. After all, doing everything perfectly is not entirely possible. Do not try to prove something to yourself. Reduce the list of your responsibilities, or reduce the bar requirements for their implementation.
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4. Revaluation of values
Are you used to the fact that dirty dishes never accumulate in the sink and are proud of impeccably ironed bed linen? It is certainly commendable and admirable. But maybe this is not as important as it seems, and there are more pressing matters. Indeed, in your new life with a small child, these values can become time captors. Estimate how much time it takes for your household duties, try to abandon some of them for a while.
Perhaps now you need to take time for walks, going to the cinema with your husband, reading interesting literature. In a house with children, achieving an ideal order for more than 5 minutes is unrealistic. Maybe you should relax and not spend so much effort on your usual affairs? After all, you will need strength to communicate with a child, a husband. Pay attention to your parents.
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5. No need to complain
Do you know who likes to complain about his life? Grandmothers on a bench near the entrance, who only do this all day and wash all the bones in the district. True, such behavior looks absurd from the side? And what are you better when you start complaining about your difficult parental life? Such thinking only takes away strength and positive energy, but does not help to keep up with everything.
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6. Appreciate yourself, but do not cultivate
Children cannot be perfect, like adults. Children are sick, they don’t always obey you, indulge, argue, arrange tantrums. From the side it seems that other people's children are more calm, complaisant. But you don’t know what is happening at home in other families? Hence the conclusion that “working as a mother” is always difficult, but quite natural. Appreciate what you are doing (see point 1), but do not elevate your role as a mother to the cult. After all, children are wonderful.
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Yes, usually the first 3 years with a child is tight, but after that everything is already fine. Unless of course it is correct to educate and not pamper. When my baby turned 3 years old, I felt that there was more time. The main thing is to survive this time.