The number of children with nervous diseases is increasing every year. According to experts, among younger students, only less than half are mentally healthy. The causes of this phenomenon are increasingly becoming family problems. In this article, we’ll show you how to grow a neurotic from an ordinary child, however, we hope that with your child you will adhere to exactly the opposite principles of education.
Perhaps, in any psychological book you can find numerous tips on how to properly monitor children. This time we will do the opposite and talk about how to behave with kids under no condition. Unless, of course, you want them to have persistent neurotic disorders.
- Every time emphasize that you are not interested in the offspring himself, but only his achievements: high marks, sports success, praise of other people. Get your associates: educators who demonstrate his worthlessness in public, relatives expressing surprise at his weak knowledge. Do not forget that the opinions of others are extremely important to you.
- Neurotics is easier to educate by common efforts. Of course, one mother is able to scold and praise the child at the same time, but with her father it is much easier to do. In addition, if children do not see your quarrels and scandals every day, how can they build the “right” relationship in the family, at work,
in prison, Eventually. In case of your divorce, repeat that they have a bad heredity. - If the child is often ridiculed, then he will grow up timid, which means they will be spared rather than offended. Agree, it’s funny when “ears are like Cheburashka’s”, “nose is like old woman’s Shapoklyak”. And the phrase "you're kind of fat," said to a teenage girl, of course, will send her to a model school and lead, if not to fame, then to anorexia.
- Never explain anything, guided by the following rules: "small, so that he will not understand" and "grow up - he will guess." Even a two-year-old peanut is able to understand “simple and accurate” formulations: “behave yourself”, “do the right thing” and “don't be a fool”. But in the future you will be able to pin up a teenager by the fact that he does not understand basic things.
- Slay with baikals, evil cops, gray tops that will drag you into the unknown. By the age of five, monsters in a dark room and under the bed will be added to this fun company. Sincerely have fun over phobias and cheer up with the words “don't be a coward”, “stop roaring”.
- Tell us that there are only scoundrels and bastards around. A daughter should learn from an early age that all young people are scum (the best example is her bad father), and her son that all girls are bitch. Perhaps the child will have problems with his personal life, but he will not leave your custody. (How to teach a child to talk with strangers on the street)
- Punish for any wrongdoing and make you ask for forgiveness. Do not be afraid to put in a corner, lock in a closet, flog with an officer belt, do not talk for days, threaten to "give it to someone else’s uncle." The kid needs to wonder with awe what you will come up with for a more serious misconduct. In this way you will teach him that “initiative is punishable” and repulse the desire “to do something wrong.”
- Ask to trust you, and after learning the necessary information, punish. Constantly conduct searches and interrogations, read e-mail and correspondence on social networks. Remember that children are insidious and do everything to spite parents. Optimal phrases: “tell the truth, and I will not punish you,” “why are you doing this,” “who taught you.”
- Your offspring does not fantasize, but purposefully deceives! It is in your power to teach him to lie more sophisticatedly. Key suggestions will help him in this: “you're lying,” “think, I don’t recognize your lie”, “God, how can you invent such a thing?” For every case of lies (even if unproven), inevitable retribution follows.
- Impose gender roles from young nails: the boy does not shed tears, does not take offense, is not afraid of anything, and the girl does not run on breaks, is always modest and quiet. Let the son immediately learn to hide his emotions, and then to tear them off from others. My daughter polishes seduction skills in advance to get what she wants.
- Deprive children of choice and impose their own opinions. Why would they be tormented and go the unpaved path? Your baby must reach the heights that his parents could not reach, and must not repeat his mother's or father's mistakes.
- Be sure to take out your bad mood and negative emotions on it. Agree that it’s more convenient and safer. And when mom feels better and a cheerful mood returns to her, the child will also feel happier.
- At some point, be sure to contact a neurologist or psychiatrist to "provide yourself with an alibi." The teenager already needs to understand that not everything is okay with him: you take care of his life as much as you can, and he does not appreciate it. Father and mother do not need to change anything in relations with children, because offspring are always to blame!
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If you follow the above tips, then with absolute probability raise a neurotic. Whether he will be grateful to you is unknown, but psychologists will thank you for new clients with fears, depression and self-doubt. But whether you want to see your child among them is up to you.
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