5 things to think about before planning a child

A couple who has decided to become happy parents should approach this responsibly. The status of parents is not only a joy, but also certain difficulties. Therefore, it is important not only to undergo a physical examination and evaluate your physical readiness, but also to find out your own motives, make an assessment of your relationship and financial situation.

1. Willingness

Ask yourself the question: “are we ready to become parents?” Because wanting a child and being ready for it are two different things. May the future mother and father give themselves an honest answer. You must be aware that a child is not just a wonderful baby, so similar to you, he is a small person who requires great physical and emotional strength. In addition to boundless love and tenderness, you have to feel tired, lack of sleep, irritation. Relationships with the baby are not like adult relationships, because at first you do not get anything in return. Think about whether you are capable of all this morally, whether, against all odds, you can be happy and not get depressed.

Your emotional readiness is the key to successful psychological development of crumbs.

2. Living space

Evaluate if the place where you live is suitable for living with a child. Clearly determine if you live with your parents or other relatives, how the appearance of the baby will affect your relationship and life in general. Being on maternity leave is a permanent stay at home, with the exception of walks and joint trips. If you have your own, but very small living space, think about whether you can all live comfortably together here, or whether you should think about expanding, remodeling the apartment, and repairing it. Living in a rented apartment can become problematic in terms of emergency eviction, so you should discuss everything with the landlord in advance and conclude an appropriate agreement.

3. Financial situation

Of course, you need to solve financial issues when planning a pregnancy. Weigh your position well. Do you have enough money to provide yourself and your child with everything you need. You should not rely on temporary earnings and part-time jobs, as well as on the help of relatives. In this matter, you now need stability. Assess the time of maternity leave and the possibility of placing a child in kindergarten. Calculate your employer benefits. If, in order to buy diapers for a child, dad will have to do three jobs, or you decide to call your grandmother for help to get to work yourself, then think carefully. Solving financial issues is best at the planning stage.

4. Who will help

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Also evaluate the aspect of which relatives or other close people will be able to help you on maternity leave.While the father is at work during the day, the mother may well need to leave the house, go to the clinic, go to work, etc. If you have close caring relatives who are happy to accept crumbs, great. If not, then consider whether you are ready to be attached to the baby all the time, without allocating time for yourself. The question of help is not fundamental, but, nevertheless, it is worth pondering over it. Any help to a young mother is invaluable. If not, just be prepared for difficulties that, although temporary, are able to bring to tears even the most stress-resistant woman.

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5. What is the father of the partner

A woman in constant relationships, of course, thinks about how much her partner can become a good father. Find out how ready he is to become a parent (How to find out if your husband wants a baby) Do not think that a child will help you strengthen your relationship, or that you must have a child after marriage. Peacefully discuss all issues together, share concerns and hopes. Discuss all of the above aspects together.

Pay attention to how your other half behaves with the children of friends, what emotions the man experiences. Evaluate your man from the point of view of his psychological readiness, because a “big child”, endlessly playing computer games and dreaming of a radio-controlled helicopter, may still not be emotionally ready for fatherhood.

Life is sometimes very unpredictable; it is capable of changing both for the better and for the worse. But a responsible couple should at least at the initial stages of family planning be aware of what they will face and how to avoid difficulties.

Children are happiness, but nobody wants to give up happiness! One day you will think how we all lived without this little miracle.

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