This important day has come: your friends have a baby. Recognize the fact that one day you will need to visit the young family where the child appeared (perhaps even today). Following simple recommendations, you will do everything right and you can not only communicate with young mom and dad, but also provide them with all possible assistance and share the common joy of a new life.
Adapt to the routine of a young family's day
Before you come, be sure to discuss your visit time with friends. Come strictly at the appointed time. Believe me, you will not be assigned a time by chance. Do not linger and do not come earlier. Most likely, friends will invite you exactly at the time when the baby will sleep. Therefore, if you come later or earlier, it can be great to upset your friends, if not very furious. You also need not worry about whether you will see a baby. Kids do not sleep for a long time, so you will definitely have time to meet a new member of the family.
Do not pick up the child without permission
Even if you already have a child or several children, do not be clever in various matters of raising children. No need to teach parents: how to hold the head, how to lay or swaddle the baby. You can love newborns madly, but try to control yourself while visiting. Do not be offended if your parents do not let you hold the baby. It is natural that in the first months of a child’s life, mom and dad do not want to let him out of his arms or share with someone else. Thus, they get used to their child and establish a very important relationship with him.
No need to bring gifts
Of course, gifts on this occasion should be. But most likely you do not know what the baby already has and what is not. Do not waste your money in vain on a 10 rattle or 20 vest. But it is better if it is a certificate for a certain amount for the purchase of children's goods in a proven and high-quality store. You will do a great service to your loved ones if this certificate can be used through the online store. This is a quick and convenient way for young parents with a constant lack of time.Thus, you can give something to the crumbs, and adults will decide what exactly it will be. They always know better.
Do not bring alcohol
Most likely, a young mother breastfeeds her baby, because alcohol is now banned for her. Your girlfriend will not be able to keep you company in the near future. Of course, a newly made father and you can afford alcohol, but it will be completely dishonest in this situation. The time will come when you can all together again enjoy a glass of wine at dinner and relax. And indeed, everything should be adequate and sober, as the newborn is in the house.
Bring products
Do not ask what products to buy on the way to visit. Out of politeness, you may be asked to grab some sweet tea. Do not listen to your friends - bring ALL! A newly made mom is not at all ready to cook 10 different dishes for guests. It will be great if you can buy ready-made food in a safe place so as not to create unnecessary fuss in the kitchen with loved ones. After all, free time (while the baby is sleeping) will be much more pleasant to spend on emotional communication than on the process of cooking. And if you take food with a margin (food that can be stored for a long time), then young parents will be grateful to you doubly. Just hide the food in the refrigerator, and the next day it will be like a find!
Know how to listen
It may seem to you that your friends are out of control - because they only talk about the newborn. Be patient - this phenomenon is temporary. Your friends are not ready to discuss a new film or the details of someone’s hectic life. Try to understand your loved ones - just recently, a completely new person appeared in their life, whom they made together in a fit of the strongest feelings. If you have any questions regarding childbirth and the postpartum period, if you are interested in the question of the mystery of the appearance of a new life, now is the best time to find out about it. Right now, your friends are as open as possible to conversations on similar topics and are ready to share all the important details.
Offer your friends home help
If these are really your close people, then you can offer your help with the housework: hang out the laundry, wash the dishes. Even ten minutes of your time will greatly facilitate the task of young parents - it’s still hard for them to get used to and get used to the new regime. Ask and offer help. If young parents just need to talk, talk with a real, living adult, become one: don’t rush, do not fuss, don’t show pictures of your cats, don’t burden your friends with your “stories” until you are asked about it.
Tune in for a long walk
It will be good if before a visit to friends you find out if they are going to go for a walk. In any case, be prepared for such a turn of events and in no case do not refuse relatives. It is important for the baby to be more likely to be in the fresh air, despite the weather conditions. Therefore, it will be right for you to stock up on comfortable and warm things. Even if you usually do not freeze and calmly walk in the fall in light clothing - remember that walks with a stroller are very leisurely, and off-season weather is extremely unpredictable. You will be much more comfortable enjoying a walk with your friends in a warm coat and gloves.
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I would never have thought that you could give a certificate. I would just bring a gift or money to congratulate friends on the birth of a child. Somehow it was usually customary, and there wasn’t enough imagination for something else.
Of course, going to visit friends who have become parents is very interesting, because they are so emotional, impressionable, and at the same time tired because a newborn child requires a lot of attention. Therefore, it is better to plan everything in advance.
An interesting idea with a gift certificate. I somehow didn’t think of it myself) Usually you’re racking your brains on what to give, because the costumes and toys have probably already been purchased, and in quantities larger than necessary))
To each time and their gifts: when it was necessary to get everything out, they rejoiced at a beautiful suit. And now, of course, the certificate will be a good gift. Good advice on help, as it is important, is known only to a young mother.