I am a happy mom. Well, how happy? More recently, from the abundance of affairs, steam came from my ears. In the mornings, I woke up already tired, and there was absolutely no time for myself. Then she revised her principle of life, made up 5 rules of my personal effectiveness. Now it has become much easier for me.
I have four children, a brazen cat, a good husband and a dog. Bonus - three jobs with irregular schedule. And the same 24 hours a day that all around. How to do everything? Write it down.
1. I live at my own pace and solve problems as they become available
I do not panic. If I don’t have time, it’s not scary. In the morning, in my head I make a list of what needs to be done. And just sequentially solve these problems, starting from the most urgent.
There was a problem - I decide. In small steps, I move from point to point, being here and now. If you do better - okay, well done. But I live in my rhythm.
2. Tight schedule
I’m crazy if I don’t comply. My children live with me under a very strict regime. Older children are teenagers, so they have an individual schedule, plus they have household chores, they go to the store and take out the trash. We all wake up together and go in for sports on a schedule - each his own. When I take the children to the sections, I have time for work, and the youngest son has a quiet hour. After him, with the younger ones, I set the table, walk the dog, feed the pets.
On holidays, the schedule shifts a little, but the framework remains. This mode is convenient for me and my family. And at the same time there is time to play and talk with each of the children, even if it is 30 minutes a day.
3. Transfer of tasks
I am not ashamed of delegation. A lot of housework is done by older children. On weekends, they go to stores where they buy goods on a list or cook. The list, by the way, we also make together. Children wash the dishes and the floor. A 15-year-old daughter bakes pies perfectly, and she really likes it. So I combine business with pleasure.
Yes, I know how to cook, buy food and clean. But there is a limited list of tasks that only I can and can do: breastfeed, love children and write articles. Other tasks may well be solved by others.
4. I express my requests directly
Yes, it is unbearably difficult to speak directly about your desires, and not in the form of hints or expressive views. Especially for us girls. But let's take as a rule, the axiom, the immutable truth: we must speak in words.What I mean? If I need something from my husband or children, I tell them so. If I don’t like something, I tell them about it directly in the forehead. And at the same time I accept the fact that after what is said, sometimes I need to remind the request. Otherwise, magic will not work. When reminding, I inform you of a causal relationship: the consequences that are coming if the husband or child does not fulfill the request.
Yes, children are not always willing to do housework. They argue and sometimes go on strike. But this is how children get new skills, and I get extra time for work, sleep, and personal care. Getting accustomed to work from childhood is normal. But an eternally furious and tired mother is a disaster.
5. Fractional sleep
It turned out that sleeping fractionally is very convenient. While my son sleeps in the afternoon for a couple of hours, I also take a nap for half an hour. After I wake up, I can write a couple of articles in silence. Or enhance the picture with beads. Or design custom business cards for another project. This is my time to work or do housework.
The main thing is for the children to understand that the sleeping mother is inviolability. In general, at such a rhythm, about 7-8 hours of sleep come out in parts, which is very not bad. Of course, from time to time we slide into a mess, but in general, fractional sleep significantly simplifies life.
Sometimes it seems to me that I did not have time at all. But I'm a man, that's fine. And sometimes I just need to spend an hour in silence, get a bath and relax. Even if life is like a tornado, you need to understand that mom is also a person and not demand feats from herself.
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