Three mothers gathered with their children in the playground. One took and threw sand into the eyes of the other two. His mother says: “I have a child - indigo! He needs to develop, he is experimenting. ". The second child took all the toys for himself and does not share. His mother explains: “I have a highly sensitive child, he, if he already took in his hands molds and dustpan for sand, can’t part with them, it’s hard for him”. And the third child got up and beat “sandbox friends”. The third mother suppresses the indignation of other mothers: “I have a hyperactive child. He needs to splash out his energy. ”. Indigo, highly sensitive, hyperactive. What are the terms, what kind of children?
- I have a child - indigo!
- I have a child - highly sensitive!
- I have a hyperactive child!
Parents pronouncing such phrases mean the following:
- the child is normal, although not the same as everyone else;
- nothing can be done about it - he was born that way.
And how are things really?
Indigo Aura
"Indigo children". The concept appeared with the light hand of psychic Nancy Ann Tapp in 1960. And much later, in 1982, her book “Understanding Your Life with the Color” became very popular. And the parents breathed a sigh of relief, it turned out that 70% of children under 10 years old have an aura of indigo color, which means special mental and psychological features. And then it fades away ...
Indigo children:
- restless and very energetic;
- do not recognize authorities;
- choose individual work;
- have the gift of telepathy;
- with a high level of creative and mental abilities, but in order to reach their potential, they need the assistance of adults;
- love to gain knowledge by experience;
- Immune to traditional methods of education;
- have difficulty communicating with peers;
- at the slightest misunderstanding, they become locked in themselves;
- impulsive, their mood changes every second and depends on trifles;
- have a sense of increased social injustice;
- have a keen intuition, are able to quickly learn new knowledge.
How to handle an indigo baby? Develop his talents. Provide a free choice of actions, and at the same time, learn to say “no” correctly. Be close (take care, attract the right teachers).
Indigo children were considered almost a new race of people, our future, etc. But more than thirty years have passed. They grew up and nothing new happened. Films were made about them, articles and books were written. But there is still no scientific confirmation of the phenomenon. Now the interest in indigo children is almost lost. But other children, highly sensitive ones, come to the fore.
Feelings are sharpened to the limit
In 2013, the book “Highly Sensitive Child” by Helen Ayron became popular in our country.The author is a psychologist with great experience, defines the concept itself and opens its eyes to parents on the rules for dealing with their own child. There are many gratitude reviews, mothers and fathers took this book with a bang. Why so?
Helen Ayron believes that highly sensitive children (15-20% of them) have the gift to receive more information from the outside world than their peers.
Highly sensitive children:
- with caution to others;
- hypersensitive to pain;
- often get sick;
- weather sensitive (react to changes in weather and climate);
- insightful, can surprise with predictions that come true;
- keenly perceive social injustice;
- very irritable (unsuitable clothes, loud noises, stuffy room, noise, sudden event can make them crazy);
- get tired quickly;
- they are afraid of everything new - trips, food ... especially do not like surprises;
- they carefully consider a new type of activity, and therefore they are often considered slow-witted and incapable; however, if you deal with them gently and regularly, they show high abilities in almost all areas, use complex words, think “in an adult way”;
- have increased demands on themselves and after the first failure they refuse to do business, therefore it is important to be close, to guide and support;
- almost have no friends, since friends can cross the boundaries of the child’s sensitivity and be unpleasant to him.
What to do if you have a highly sensitive child?
- Always support him, emphasize the merits, spend more time with him;
- Respect his feelings and personal territory, speak calmly and benevolently;
- Learn to understand other people and perceive failure philosophically;
- Provide your child with a comfortable existence.
No, this is not an active child, but hyperactive!
Who is a hyperactive child and how to live with him? The term hyperactivity seems to be quite a scientific term. Not. This is also just a definition of the behavior of the child.
Hyperactive children:
- are ahead in the development of their peers;
- have a sharp mind and a tenacious memory;
- very mobile;
- they get tired quickly and at the same time do not rest, like the rest, but begin to move even more, fall into hysteria and in every possible way draw attention to themselves;
- quickly become hungry - this is normal with such activity;
- cannot tolerate loud sounds, cannot be in a stuffy room;
- experiencing a huge gamut of feelings;
- instantly change the mood, which depends on the smallest nuances;
- impressionable;
- wary of everything new;
- need increased attention of adults.
How to behave with a hyperactive child? Remove all irritants, establish contact. Define the rules of behavior understandable for the child and do not change them. Give specific simple assignments and praise for their implementation. Help your baby keep his daily routine. Praise for all that is good, and that which does not work out, discuss calmly. Develop the strengths of the baby. Direct energy in the right direction.
Do not label, but act!
You can consider the child as anything you like, but know that you definitely need to show it to a neuropsychiatrist, if you have:
- difficulties in communicating with peers (difficulties in socialization);
- problems with the assimilation of school material (the postulate that the child is not understood by the teacher is not accepted. In this case, you must choose the right educational institution for the child and do everything to ensure that he receives a good education);
- poor appetite;
- frequent diseases (every month and more often);
- increased motor activity;
- causeless outbursts of aggression and anger.
Doctors believe thatall children need increased attention from their parents. But this is not the kind of attention when a child is dragged through developmental activities and bought sweets with things. Attention is the time spent together, adequate communication and timely assistance to resolve conflict situations and socialize the child.
But how to show your child your love, care and attention? “I think of you, you are important to me, I love you, you are the best in the world!” When love overflows, we share it easily and with pleasure!
If your fantasy ends with verbal confessions, we give another 20 ways to show your baby that you love him! Some, probably, have been practicing for a long time and often, something will become new!
Hyperactivity is the scourge of our time. It seems to me that it is she who entails the indigo phenomenon. Today's children, at their young age, manage to gain so much skills, experience, understanding and knowledge that they seem to us something transcendental.
After reading the descriptions, I was finally convinced that my daughter is a hyperactive child, coincides on almost all counts. Interestingly, is it for life or will it pass when it grows up?