1. Child safety
Usually mothers are distinguished by increased anxiety and caution. The fathers believe that he and the child are to try the world and themselves for strength. Let it fall while it is small, while the bones are soft - the body is learning, do not worry. And the mother’s heart sank when the missus puts the child on his shoulders and rushes about him around the apartment. Women have hundreds of stories about how frivolous fathers crippled a poor child. It’s a pity for Dad to listen to this. You might think he is a bad parent and loves the baby less than you. We advise you to remember not scary stories, but videos on the Internet about how cool fathers spend time with their children.
2. TV
Let's not dissemble, cartoons are a wonderful way to devote at least 10 minutes to ourselves, go to the shower, eat, talk on the phone. But only 10, the responsible mother will choke in guilt if she leaves the child with a zombie for an hour. Papa with excitement will revise with his child "Cars", "Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles" and "Finding Nemo." He’ll also buy popcorn. However, this is the next point of our program.
3. Harmful food
Yes, it is popcorn, pizza, hot dogs, hamburgers and other fast food - a favorite children's food. Let mother chew her salad leaf, and the child needs something tasty and cool. When the mother begins to spread about the dangers of fried and breaded, advocating steam cutlets, the father only twists and ironizes - living in general is harmful.
But the hostess cooks at home, and still the child will eat what she has cooked. But dad, bringing his daughter or son "to the light", does not see the crime of gluttony on the occasion. So every trip to the circus or cinema, every walk with dad turn into a "feast of the stomach."
4. Toys
Mommy buys a lot of cute little things: clothing collections for countless bobbies and Barbie, plastic ninja turtles, dinosaurs. Father disapprovingly looks at such a squander. He believes that instead of a garage of low-quality Chinese cars, it is better to buy one solid radio-controlled model. Reproaching mom for extravagance, dad completely loses his head at the sight of a large car, which he could fit into himself if he wanted to. Who is the biggest spender as a result? Spouses will argue about this hoarsely.
5. Additional classes
Many boys in childhood experienced the tyranny of mothers who certainly wanted to learn their music, dance or painting.And the guy wanted to drive the puck. And vice versa: my daughter dreamed of singing and drawing, and dad told me to go to accountants.
In a young family, each brings his own experience and unfulfilled dreams. Dad writes his son in judo, and you are swooning: you have such a gentle boy! But dad’s knees can bend when he’s billed for his daughter’s ballroom outfit. Honey, wasn’t it easier to give the girl to the drawing club? If only someone would have guessed to ask the child himself. And away we go ...
6. Order and discipline
It is the mothers who sit with the children and know that the daily routine makes life much easier: the child eats with appetite, falls asleep on time and is less capricious. Dads prefer spontaneity. He wanted to go to bed with his son before going to bed, which he missed while he was at work all day, and your nagging that the child is now overexcited and will not fall asleep for a long time does not bother him.
Dad can be understood - he is at work all day, he loves his baby. You will feel like an evil vixen twice. First you tried to interrupt their "funny dances", then at night, when dad snores peacefully, and you can not calm a child whose regime has finally gone astray.
7. Grandmother next to grandfather
A rare man will find fault with your mother’s methods in raising a child, but the actions of mother-in-law often cause not the most encouraging emotions - fed a sweet before dinner, too wrapped before a walk, if at all went for this walk, and so on. As a result, you begin to complain to your beloved mother about his mother, and he is a mother, which is logical, to defend and justify, to prove that she is the same grandmother as your mother, and has the right to communicate with the baby as he wants and how much he wants.
So - do not complain to her husband about the mother-in-law. Agree with the grandmother herself. Discuss all the subtleties of the mode and menu as delicately as possible, get her to follow the rules of your young family in communicating with the child. She will still violate the "charter." But psychologists say that is not so scary. Experience with a “liberal” grandmother is also useful for the baby. In the end, she somehow raised your husband, and how cool he turned out, that means that he won’t harm his grandson either.
